truth_seeker Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Success stories? Horror stories? Any lessons learned? OLD (Match, POF, OKC) Out of all three, I met a decent girl on POF. She was nice, didn't play games, but when she revealed her past (being raped and abused) I couldn't deal with that and told her so. Match was a disaster. Never encountered so many liars and unstable crazies in my life! OKC was okay. At least people responded to messages, but most of them turned out to be flakes. Overall, OLD sucked. I just feel it's a cesspool of jaded, bitter people with mental issues and sneaky agenda's. Speed Dating / Single Events Yay & Nay on this venture. Went to 2 of them and while I met some interesting women, there's this weird vibe at these events. I felt like people go in with a bad attitude that they can't meet anyone. It's like there's this common theme with these people: "It's you not me." Aside from that, it also felt like I was at a job fair passing my resume around. Social Circle Set Ups / Bars I've had more success here than anywhere else. Being introduced through mutual friends or striking up a conversation with someone who catches your eye, works the best. Even though I'm still single, I felt more potential going this route than any other. Lessons Learned: *Going into the New Year, I'm staying away from OLD and any other kind of dating services. *Women are just as bad as men. The game-playing and mind-f-cking is off the charts. *Don't force a connection with someone. If it's there, you will know. If it's not, don't get upset, let it go and move on. *Always believe, not matter how lonely you are, there is someone out there for you.
MrCastle Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Social Circle Set Ups / Bars I've had more success here than anywhere else. Being introduced through mutual friends or striking up a conversation with someone who catches your eye, works the best. Even though I'm still single, I felt more potential going this route than any other. Interesting...
NiceGuyDTW Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Success stories? Horror stories? Any lessons learned? OLD (Match, POF, OKC) Out of all three, I met a decent girl on POF. She was nice, didn't play games, but when she revealed her past (being raped and abused) I couldn't deal with that and told her so. Match was a disaster. Never encountered so many liars and unstable crazies in my life! OKC was okay. At least people responded to messages, but most of them turned out to be flakes. Overall, OLD sucked. I just feel it's a cesspool of jaded, bitter people with mental issues and sneaky agenda's. Speed Dating / Single Events Yay & Nay on this venture. Went to 2 of them and while I met some interesting women, there's this weird vibe at these events. I felt like people go in with a bad attitude that they can't meet anyone. It's like there's this common theme with these people: "It's you not me." Aside from that, it also felt like I was at a job fair passing my resume around. Social Circle Set Ups / Bars I've had more success here than anywhere else. Being introduced through mutual friends or striking up a conversation with someone who catches your eye, works the best. Even though I'm still single, I felt more potential going this route than any other. Lessons Learned: *Going into the New Year, I'm staying away from OLD and any other kind of dating services. *Women are just as bad as men. The game-playing and mind-f-cking is off the charts. *Don't force a connection with someone. If it's there, you will know. If it's not, don't get upset, let it go and move on. *Always believe, not matter how lonely you are, there is someone out there for you. OLD...I agree with you for the most part. I think OLD has a lot of quantity, but quality is low. And by quality, I mean a decent person who one would have a chance at a real relationship. I think my New Years resolution is to date the old fashioned way. Through friends or just approach someone I think is interesting. I'm betting my success will be as good and probably better than OLD.
soccerrprp Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 No other real option for me, but OLD. Too busy with kids and et. al to go out and do it the old-fashioned way. I've had some success OLD and have a few friends from it, but nothing solid yet. I have three potentials after the holiday, but not holding my breath. Yup, a lot too many damaged people out there...but, there are a few that are solid, just wrong time and not quite compatible. I think OKCupid is the least appealing based on my experience. What about eHarmony? I have had success there. After my subscription expires in a couple of months, taking a very long break from dating. Online that is.... Good luck all.
Author truth_seeker Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 I think OLD has a lot of quantity, but quality is low. And by quality, I mean a decent person who one would have a chance at a real relationship. Agreed. Wholeheartedly.
NiceGuyDTW Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 No other real option for me, but OLD. Too busy with kids and et. al to go out and do it the old-fashioned way. I've had some success OLD and have a few friends from it, but nothing solid yet. I have three potentials after the holiday, but not holding my breath. Yup, a lot too many damaged people out there...but, there are a few that are solid, just wrong time and not quite compatible. I think OKCupid is the least appealing based on my experience. What about eHarmony? I have had success there. After my subscription expires in a couple of months, taking a very long break from dating. Online that is.... Good luck all. So if you're so busy to find someone the old fashioned way. Then when you do find someone how will you make time for them to date? Just wondering because this is the classic excuse people make for getting online.
yasun Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I've created a few profiles on OKCupid the past few years (every once in awhile when I forgot my old one). Here's my take on it. I've never, not once, found somebody on there that I'd actually want to be my girlfriend. Despite this fact, I have messaged several (including many that were way below my standard) just to see if I could arrange some quick one-night-stand. (I am busy and don't want to waste my time, thus I will give up rather easily if they don't reply or make it hard on me) I've gotten some interest on there, but frankly, I think the idea of online dating is terrible. Women are emotional and online dating venues just don't spark that emotion. This is why relative 3's (sometimes) won't even give you the time of day. For this reason, I've found them a waste of time. Best to do this stuff in real life.
mn311601 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Same as any other year, no dates at all. Never been a date.
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