MoonSiren Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I been dating this guy for about a month now and we recently decided to be in a relationship. Last night as he drove me home he started talking about future marriage plans involving me all of a sudden. He really seemed like he thought of everything like retirement plans and money issues. My mouth dropped open as I listened. I'm noooo where near that point yet, just wanting to take things slow and have fun. I never had a boyfriend before, mind you. I was honest and said I wasn't thinking that far along yet and I could tell it disappointed him. Is this a red flag do you think?
BenH1000 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Huge red flag. After a month you say? What has your first month been like? What kinds of things have you two been doing? Are you his first girlfriend? 1
TaraMaiden Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 My H apparently knew days into our relationship that I was whom he wanted, for the long run. but yeah, it does help to be on the same page, I guess.... If this is a shock to you, he might be a clingy/possessive type. my H was very relaxed about it, but he made his thoughts quite clear. And here we are, 8 years later....
Treasa Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 This is the same kind of guy who will likely tell you in six months that he's not ready for a relationship and that you rushed him. Get away get away!! Or at least tell him to pull on the reins a bit and relax. 1
Author MoonSiren Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 Huge red flag. After a month you say? What has your first month been like? What kinds of things have you two been doing? Are you his first girlfriend? It's been really good with no arguments at all. Normal stuff like going to the movies, out to restaurants, etc.. Yes I am his first girlfriend. I did feel very weirded out.
Axee Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 If a guy ignores you, its a red flag If a guy wants to get committed to you its a red flag. No matter what a genuine guy does its a red flag.Sad Looks to me you have commitment issues. Read through some other posts here and see how guys string along girls.He may just be a bit emotional about you,,, Dont take it so badly..
TheZebra Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 There's a difference between wanting committment and talking about marriage in less than a month. A guy ignoring you is like freezing water - you want to avoid it. A guy talking about marriage and kids before you even know each other's favorite color is skin to boiling water - which you also want to avoid. There's nothing wrong with wanting something in between... 1
Divasu Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Sometimes you meet someone and become a little overzealous, it happens... I think it can be construed as a 'red flag' if said person has a history of short lived relationships. I think it can also be construed as a 'red flag' if said person has a history of feeling that way/saying it to every person he/she meets after a short time. Unfortunately, you have know way of knowing this UNLESS you've both discussed your past (less all the gory details, naturally). 1
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