Eternal Sunshine Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 He totally blew OP off, and he knew he had to nail down the plans. Men lead in early dating. She never said she is not available to go on a date, in fact she asked him about it twice and he was wishy/washy, deliberately refusing to commit. OP, if this man liked you, he would be chasing you down to firm up the plans. He is lukewarm at best. All the excuses in this thread are beyond ridiculous.
Author lulzatyourface Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 (edited) Normally, I would agree and say that I'm overreacting, and/or that I'm crazy. (Ahaha, it happens.) But he has known about this date for THREE WEEKS, and has confirmed it five times. It was originally going to be the date of our first "official" date before he spontaneously decided to have it right before break, while we were still at our colleges. The first time was when we admitted to liking each other, and decided to have a first date on the 26th. We even made tentative plans to meet each other half way, since we live 30-50 minutes apart. The second time he confirmed it was at the end of our first date, when he said, "I just wanted to confirm that I will see you the 26th." And I agreed to that. The third time was the night after our first date, when he texted me that our date was nice and that he definitely wanted to see me again on the 26th. The fourth time was the 16th, when I asked him if he was busy on the 19th. He said, "I am, but the 26th still works." The fifth time was Saturday night, when I texted him, "Wednesday still good for you?" And he responded, "Oh yeah, it's still good with me. Barring some unforeseen circumstance, of course." And then I talked about what we should do, future plans, etc. I just don't get how a guy could "forget" about a date that he was once literally counting down the days for AND confirmed FIVE times. Sure, I could have texted him, but I didn't want to have to keep reminding him that he was supposed to go on a date with me. I wanted to be his girlfriend, not his mother. Edited December 28, 2012 by lulzatyourface
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 So, what do you think happened? Pretty much the same thing that happens when you flat out reject a guy you have no interest in. He just wasn't that into it, but thought he might give it a twirl and was sweet talking you. He might have decided to give you a chance if you hadn't come off really badly. If you like him a lot, then chase. There's men like that out there. Players we call 'em. There's tons of guys that aren't. Search your annals and the light above your head will go off.
Author lulzatyourface Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 Just as an end to this saga, I ended up sending him this text early Friday morning: "Hi. Sorry, I was out all day yesterday and fell asleep early. I was disappointed because we had plans for the 26th that we confirmed at least five times. But after Saturday night, you never mentioned them again, so we never followed through with them. I felt like I was being blown off on Wednesday because there was no mention of cancellation or change." He never responded, so I guess that takes care of that!
phineas Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Just as an end to this saga, I ended up sending him this text early Friday morning: "Hi. Sorry, I was out all day yesterday and fell asleep early. I was disappointed because we had plans for the 26th that we confirmed at least five times. But after Saturday night, you never mentioned them again, so we never followed through with them. I felt like I was being blown off on Wednesday because there was no mention of cancellation or change." He never responded, so I guess that takes care of that! You have your closure. Ignore him from now on or you will just keep wasting your time going in circles.
dispatch3d Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 With no followup I think your case was fairly murky. With that message detailing what happened I think if he wanted to mend the fence he could have. Solid follow up. I'd say he's out to lunch now unless he comes back with something, and not dating him anymore because of this isn't without merit.... Also don't blow up on someone your dating!
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