Cbbwink Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 My background is I was dumped by my 3 year ex and it rarely bugs me. NC since then and Ive been busy with self development, career, school, vocation, everything is going excellent!! Ive slept with 4 other girls since then, I can easily get dates, (not to be cocky but getting a girl is easy for me) but now that I have a option to be in a good relationship I choose to to push her away. So to make it short I met a girl, she is pretty, funny, talented everything I could want but something is blocking me. I cant really describe it. I feel like I should be with her and she is totally in to me. But I have mixed feelings.. and I feel like a relationship would be great but again i get these mixed feelings.. Is it fear? am I not ready? should I just give it a chance? What the hell is my problem?
HurtinUnit Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Maybe you've been enjoying being single and the idea of giving that up isn't ALL pleasant. Maybe some kickback from your past relationship. If your gut says it could be great and you really do feel mostly good about it, then why not give it a go? Take it slow, explore it a little more. Don't - you know move in together tomorrow lol. It sounds as if you really like this girl and if you feel you should be with her then, really, maybe you should. If you were to walk away I think you would regret it.
Author Cbbwink Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 Maybe you've been enjoying being single and the idea of giving that up isn't ALL pleasant. Maybe some kickback from your past relationship. If your gut says it could be great and you really do feel mostly good about it, then why not give it a go? Take it slow, explore it a little more. Don't - you know move in together tomorrow lol. It sounds as if you really like this girl and if you feel you should be with her then, really, maybe you should. If you were to walk away I think you would regret it. What?! Dont tell me I will regret it! thats what im scared of!! I think you may be on to something about the enjoying being single life though.
KungFuJoe Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 My background is I was dumped by my 3 year ex and it rarely bugs me. NC since then and Ive been busy with self development, career, school, vocation, everything is going excellent!! Ive slept with 4 other girls since then, I can easily get dates, (not to be cocky but getting a girl is easy for me) but now that I have a option to be in a good relationship I choose to to push her away. So to make it short I met a girl, she is pretty, funny, talented everything I could want but something is blocking me. I cant really describe it. I feel like I should be with her and she is totally in to me. But I have mixed feelings.. and I feel like a relationship would be great but again i get these mixed feelings.. Is it fear? am I not ready? should I just give it a chance? What the hell is my problem? The truth is you're not over being dumped. You might THINK you are, but you're not. I don't know how long ago it happened but you might need time to heal. No one can tell you how to feel...you're just going to have first come to the realization that you are still hurting. Once you realize that, the next step (and the hard one) is to find out whether or not it's the fear of being hurt again or the actual girl herself that is holding you back. 2
Author Cbbwink Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 The truth is you're not over being dumped. You might THINK you are, but you're not. I don't know how long ago it happened but you might need time to heal. No one can tell you how to feel...you're just going to have first come to the realization that you are still hurting. Once you realize that, the next step (and the hard one) is to find out whether or not it's the fear of being hurt again or the actual girl herself that is holding you back. wells its been like 7 months. I feel confident that im 80% over my ex. I think I might have figured it out. I feel like being a relationship will send me the other 20% but not with this girl. I think my gut is telling me not to settle. She good and everything but i believe i can find better. My head is saying come on be in a relationship and my gut says dont take the first offer you get, you will know when you find the right person. Probably explains the lack of butterflies
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