Out with the old...

[HurtinUnit]

Hi everyone, new here. Will try to keep things short.

 

So, I don't even know where to begin right now. I'm still reeling and lost and the tears are still flowing.

 

I moved a great distance about 4 months ago to be with my boyfriend of three years. He moved here for work and I followed from our home town. We did a bit of long distance and I gave him every out in the book while that took place. I had a hell of a time actually coming out here but in the end I loved him and I knew I couldn't be without him. So I quit my job, left my cats behind with friends, said goodbye to family and threw away pretty much everything I owned. I'm not kidding. I pretty much moved here with the clothes on my back. He swore up and down that this was what he wanted so on and so forth. I should have known.

 

It's just been one thing after the other. I caught him in so many things that it would take too long to list off. He had answers for everything and I ate it up hook line and sinker.

 

He broke up with me this morning and just says that he still loves me but he needs to be alone. It's not me. Bull F-ing Crap. He won't even give me a real reason. I know it's because he's fallen for some girl he's been texting and calling behind my back. He won't ever admit it.

 

So here I am - stuck in a city where I know not a soul, living with someone who just wants nothing to do with me, bawling my eyes out and nowhere to really go and owning nothing of my own now.

 

The worst part of all this? Everyone told me. I've lost quite a few good friends over this man because - as they put it "You're self destructing for someone who doesn't give 2 s*its about you" I've even ruined some familial bonds.

 

They were all right. I'm not looking forward to going home with all this egg on my face. I am glad I held off on having my cats sent here. That would have been double traumatic.

 

Merry Xmas to me... New Years is going to be simply amazing. I hate him. I hope he chokes on his own vomit. No wait, I still love him, I hope he comes back from work and begs me to stay.

 

I sincerely hope the rest of you did in fact have a very merry Xmas and have a wonderful New Years...

[oracle]

Hes not gonna beg. And you don't want him to.. Don't waste anymore of your life on this.

 

Hi everyone, new here. Will try to keep things short.

 

So, I don't even know where to begin right now. I'm still reeling and lost and the tears are still flowing.

 

I moved a great distance about 4 months ago to be with my boyfriend of three years. He moved here for work and I followed from our home town. We did a bit of long distance and I gave him every out in the book while that took place. I had a hell of a time actually coming out here but in the end I loved him and I knew I couldn't be without him. So I quit my job, left my cats behind with friends, said goodbye to family and threw away pretty much everything I owned. I'm not kidding. I pretty much moved here with the clothes on my back. He swore up and down that this was what he wanted so on and so forth. I should have known.

 

It's just been one thing after the other. I caught him in so many things that it would take too long to list off. He had answers for everything and I ate it up hook line and sinker.

 

He broke up with me this morning and just says that he still loves me but he needs to be alone. It's not me. Bull F-ing Crap. He won't even give me a real reason. I know it's because he's fallen for some girl he's been texting and calling behind my back. He won't ever admit it.

 

So here I am - stuck in a city where I know not a soul, living with someone who just wants nothing to do with me, bawling my eyes out and nowhere to really go and owning nothing of my own now.

 

The worst part of all this? Everyone told me. I've lost quite a few good friends over this man because - as they put it "You're self destructing for someone who doesn't give 2 s*its about you" I've even ruined some familial bonds.

 

They were all right. I'm not looking forward to going home with all this egg on my face. I am glad I held off on having my cats sent here. That would have been double traumatic.

 

Merry Xmas to me... New Years is going to be simply amazing. I hate him. I hope he chokes on his own vomit. No wait, I still love him, I hope he comes back from work and begs me to stay.

 

I sincerely hope the rest of you did in fact have a very merry Xmas and have a wonderful New Years...

[TaraMaiden]

Go home, lick your wounds, thank everyone for their support - yes, they were right, you were wrong, but sometimes we just have to find it out for ourselves...

 

Be strong, get a grip and begin the new year the way you should.

For you.

 

Implement No Contact - and stick to it.

 

Chances are you will hear from him again. Dumpers always get in touch with the people they dump, for reassurance and self-validation (It's in the NC guide in my signature link).

 

Ignore him, block him off, and delete him from your life.

Drop off his radar.

 

In time, he will seek attention.

At all cost, deny him this.

[HurtinUnit]

Thanks for the replies guys...

 

Oracle - I knew he wouldn't beg when he got home, just being delusional. I will not be wasting any more of my life on this.

 

TaraMaiden - Yeah, I know they were right. I've lost some friends over this. I will be ringing in the New Year on a plane home. I just hope I don't break down in public. How terribly humiliating. I intend to initiate NC right away. I know he will try to contact me constantly. he's that type of guy all the way. He will not leave me t lick my wounds. It will be right away too. He'll call, email, try to Skype... I can't and won't though. Not this time.

 

He did come home and started bawling his eyes out which, at first, I perceived as him regretting his decision but immediately realized that he felt guilty. Which made me feel even worse. I want him to be an absolute villain right now, I don't want to see his bloody tears and his guilt. I want to walk away with him telling me good riddance. Not teary eyed "I still love you so much" bull.

[MyAngel]

I am so sorry. He is a real piece of work. You did so much for him and look how he reacts to that.... Disgusting. You poor thing, I really feel for you. I can't imagine the hurt you're going through having given up so much for nothing.

 

He is so not worth your time, tears or love. Big hugs to you xxxx

[Samilia]

Hi everyone, new here. Will try to keep things short.

 

So, I don't even know where to begin right now. I'm still reeling and lost and the tears are still flowing.

 

I moved a great distance about 4 months ago to be with my boyfriend of three years. He moved here for work and I followed from our home town. We did a bit of long distance and I gave him every out in the book while that took place. I had a hell of a time actually coming out here but in the end I loved him and I knew I couldn't be without him. So I quit my job, left my cats behind with friends, said goodbye to family and threw away pretty much everything I owned. I'm not kidding. I pretty much moved here with the clothes on my back. He swore up and down that this was what he wanted so on and so forth. I should have known.

 

It's just been one thing after the other. I caught him in so many things that it would take too long to list off. He had answers for everything and I ate it up hook line and sinker.

 

He broke up with me this morning and just says that he still loves me but he needs to be alone. It's not me. Bull F-ing Crap. He won't even give me a real reason. I know it's because he's fallen for some girl he's been texting and calling behind my back. He won't ever admit it.

 

So here I am - stuck in a city where I know not a soul, living with someone who just wants nothing to do with me, bawling my eyes out and nowhere to really go and owning nothing of my own now.

 

The worst part of all this? Everyone told me. I've lost quite a few good friends over this man because - as they put it "You're self destructing for someone who doesn't give 2 s*its about you" I've even ruined some familial bonds.

 

They were all right. I'm not looking forward to going home with all this egg on my face. I am glad I held off on having my cats sent here. That would have been double traumatic.

 

Merry Xmas to me... New Years is going to be simply amazing. I hate him. I hope he chokes on his own vomit. No wait, I still love him, I hope he comes back from work and begs me to stay.

 

I sincerely hope the rest of you did in fact have a very merry Xmas and have a wonderful New Years...

 

Well I say suck it up and go back home. Nothing wrong with admitting they were right. And don't leave your pets behind for a guy again, they don't deserve it.

 

You know he won't beg you and you're apparently smart enough to have seen through his pile of bs excuses. Can people be more original than the classic "I still love you but.." Nothing that is said before "but" matters.

[charasbb]

It sucks that you lost some relationship over this turd,but don't worry about how you were wrong to move and the embarrassement,those who care about you won't rub into your face,they'll support you. I'm sure even some of those lost friends might come around once they see the pain you're feeling. We are all human we all make mistakes especially in the name of love. Go home,regroup and take care of yourself.

[KatZee]

Wow. Huge lesson learned. NEVER give up so much of yourself for someone else. There should have been some compromise in all of this, instead you really did give everything for him and that's so s.hitty that you have no possessions, have lost friends, family members all for this POS.

 

Do take the first flight back home, and deal with the "I told you so's." That's going to be hard to swallow but this is your family and your friends. They're only looking out for you and want whats best, at the end of the day they're on your side, and they will support and help you. Repair the burned bridges with your friends because if you take a look at the larger picture those people are way more important that some possessions. You can get those things back over time.

 

You're going to be going through a crap ton of emotions. From missing him and wanting him to hating him and hoping he'll die. I've been there but it does get better MUCH quicker if you do complete NC. My ex pulled some of the same BS with me. He dumped me and he never saw me again. That was it. I'm 7 months out and 95% over it. The remaining 5% is because I'm always on LS so he crosses my mind. If I wasn't on here I think i'd be surprised how days go by and I don't even think of him.

 

NC will really save you here.