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Horrible Ex Girlfriend on University Residence..! !!


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I met this girl on my floor during Frosh week, and we were together since September. We never had a label because I never asked her out, and she began to have commitment issues, and kept reaffirming that being her boyfriend was a "huge commitment". WE LITERALLY Had the world in common and she knows this. We broke twice, because of trust issues and the time I spent in the fraternity.

 

The more time I spent away from her complicated our relationship and began being shady towards me. We did tell each other that we loved each other a month in. We kept argueing as she asked for a break, and then I asked for a break in return but I called it off 48 hours later... Well sort of she gets mad and walks out from my room.

 

I felt depressed at the end of our relationship because she got colder towards me. Now it's completely over and ended horribly. She lives a few doors down from me and we spent the first semester of university in love with each other. She was confused in regards if she ever loved me, or that she did. I wished her a Merry Christmas and won't give me a legitamet reason why she broke up with me, and would get angry with me and tell me I didn't deserve that reason. I didn't give her her space, She wouldn't call me her boyfriend after 3 months? Saying she doesn't know me because of the fraternity and needed more time.

 

She probably thinks im crazy because I lost ten pounds during our finals and she knows I didn't write a few of them with a medical excuse because she dropped me a week before finals... Our whole floor got involved.

She called me her dream guy, but now she doesn't know if that's true, well she obviously does if she's being this cold towards me, and acting horrible. She wants me to get over her, but I don't think I can?

 

I LIVE FOUR DOORS DOWN, if the times i spent with her were great before the December, then is there anyway i can fix things or try to get back with her without coming off as crazy? I told her i wouldn't stop fighting for her... She was fine and studied away but i was depressed while she called me crazy infront of the girls on our floor, but they all know she's making a mistake.

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Sounds like you both are newbies at serious relationships.

 

But it sounds like you both enjoyed each other and appreciated each other.

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REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THAT GIRL IMMEDIATELY

 

Read the above, if you don't do this you will end up screwing your whole future for someone with serious problems.

 

She is doing push-pull games on you and those always mess with the mind and create attraction.

On the other hand, you are just a toy/asset to her because she was not bothered by the break-up during finals.

 

Either move out, or go to the library to study or ... but do something or else this teenager that will never grow will ruin your life.

This girl has major issues, and nobody but her can fix them.

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Don't be around if you think you're going to be depressed all the time. Take time to go study in places OTHER than your dorm if it's likely that you'll see her often.

 

Find things to do to forget about her, as doing things will help you not think about her. Meditate, study, or something that will keep you occupied and productive.

 

Let us know how it goes.

 

It will take time. You'll reach the point where you don't care, but now it's all about recovery.

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Obviously I have to concentrate on myself. If she still believes that I was her dream guy, can I possibly show her that I'm the same person? She said she doesn't Want to get back with me and it tore me apart. I fought for her but the first four months. We got back twice. I do want her back. I'm all messed up but she's fine. Is this fair to anyone? She's a stubborn angry and unforgiving person. I can't fix her but I can fix myself. I still do have feelings for her..

She said to me we are too broken before she blocked me out of her life. It makes me sick to believe it turned out this way and I already tried to talk about things buy it just aggregates her.

 

Ok so we're broken up and doesn't care as much as I do? Is there anyway I can play it off. I accept we're done and nothing good will come out of me getting back with her right now. Will time bring her back to me once I improve myself and pretend that I don't care?

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Let me explain something to you.

 

This girl is poison.

Grade A poison.

Even through this impersonal medium where only 7% of human communication goes through [just the words], we can sense that.

 

There is no future and you are giving her an ego-ride every time she refuses you.

The fact that she cares so little and got along with her finals just fine shows that.

There is no future with this girl, and in the future you will need to examine yourself in therapy and find out why you reacted to her like this.

 

I'll give you a weapon against her, that worked for me.

Close your eyes, and picture a completely black piece of paper.

Let your thoughts calm down, and have all your senses concentrate on it; even hearing.

Then picture her, in front of you.

Add negative things to her ... she has HIV, herpes, picture her sucking off the guy you hate the most [ideally a guy who lives very close] and enjoying herself.

Add as many things as possible.

Then make the picture of her doing and being these things increase in size, make her gigantic.

Then make copy her, and put her all around you, in great detail ... everywhere you see is her doing and being that.

 

Do this several times a day, do this every time you think of her ... and check your feelings to make sure that when you add those little 'negative modules', you actually get disgusted/angry and not aroused.

You will forget her in no time.

 

I actually use this exercise when i can't concentrate on work, i picture myself living homeless ... it is very motivating.

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