witmadskilllz Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I snooped, I was careless, I had a new facebook account that I didn't realize that I had and the thought of checking my ex's facebook was in mind since she blocked my primary one. The rebound relationship she's in lasted longer than our relationship and going very strong for them. She looks very happy in her display picture with him together smiling. But after sticking to NC for so long since the breakup, I feel that my resolve has strengthen somehow after seeing the display picture. I feel mildly sad of course but at the same time, I feel like I need to stop caring, and start officially working on myself asap. Hit the gym, meet girls and have a good time myself. when they say stick to NC, I mean, REALLLY DO IT GUYS! haha I've learned from this and now I made myself feel like crap for no reason . I don't know guys, I keep thinking, was she really not worth it to begin with? How much emotion I've invested into, time, ego, poured my whole heart for her and she just moved on within 2 weeks with her old high school friend. I just don't get it maybe rebound relationships do work and maybe her relationship isn't considered one anymore if they're lasting much longer for 1+ year. I feel even worse now knowing this fact ughh I don't know anymore
Missing Him Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I'm sorry Don't beat yourself up too much though, sticking to just not having contact with your ex is hard enough, but avoiding even things that trigger memories of them is even harder. Working on yourself is a good idea. I know it's cliche but it'll get better in time (at least, that's what I'm convincing myself of.) 1
th90 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Everything happens for a reason. Yours is yet to come. Have faith. 1
Author witmadskilllz Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 I'm sorry Don't beat yourself up too much though, sticking to just not having contact with your ex is hard enough, but avoiding even things that trigger memories of them is even harder. Working on yourself is a good idea. I know it's cliche but it'll get better in time (at least, that's what I'm convincing myself of.) Thank you, yeah I know i gotta work on myself and all but just knowing the fact that she's dating someone whose better than me makes it that much heartbreaking . Ty for advice, I will try my best. Everything happens for a reason. Yours is yet to come. Have faith. Thank you, hopefully that day comes is when I'll be ready.
Missing Him Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Thank you, yeah I know i gotta work on myself and all but just knowing the fact that she's dating someone whose better than me makes it that much heartbreaking . Ty for advice, I will try my best. Thank you, hopefully that day comes is when I'll be ready. How do you know that he is better than you? Do you even know the guy? That's so subjective, anyway. There's no reason to think that he is better than you. If you think it's because your ex has been with him for longer, all that means is that he's better for her than you are. That might suck but it doesn't mean anything about your self-worth. There's someone out there who is better for you than she is, too.
Author witmadskilllz Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 How do you know that he is better than you? Do you even know the guy? That's so subjective, anyway. There's no reason to think that he is better than you. If you think it's because your ex has been with him for longer, all that means is that he's better for her than you are. That might suck but it doesn't mean anything about your self-worth. There's someone out there who is better for you than she is, too. He's got a car, I don't. He works graveyard shifts full time, has all the worlds time for her. I'm still a student trying to graduate and lost my part time job due to depression. He's more fit than I am, has 6 pack, handsome, tall and has a bigger wang than I. Heard they have amazing sex and everything she craved and lusted for while I've gained weight, grew fatter, nothing appealing. To sum things up, she dumped me for a white guy who is absolutely perfect for her and I'm just your average typical asian dude whose still in the same university as her. Although, you are right, that there could be someone whose also perfect for me as well but it takes that much more work into one that shouldn't work. It takes everything, and in the end, it was as if I never existed, that God made this perfect plan for us to split so she can fall for him and be eternally happy. I'm grateful for her happiness too but I'm just not seeing any light towards my end or anytime soon
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