ReadMyThread Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Why the hell is it so hard for me to find someone to be with? It bothers me that while me and my ex were together she met someone better than me behind my back and then left me for him and now they are together. She didn't have to be alone and get hurt like I did. She just replaced me for better and now she doesn't have to go out an meet someone new, she already did while we were together. Now I go around like a lost dog hoping I could just meet someone like she did. Someone who wants to be with me. Someone who actually means what they say. I've talk to 3 girls since my break-up and they all came to a conclusion where I just wasn't interested anymore and I know that we wouldn't work being togther. It just keeps hurting me Everytime I start talking to a girl and realize we wouldnt work. I feel like giving up trying to meet someone. Just stop asking girls on dates and give up. I'll be alone for a long time it seems. I can't meet anyone. Nor will I anytime soon. What the ****? It pisses me off seeing all these damn people together and happy, let alone her and him. I had that and now I don't. I hate this ****...
CptSaveAho Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 (edited) Watch "The Count Of Monte Cristo" Great movie... I'm not going to give you the plot line but hopefully you will see how it relates to your situation Dont worry, when all is said and done, you will laugh at how stupid you were being with your current thoughts.... It takes a long time though Being happy alone > Being happy with someone else... when you achieve this, you wont be able to keep the women off you Edited December 26, 2012 by CptSaveAho 1
cavalier99 Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Get laid but stop worrying about finding someone. Not worth it. You REALLY dont need to meet anyone right now. Just be the PLAYER that you are! . Rack up those numbers! Lol I think F-K and dump should be your motto the next 6 months!
Harradin Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 I'm feeling the same to be honest. I hate the fact that everyone else is happy where as I have to suffer the pain of the only girl I've ever fallen in love with would rather be with someone else. But instead of being pissed off that I can't find that someone, I've decided I just don't care anymore. I'm not gonna put any effort into finding someone, I'm just going to focus on myself, getting into good physical shape, doing my uni work etc, and if a woman appears, great, if not, not to worry, I'll just take life as it comes and not worry about what happens/happened. Don't know whether this helps you but I'd thought I'd share it anyway.
Author ReadMyThread Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 Get laid but stop worrying about finding someone. Not worth it. You REALLY dont need to meet anyone right now. Just be the PLAYER that you are! . Rack up those numbers! Lol I think F-K and dump should be your motto the next 6 months! Well with one of these 3 girls I was talking to, one d them I still am and we are having sex a lot. But that's the thing I'm not interested in her and ever since the last time we had sex, I feel like she is more affection around me and more interested. I thought we were just sex. It's hurting continuing with her. I just keep telling myself it's just sex. Ive never been the player type guy. I've never wanted to either. Is it worth it? All you do is hurt girls then lol.
Author ReadMyThread Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 I'm feeling the same to be honest. I hate the fact that everyone else is happy where as I have to suffer the pain of the only girl I've ever fallen in love with would rather be with someone else. But instead of being pissed off that I can't find that someone, I've decided I just don't care anymore. I'm not gonna put any effort into finding someone, I'm just going to focus on myself, getting into good physical shape, doing my uni work etc, and if a woman appears, great, if not, not to worry, I'll just take life as it comes and not worry about what happens/happened. Don't know whether this helps you but I'd thought I'd share it anyway. See I sometimes tell myself everything you pretty much just said but how long is it you worry about yourself until you are ready to meet someone? Or when will the next girl come? I'm so lost. I feel there won't be another girl in my case. At least a girl I would have what me and my ex had. Now it's just all messed up.
Harradin Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 See I sometimes tell myself everything you pretty much just said but how long is it you worry about yourself until you are ready to meet someone? Or when will the next girl come? I'm so lost. I feel there won't be another girl in my case. At least a girl I would have what me and my ex had. Now it's just all messed up. I found by working on myself, I didn't care whether I was ready or when/why/where the next girl comes along, even when I had nothing to do, I couldn't care less if there wasn't another girl. I just lived life day by day and relied on my gut feeling. I managed to get to the stage where I never worried and I had no stress, ironically during this time was when my ex walked into my life, but I want to get back to that stage as it was when I was most happiest. 1
cavalier99 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 (edited) Well with one of these 3 girls I was talking to, one d them I still am and we are having sex a lot. But that's the thing I'm not interested in her and ever since the last time we had sex, I feel like she is more affection around me and more interested. I thought we were just sex. It's hurting continuing with her. I just keep telling myself it's just sex. Ive never been the player type guy. I've never wanted to either. Is it worth it? All you do is hurt girls then lol. Im just kidding for the most part. That being said there is a note of seriousness. There is more of a chance of hurting a girl that you continue to see for a while (like you are doing) if you aren't interested, unless she knows that it is all just having fun and you aren't interested in anything more. Even then you might hurt her anyway. Additionally when you are with a girl multiples times it makes you miss what you had in your relationship and can be painful until you are fully recovered. That is why i say. Keep things all fun. Nobody gets hurt with random hookups if you are interested in that. Id stop seeing this girl. It will set you back some. Edited December 27, 2012 by cavalier99
cavalier99 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 See I sometimes tell myself everything you pretty much just said but how long is it you worry about yourself until you are ready to meet someone? Or when will the next girl come? I'm so lost. I feel there won't be another girl in my case. At least a girl I would have what me and my ex had. Now it's just all messed up. STOP worrying about girls. Just have fun period. And be happy on your own until you are recovered. Then something will come up PRECISELY when you decide you could care less about getting a girl friend. That is how it seems to work.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Dude, you are 20 years old (if that). There's no need to look for the one right now and in your current state, it's counterproductive to. Just relax and have fun. Stop trying to forcefeed yourself into relationships, or thinking like that, and just live.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 See I sometimes tell myself everything you pretty much just said but how long is it you worry about yourself until you are ready to meet someone? Or when will the next girl come? I'm so lost. I feel there won't be another girl in my case. At least a girl I would have what me and my ex had. Now it's just all messed up. Why would you want another girl like your ex? She cheated on you, teased you back, then broke your heart again. You should hope there isn't another like your ex. If there was, that would really suck for you.
Allumere Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Cav, I'm glad you clarified cause I was about to chew ya one:) Go out..on dates....no dating yet. Sex if you can handle it but again be careful. If all you are doing on dates is comparing than you need to chill in that department. Women will always be there...last I checked we werent going into extinction....work on you.
coffeebean201 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 There is no magical relationship out there. And I'm quite sure your ex and her new man have their own share of problems. You aren't missing out on something perfect. How about expanding your circle of guy friends and you may meet more women. Just a suggestion. Happy Christmas. You sound like a good guy.
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