dpc1192 Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 My ex girlfriend is sort of crazy. She never knows what she wants and changes her mind so much. We broke up about 3 months ago and then got back together and broke up again about a week and a half ago. She got off her birth control when we broke up and has been sorta crazy since. Every time her period is coming she switches completely and becomes mean and tells me she doesn't want any relationship now. This is generally a few days after her being incredibly sweet and telling me how much she loves me. She has regretted breaking up with me I know at the the first time. I like this girl a lot. What should I do? We had our fair share of fights, and her constant changing made me constantly unsettled and feeling like I never knew what the day would hold. Every day was a challenge. I did my best and tried to make her happy but sometimes it wasn't very possible.
Author dpc1192 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 I'm really hard on myself but I can't help but thinking Its my fault were no longer together... I would get mad over topic things, say very mean things after drinking, and became a bit possessive. Life in hindsight is 50/50, such an evil truth at times.
geegirl Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 My ex girlfriend is sort of crazy. She never knows what she wants and changes her mind so much. We broke up about 3 months ago and then got back together and broke up again about a week and a half ago. She got off her birth control when we broke up and has been sorta crazy since. Every time her period is coming she switches completely and becomes mean and tells me she doesn't want any relationship now. This is generally a few days after her being incredibly sweet and telling me how much she loves me. She has regretted breaking up with me I know at the the first time. I like this girl a lot. What should I do? We had our fair share of fights, and her constant changing made me constantly unsettled and feeling like I never knew what the day would hold. Every day was a challenge. I did my best and tried to make her happy but sometimes it wasn't very possible. What is your definition of a relationship? What are its values? How do you visualize yourself feeling in a solid, healthy relationship? Ask yourself the hard questions. If your answers don't coincide with the above, then liking her is not good enough a reason to settle. If a relationship is supposed to make you walk on eggshells, play guessing games as to what's around the corner and challenge you daily existence and happiness, then continue doing what you are doing. 1
NoMoreJerks Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Hey, look on the bright side -- at least there is some sort of her explanation for her moodiness -- birth control pills / getting off the pill. What about moody men like my ex? Seriously, my ex made me walk on eggshells all the time.. I love him , but I am beginning to think I don't need that stress and anxiety in my life, where I constantly am wondering when he will break up with me out of the blue... he'd even get mad at me for texting too much or too little. There just was no winning with him... A week before he dumped me, he told me to talk to him when I've grown up. So I didn't text him for a day, and he got so mad at me for that, and emailed me that we were "over." Then I pleaded and begged, and he took me back.. only to break up with me 3 days later, out of the blue...
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Hey, look on the bright side -- at least there is some sort of her explanation for her moodiness -- birth control pills / getting off the pill. What about moody men like my ex? Seriously, my ex made me walk on eggshells all the time.. I love him , but I am beginning to think I don't need that stress and anxiety in my life, where I constantly am wondering when he will break up with me out of the blue... he'd even get mad at me for texting too much or too little. There just was no winning with him... A week before he dumped me, he told me to talk to him when I've grown up. So I didn't text him for a day, and he got so mad at me for that, and emailed me that we were "over." Then I pleaded and begged, and he took me back.. only to break up with me 3 days later, out of the blue... Miss nomorejerks, my dear Canadian rose(sorry my GD was from Canada*Ontario is pretty) anyhoo I think your ex was rather controlling. This poor Guy's ex sounds nuts....you both got a bad stick. 1
Author dpc1192 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 Ya I mean she was sweet, pretty and whatnot. Sometimes I think back though about us and I never felt that much love from her. She didn't really go out of her way for me very much and when she did she would remind me. It was always about her and she always came first. I'd get mad over living on her agenda and she would always deny it and say I was false. She wouldn't really be honest with me at times for fear I'd get mad at her which caused even more problems. And then I'd confront her and shed play victim. She comes from a very wealthy family and is a mommys girl. Also she didn't tend to open up to me very much and I would've much rather her have been completely honest at all times then always worry about me disagreeing or being upset with her over what she wanted to do....
Don't Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 You just gave me an idea. The funny thing is almost a year ago my ex was joking about how she would lose get feelings towards me if she quit taking the pill because of hormonal changes. Once she quit the pil I think she stated to act cold. Should I relate my break up to that? Does the pill really affect her mood and feelings towards me. Love is all hormones and chemicals. Let's dio some brain storming
Author dpc1192 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 Well we fell in love before the pill.
NoMoreJerks Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 I am on the pill (started 5 months ago, after I met my now-ex), but I gotta say that it really did not affect my moods more than PMS would affect my moods, to be honst... My ex kept accusing me of being moody, but I believe he was being manipulative. Sure, I had my moments, but nothing out of the ordinary. People can get stressed, frustrated, angry. Not being moody doesn't mean not being human, though. My ex was asking me to behave like a perfect human being (non-existent) or a robot. He wanted me to be perfect all the time, not bother him with any of my stress/anxiety/moodiness/anger, when he would use ME as his own punching bag ALL the damn time. Anyway, I can never do a relationship with moody people again. My ex was super-moody and controlling, and I cannot deal with either of those again. I'm too emotionally drained after my 6-month-long experience with my ex, especially the past month has been hell for me. I suggest you let go of her and find someone who is less emotionally draining.
Author dpc1192 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 It's so weird thinking of her getting married and stuff.. I want her back I think of her constantly, and I would act possessive and manipulative also, but were in college and young and I think we both need to mature. Where do I go from here? Think she'd take me back ?
Author dpc1192 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 I just looked at her Facebook and a ton of her hometown girlfriends have been commenting on how sexy she looks and how hot she is... Probably because she's sad. I also know she hasn't been going out and spending all her time with her mom who lis pretty much her therapist and the only person she trusts and that makes her happy. She probably expected to hear from me by now or her single fantasy isn't quite what she expected. I think being 21 we both reached a point where we needed to see what was out there before going on.. I had my time about 4 months ago, went through a sort of freak out about the future and my life and took a break. Now she needs hers. I could see us getting back when we're back at University, especially considering her two best friends are going abroad. It shall be interesting. One thing it's always been !
Author dpc1192 Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 Damn I'm starting to get really bummed thinking we might be done forever. Being home by myself without much ability to go out or get with girls really isn't helping either.
NoMoreJerks Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Damn I'm starting to get really bummed thinking we might be done forever. Being home by myself without much ability to go out or get with girls really isn't helping either. Why no ability to go out? Weather? Money? I totally sympathize -- I am stuck at home tonight even though I was planning on going out to the bar for a few drinks, just to get me out of this depression. But it is -20 Celsius here tonight, quite windy, and we are expecting a snowstorm shortly... so I passed. Instead I'm curled up in bed, reading Cosmopolitan, watched the latest episode of Coronation Street, and now surfing LS.. I don't even have a TV at home.
Don't Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 (edited) It has been a week since I talked to her and I feel like messaging her but I need to distract myself with something else. I have anxiety sometimes makes me feel sick especially in the morning when I wake up. I try to motivate myself and the anxiety goes away. Well it goes and comes in between. How do you people co op. I'm in Canada and it's freezing outside there is no way I'm stepping outside. Edited December 27, 2012 by Don't
cavalier99 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 (edited) It has been a week since I talked to her and I feel like messaging her but I need to distract myself with something else. I have anxiety sometimes makes me feel sick especially in the morning when I wake up. I try to motivate myself and the anxiety goes away. Well it goes and comes in between. How do you people co op. I'm in Canada and it's freezing outside there is no way I'm stepping outside. For me the first 3 weeks of NC felt like 3 years. After 3 or 4 weeks time stared to go back to normal and the complete insanity starts to go away. It is like withdrawal from heroin but worse lol. Just slug it out. If you make it a month you will begin to see some light at the end of the tunnel and will enter a new phase. It is still tough but more manageable. Im actually starting to forget how bad it was. I mean i remember but cant FEEL the same pain. Rock on! Edited December 27, 2012 by cavalier99
mutant Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 It's so weird thinking of her getting married and stuff.. I want her back I think of her constantly, and I would act possessive and manipulative also, but were in college and young and I think we both need to mature. Where do I go from here? Think she'd take me back ? This is a weak logic. I have been in this situation before and I can guarantee you her behavior will not change significantly in the future. And what do you mean by "I would act possessive and manipulative"? did you do this just to counter her meanness? if so, you should walk away from relationships that bring the "worst" out of you. After all you will never experience true happiness if you hang on to such.
Author dpc1192 Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 Weird thing happend last night... Her best friend (who is a mutual friend) sends me a picture of her looking at the camera and my ex girlfriend clearly on Skype in the background. Like she wanted me to see her? Like I said my ex is never the type to start conversation and sometimes worries too much about being cool. Maybe it's a sign she was thinking about me or that my friend wants me to think of her..
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