Snow Bubble Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 So its been 5 months now that my ex has been dating this new girl. Right before he decided to be official with her his exact words were "I still hope we can work and try again someday, but for now I want to see what I have with her." And even before he said that (and even sent me a long letter) about 2 other times before. (Saying that he still wanted us to try again but felt it was too soon and that we both needed time) And since he's said all that, I think it makes it harder for me to move on. Cause I still hold hope in the back of my mind that he meant what he said and (even this might be a stretch) that if the relationship with this girl didn't work out, he'd come back to me. I've been on a few little dates with other guys, but I say that I'm not ready for anything serious...and I think a big part of why I say that is because I'm still holding out for him. So what I'm wondering is: Should I ask him if he still feels the same way still? So that way if he straight up tells me that he doesn't and that he's completely happy where he is it would help me forget about it all and move on (despite how much it would sting for awhile) Or do you guys think it wouldn't make much of a difference? He also still texts me every other week or every other day. (Not about anything too significant) But the fact that I cross his mind still makes me happy. I'm also wondering if I'm feeling this way just because its the holidays. It's my first time not having him around for Xmas. (And we live 3 houses down) so I can see his girl's car in his driveway =/ So it hurts knowing he spending it with someone else...
geegirl Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 (edited) I don't know how else to say this but if a man told me to sit back and wait while he enjoyed another woman, and if he didn't he'd come back to me, I would have let him go when his a** walked out the door. How little you value yourself to sit on the sidelines waiting for a man to deem you worthy, to choose you? Now you want to ask him if he still thinks you are worthy, maybe a little or maybe just enough to wait for a few more months to see if your stock goes up? He text messages you here and there? This is how little he needs to invest in you to keep you on the backburner. It doesn't speak of how special you are. It only shows him how desperate you are. It shows him that all he needs are a few text messages to keep you waiting on him. You cross his mind yes, but not because you're special but because he gets to have his cake and eat it too. Dating one girl and keeping another dangling on a string. What a treat this bozo gets everyday knowing two women are catering to his inflated ego. He's banging a girl three doors down and there you are getting the warm and fuzzies over some piddly text messages and waiting on him to choose you? Are you reading what you are saying? Please, for your own sake, get rid of this joker. He doesn't need to cut the cord. You have to have enough self-respect to walk away because you choose not to be anyone's option. Edited December 26, 2012 by geegirl 3
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Why would you want him back? I mean why? He is with a girl that as according to your last post: has a bf. That ischeating both ways, he knows. If he's willing to do that with her, behind her bfs back...imagine what he might do behind yours? Plus he's only wait-checking you. Do not be his fall back.
Treasa Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 I wish I could make geegirl's entire post my signature. You know, I'm really glad a guy saying that has the complete opposite effect on me. When a guy says he likes someone else, my pride rises up and slaps me in the face and I'm over him pretty much instantly. Do you even care about what this is doing to your self-worth and self-respect? Block his pathetic texts.
TaraMaiden Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Oh. My. God. I can't believe you still even give this guy the time of day. he's not worth breath vapour.... Holy scytt, you really think it's still worth holding out? While he's busy screwing another woman, you're waiting in the wings?? My mind is numb.... Please tell me you're pulling our legs.... please tell me you're kidding.... You ARE kidding - right?? 2
Author Snow Bubble Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 Never mind. You guys are right. I just blocked his number tonight. I made a mistake at looking at his Facebook after 5 months and saw stuff I didn't want to see. I am so devastated right now...just.... 1
MyAngel Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I'm so sorry you're still suffering snow bubble. Big hugs to you. You are way too good for this guy!!!
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