geegirl Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 nope its not ego. i could come back here in ten years and still feel the same. Her ego, not yours. If that is how you feel, then that is how you feel.
Zammo25 Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 nope its not ego. i could come back here in ten years and still feel the same. What you feel is irrelevant now, it is what she feels that counts and she is gone. Those are the harsh facts you have to face as I do and lot of other people do.
Author frederickkk Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 she is gone, and she will be back.
Zammo25 Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 she is gone, and she will be back. She WILL NOT be back and neither will my love. They are gone, gone forever, accept that and move on.
geegirl Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 She WILL NOT be back and neither will my love. They are gone, gone forever, accept that and move on. Zammo, this is what we are talking about. This same pattern has been going on since August. You can advise till your mouth bleeds but Fred is on a separate planet. That is why we just agree and go with the flow. In any case, I hope you feel better and are getting the support you need here in coping with your pain.
Zammo25 Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Thanks geegirl. No I am at rock bottom now but still fighting. The thing is I know it is done, I did all I could and she still walked away onto another Man's arms and bed and that is so painful but I do not have delusions we will be together again as clearly as light and dark we will not.
geegirl Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Thanks geegirl. No I am at rock bottom now but still fighting. The thing is I know it is done, I did all I could and she still walked away onto another Man's arms and bed and that is so painful but I do not have delusions we will be together again as clearly as light and dark we will not. Acceptance will help propel you forward. Getting out of the denial stage is the most difficult thing to do but once you accept the situation for what it is, while painful and gut wrenching, it will help you take steps towards your healing. I know what it is like to lose someone to another person and it devalues you to such an extent that it is hard to step out of feeling utterly defeated and unworthy. You are at rock bottom. The only way now is up. You'll get there. It won't always be this way.
Sav Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 I just came back from a club and it was honestly fun. I might think of my ex at times but really, the world is your oyster. So a girl/guy ditched you. Big deal. Happens to the best of us. Look forward to the future ahead. As geegirl said, the only way to go once you hit rock bottom is up up up. Actually for us dumpees, there is a great advantage. I know this because I've been both the dumper and the dumpee. Let me tell you this, dumpers usually dont feel much and they tend to put the blame on the dumpees. So they think the fall of the relationship is our fault. Whereas us dumpees will look back, reflect and wonder why things went haywire. This is the advantage. We grow. There's always a bright side. Focus on the good and not the bad and you will see a much better day ahead of you. I'm speaking from experience because I've been broken up for 5-6mths (idk) now and since day 2 of the break-up...NC all the way. Yes I'm proud of myself. Although I still think of her, I don't fall into depression mode. I don't bawl my eyes out. I don't get all emo and moodswing the F out of everyone around me. That's really a great step ahead in my opinion. So it can be done. Just believe in ourselves because we don't even know how strong we can actually be. You will be surprised. I really hope Fred will learn something out of your breakup. At least you will get some valuable life experiences and lessons rather than taking nothing at all and trying to convince yourself of some delusion. Trust me Fred. Take 2 months off. Go hard NC, when u reach the 2 months mark you will be surprised at yourself and you will stop wanting to contact her to keep your "streak" going. Help yourself, because no one can
Author frederickkk Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 if i can grow a pair sav, i will
Author frederickkk Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 this is so painful. cant stop crying. not because im some emo chap. she was it in my head.
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