Angel Heart Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Just curious to know how it's going or just any comment on it. I'm the rebound women and the problem I've found is that my partner right now is busy spending time with his teenage daughters for the Holidays. I've never dated a legally separated man before; a new experience for me. How goes it being the rebound person?
Casablanca Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Just curious to know how it's going or just any comment on it. I'm the rebound women and the problem I've found is that my partner right now is busy spending time with his teenage daughters for the Holidays. I've never dated a legally separated man before; a new experience for me. How goes it being the rebound person? Do you mean rebound as he only wants to be with you for sex and doesnt want to be lonely, or rebound because your the first one he has dated since a serious relationship? How long have you two been dating? Are you exclusive? How serious? You can't blame a man for wanting to spend time with his daughters during the holidays, he probably has at best joint custody and only seems them part of the time.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 If you're just a rebound girl then you'll be dumped in the end....wouldn't invest too much emotionally regardless of what he "says" which is very typical in rebound situations to say a lot of things you don't mean or won't back up ultimately...emotionally.
Author Angel Heart Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 Do you mean rebound as he only wants to be with you for sex and doesnt want to be lonely, or rebound because your the first one he has dated since a serious relationship? How long have you two been dating? Are you exclusive? How serious? You can't blame a man for wanting to spend time with his daughters during the holidays, he probably has at best joint custody and only seems them part of the time. We've been seeing each other a month or so, however, since school vacation, we haven't seen one another whatsoever. I'm assuming we are exclusive b/c we've had the discussion. It is just a beginning of a 'relationship' so I'd say it's not that serious. We saw each other almost daily except for the weekends, that is until the school vacation; since then he's written me a few brief emails (i don't text) and wished me a 'Merry Christmas in one. I'm am, he insists, the first person he has 'dated' since the legal separation. He admits to being lonely when we first met as he explained his situation. I, being long divorced and with an empty nest, was lonely too. We both yearned for companionship so I am assuming we are simply having a wonderful fling together. It's difficult knowing I'm on the bottom of his priorities right now. He's let me know his weekends are spent with his daughters. I understand how important this is because the separation is still fairly fresh and he yearns to be with his teenagers even though they make him feel horrible; they want him to try to work it out and are a bit caustic with their discussions about it. Accepting the reality we will be together until he has adjusted to living alone and meets someone closer to his age. In the meantime, I am taking it one day at a time and simply enjoying his company. Being an older women who is accustomed to 'dating' men many years younger has this relationship more meaningful then I care to admit. I suppose if I keep the mentality I'm just a rebound fling and simply enjoy our time together will suffice for now.
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