Bealena Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Hello LS, I have been working on my self esteem for a while - I always tried to blame others for the way I felt. I never felt good enough. It took me a long time to figure out that I needed to take a long hard look at myself. Building my self esteem has been quite a hard thing to do. I have faith in myself as a person but was always (and still am partly) comparing myself to others and society's norms. If I wasn't doing what I was supposed to do I would feel guilty. Extreme guilt. This is still the case. It's partly conditioning - my parents were quite forceful in telling me how I should be. My question is how do I ignore other's comments on how I should lead my life and what I'm doing? I find this so hard and constantly beat myself up if something someone says gets to me. I feel as if I constantly need approval. That I need people telling me that 'I'm doing the right thing' and 'well done'. Urgh, I hate this side to myself...
Ross MwcFan Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Hello LS, I have been working on my self esteem for a while - I always tried to blame others for the way I felt. I never felt good enough. It took me a long time to figure out that I needed to take a long hard look at myself. Building my self esteem has been quite a hard thing to do. I have faith in myself as a person but was always (and still am partly) comparing myself to others and society's norms. If I wasn't doing what I was supposed to do I would feel guilty. Extreme guilt. This is still the case. It's partly conditioning - my parents were quite forceful in telling me how I should be. My question is how do I ignore other's comments on how I should lead my life and what I'm doing? I find this so hard and constantly beat myself up if something someone says gets to me. I feel as if I constantly need approval. That I need people telling me that 'I'm doing the right thing' and 'well done'. Urgh, I hate this side to myself... Just remember, whenever anyone tells you you should lead your life a certain way, that there'll be another person somewhere who will say that's wrong and they way you're living is fine. Or there'll be someone who will say you should do the complete opposite.
NewPerspective93 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Do what YOU want! Why would you want to be approved of everyone? One can't simply please everyone, you just have to make it out there and see what happens. Just imagine yourself doing what you're doing and imagine yourself 5 years from now; would you be happy with the way you're living your life? Life is about making mistakes and making a mark out there. Go ahead and live, without giving a f*** about what anyone thinks. Easier said than done, but it has to start somewhere. Regardless, best of luck.
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