FaithInTheDark Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Hi so theres this Guy ive known forever, ive always thought he was extremely sexy, cus he is! We got together last new years and fooled around but never had sex, he said it wasnt responsable without a condom, which is right and i respected even though i wanted to. We fooled around à month after but never went all the way. We ran into eachother again at a party and hung out all night, it was getting really late. We were having a Great meaningful convo next thing i know we were making out and he asked if he could come with me back to my place. So we Did and had some fun, we were really getting into it and i said how bad i wanted him and brought out a condom but he was too soft to even get it on lol, i just find it odd weve never gone all the way , ... Ive never been with à Guy that didnt want to sleep with me, i know Its cus he couldnt get it up , we were drinking but what bout the two other times, have any of you men didnt want to Sleep with a girl? I cant help but wonder
KungFuJoe Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Sounds like your friend might have ED. Erectile dysfunction. Explains his hesitation to have sex the first two times. Perhaps he though the third time would be a charm but apparently not. Unfortunately, since he was unable to get it up the last time it might be even worse if there happens to be a next time. If you really like the guy then perhaps you could bring it up...in a nice way. But it's tricky...he could get offended at the very mention that he might have a problem (denial) so this is something you're gonna have to do or don't do based on feel. 1
LittlePrince Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Sounds like your friend might have ED. Erectile dysfunction. Explains his hesitation to have sex the first two times. Perhaps he though the third time would be a charm but apparently not. Unfortunately, since he was unable to get it up the last time it might be even worse if there happens to be a next time. If you really like the guy then perhaps you could bring it up...in a nice way. But it's tricky...he could get offended at the very mention that he might have a problem (denial) so this is something you're gonna have to do or don't do based on feel. And this is when we begin diagnosing him for something physiologically or psychologically wrong. Who will be the first to claim he is gay this time? 1
Author FaithInTheDark Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 Sounds like your friend might have ED. Erectile dysfunction. Explains his hesitation to have sex the first two times. Perhaps he though the third time would be a charm but apparently not. Unfortunately, since he was unable to get it up the last time it might be even worse if there happens to be a next time. If you really like the guy then perhaps you could bring it up...in a nice way. But it's tricky...he could get offended at the very mention that he might have a problem (denial) so this is something you're gonna have to do or don't do based on feel. That makes so much sense. Hes only 29 but that could very well be that. Hes always avoiding it but yet we do everything else for hours Im Almost gettin bored and wanting to take it to the next level but three times now, never happend.
KungFuJoe Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 That makes so much sense. Hes only 29 but that could very well be that. Hes always avoiding it but yet we do everything else for hours Im Almost gettin bored and wanting to take it to the next level but three times now, never happend. Bring it up, if you really care. He could also just be VERY nervous, but at 29, unless he's been celibate all these years...I don't think it's nerves. At the very least you will know more about his character. If he doesn't go nuts on you and is willing to let you "help" him than it shows that he can swallow his pride because it takes a BIG man to admit he has ED.
LittlePrince Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 That makes so much sense. Hes only 29 but that could very well be that. Hes always avoiding it but yet we do everything else for hours Im Almost gettin bored and wanting to take it to the next level but three times now, never happend. You can't be any sexier than you are so he won't be getting any harder. Might as well move on. Besides you are only turned on by the denial and the resulting sexual tension.
silvermercy Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 (edited) Not sure which science journal I've read this but if it's indeed erectile dysfunction it may be expected as it's common for this to happen to anxious men outside committed relationships; usually because they can not relax enough with their new partner. Curious, are you mostly interested in him because he's sexy? No mention of anything else. Have you gone on any dates to get to know each other (non-sexually I mean)? If you read around here and other places that's not the way to go if you're interested in a serious relationship. Not to mention you're progressing way too fast sexually even by liberal standards. This approach is almost guaranteed to be a recipe for disaster. (Unless you're only interested in a casual situation... But if so, why focus on him in the first place, when you can so easily find other willing sexy men??) Edited December 26, 2012 by silvermercy
Author FaithInTheDark Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 We see each other like twice a year, Im not seeking a serious thing. Hes a good person besides looks, just wondering why he wont finish what Hes started. Not focusing just like Diffrent perspectives
MrCastle Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 The first time, he refused to have sex because of lack of protection (good reason) The second time could have been nerves since knowing you so long and wanting to get the job done. Pressure kills boners. The last time, he 1.) offered to go back to your place and 2.) was drunk If he had ED, why would he make that offer?? He probably had whiskey dick. Poor man being diagnosed by non-professionals who never met him. I doubt it's ED. Bad timing, bad luck maybe. Not ED. Come on. 2
mitchell Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 What did you two do while "fooling around"? Did you give him a BJ? Was he hard then? Did you make him cum and then he did not get hard again (refractory period)? Was he hard when he went down on you?
KathyM Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 If he had been drinking, it's most likely the alcohol that created the inability to get hard. Don't expect a guy to perform if he's been drinking.
KungFuJoe Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Depends on how much he's been drinking. Drunk as ****? yeah...he ain't getting it up. But just the right amount of tipsy?...you'll get it up just as hard and last even longer. Well...for me at least.
Author FaithInTheDark Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 I dont recall him being hard at all. Must of been whisky dick but it def feels he avoids sex, usually men try to go for it. But Yea we were drunk as **** Haha
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