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Cancer Contributing to Breakup?


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My ex boyfriend's father was diagnosed with cancer back in the early summer, and this is when I began to see things changing with him. He kept picking on me for everything, expecting me to be perfect. These were the reasons he stated for breaking up with me...

- my relationship with his parents wasn't where "It should be" after four years

- He didn't like the relationship I have with my mom (I am not very open to her like he is with his mom)

-He said we want different "Things in life," only being able to bring up kids. and he clearly stated he wants to be a father someday (he is only 20)

Also threw in that I was immature and clingy, and we only hung out once a week.

Overall, he said he was "not proud to call me his girlfriend anymore" Thoughts? It seems like family stuff was brought up a lot. He said he is angry that I never asked about his father's cancer, but the family tried covering it up pretending everything was ok, and I didn't want to upset them more. When I did ask after we broke up, he thought I was "sucking up" to him. Not true at all. He never openly spoke about his father's illness. I am currently giving him space and no contact. Thoughts here?

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Thoughts here?

 

Yes, mostly; there's nothing to think about. Move on.

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My bf went through a family war, losing his job and then in hospital with a joint infection which affected him badly. He began to check out and got very distant with me.....it's all ended in tears.

 

Life problems are a funny thing.

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His validations may be valid in his own mind and that is all you can take away from it.

 

I don't know what else to tell you. Aside from the family issues, I believe he wasn't feeling invested in the relationship anymore.

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