CptObvious Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 fap and make lots of money (until you're good enough)
somedude81 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Work on yourself. People nerdier than you, uglier than you, poorer than you, shorter than you, dumber than you, fatter than you, lamer than you, are all out there getting laid. Which proves that few things in the world make any sense. IMO the guys that absolutely suck with women are basically the perfect storm of failure. A whole bunch of things have to go absolutely wrong for a man to completely suck. It's just not natural. It sucks to be chosen as one of the few who never get any luck. But that's just how things turned out.
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 (edited) This thread has some of the darkest, most negative posts I've seen here in a while. Totally disagree with the idea behind the original post. People can, and have, gone from no success to tons of success. I've seen it happen in the real world all the time. I'm living proof of it. No success in my teens and then did a complete 180 the last couple of years and have been stamped with a "player" label that I've been trying to shake off the past few months. Anyone who believes that you have to accept being lonely and unsuccessful in dating forever needs a wake up call. Work on yourself. People nerdier than you, uglier than you, poorer than you, shorter than you, dumber than you, fatter than you, lamer than you, are all out there getting laid. There's a reason why I said mid to late 20s. Guys who suck with women in high school go on to be successful all the time later. High school is totally different. It doesn't represent true society because there's such a strong social hierarchy in place. Even some really cute gals didn't do well in high school But, if you have gone through high school, college, and the bar and young adult scene and are around 28, and you still suck really bad, chances are you will suck forever. Which is not to say you won't get some girl to like you, but be prepared for long periods of droughts and lots of rejection. Which proves that few things in the world make any sense. IMO the guys that absolutely suck with women are basically the perfect storm of failure. A whole bunch of things have to go absolutely wrong for a man to completely suck. It's just not natural. It sucks to be chosen as one of the few who never get any luck. But that's just how things turned out. See, you think about it and you're telling yourself how much it sucks. That's your problem. You have to be happy with your situation ... and keep trying. Do you mind if I ask how old you are? Edited December 27, 2012 by JuneJulySeptember
somedude81 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 See, you think about it and you're telling yourself how much it sucks. That's your problem. You have to be happy with your situation ... and keep trying. Do you mind if I ask how old you are? I'm 31. Never had a GF, never had a casual relationship, never slept around either. It's been roughly over a year that I last had a girl I could hang out with. I'm one of those over 28 guys you talked about who sucked with women his whole life and probably will for the rest of my life. No, I cannot be happy with my situation. There are so many things I'm missing and many that I haven't been able to experience. Right now I'm just barely getting by. And I have to keep trying. For the day I give up, is the day I die.
KungFuJoe Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I'm 31. Never had a GF, never had a casual relationship, never slept around either. It's been roughly over a year that I last had a girl I could hang out with. I'm one of those over 28 guys you talked about who sucked with women his whole life and probably will for the rest of my life. No, I cannot be happy with my situation. There are so many things I'm missing and many that I haven't been able to experience. Right now I'm just barely getting by. And I have to keep trying. For the day I give up, is the day I die. I know I've harped on this plenty of times, but what "measures" have you taken to make yourself more attractive? You might very well be grooming and dressing to the nines...but I find that most of my guy friends who don't do well with women...dress like slobs and don't know the first thing about hairstyles, etc. The ones that do tend to keep themselves "presentable"...they are all either already married or they do well with women (just haven't found the right one yet).
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 I'm 31. Never had a GF, never had a casual relationship, never slept around either. It's been roughly over a year that I last had a girl I could hang out with. I'm one of those over 28 guys you talked about who sucked with women his whole life and probably will for the rest of my life. No, I cannot be happy with my situation. There are so many things I'm missing and many that I haven't been able to experience. Right now I'm just barely getting by. And I have to keep trying. For the day I give up, is the day I die. You'll probably never be a ladies' man. Are you okay with that? If you can tell yourself that you will be happy with finding a nice gal who likes you then you shouldn't be upset with your current situation. You're just making the improvements and waiting for the one who will give you a chance. Based on how your life has been, that may take a while. But you have to be cool with that.
somedude81 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 You'll probably never be a ladies' man. Are you okay with that? Definitley. I'd love to meet a cute, nice girl that isn't crazy and doesn't have a crap load of baggage. A while ago I was close to a girl (as friends) that I would have loved to get serious with. Though as a guy who has no experience with women at all, it's probably not a good idea for me to marry my first GF. I also don't have a clue how sex works in the real world and have heard that it's pretty important. So odds are I'd have to have a couple serious relationships before I settle down. If you can tell yourself that you will be happy with finding a nice gal who likes you then you shouldn't be upset with your current situation. You're just making the improvements and waiting for the one who will give you a chance. Exactly. Though it just sucks so much seeing cool girls walk out of my life without ever being able to date them. This happens over and over When am I finally going to be able to get a chance? Based on how your life has been, that may take a while. But you have to be cool with that. I don't know how much longer I can wait. There is no way I'll make it to 40 if things don't change.
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted December 27, 2012 Author Posted December 27, 2012 (edited) Definitley. I'd love to meet a cute, nice girl that isn't crazy and doesn't have a crap load of baggage. A while ago I was close to a girl (as friends) that I would have loved to get serious with. Though it just sucks so much seeing cool girls walk out of my life without ever being able to date them. This happens over and over When am I finally going to be able to get a chance? I really feel for you man, I really do. You seem like a good guy. I've had it rough too. So I do know what you are going through. You cannot allow yourself to get hung up on anybody. Just try and be happy, keep yourself occupied, and take a chance when you see it. Edited December 27, 2012 by JuneJulySeptember
somedude81 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I really feel for you man, I really do. You seem like a good guy. I've had it rough too. So I do know what you are going through. You cannot allow yourself to get hung up on anybody. Just try and be happy, keep yourself occupied, and take a chance when you see it. Thanks dude. Keeping myself occupied is the trick. And of course jumping any opportunities I think I see.
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