Cam116 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I posted earlier about getting a Merry Christmas text from my exes parents, telling me that they missed me and were thinking of me. It was very thoughtful, but did make me a mess because I miss them so much. A few hours later, I was at my friends place having quiche and mimosas, and having a conversation with her about how badly I wanted to wish him a Merry Christmas, but that it wouldn't be a good idea and whatnot. In the middle of the conversation, my ex texted me! He said : "Hey, Merry Christmas. Just want to let you know (although its still classified information) that Alli (his sister) went into labor around 8 this morning. Will let you know when the presents ruining brat is born!" So I wished him a Merry Christmas, and told him how excited I was for her and to let me know when the kid arrives. We texted back and forth a little playful, joking banter, and that was that. Now, this isn't earth shattering, but I'm so happy that he updated me on this when he had no obligation to do so. Guess he still does want to be friends and have me in his life ey? This just made me feel better, that when he said he did want to be friends he meant it. And that I still mean SOMETHING to him, I know it's not in a romantic way, but he is still my best friend and I want to be able to continue to have a good relationship with him. So my friend asked if I was going to go visit her. Oy. I wasn't super close with her, we didn't really hang out together aside from family parties, so I don't think I should go visit her (unless he were to encourage me to, which I doubt he will). But, should I send her something? A gift? Flowers? Or should I just congratulate her and her hubby and leave it at that?
Mcnulty Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Don't send her anything. He's relaying info in a friendly way, but you don't want to impinge on his family life also. I got a few texts off my ex, nice they were, but I know we aint gonna get back, too much happened as a couple to ever contemplate anything romantic, I've accepted this...have you? Only have a friendship if you are at this point, or you're heading for hurt. 1
Author Cam116 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 He just texted me to tell me she had the baby. I called him and he answered, told me he was waiting in the hospital to go and see her and his new nephew. He said today was a little crazy, understandable, but he said he was really excited to meet the little one. He said he would call later when he got more details and pictures. He told me to text her and congratulate, because he said he was pretty sure her phone was with her. So I did that. Guess I shouldn't send a present, but I still feel like I want to. Advice?
jags2bowl27 Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 He just texted me to tell me she had the baby. I called him and he answered, told me he was waiting in the hospital to go and see her and his new nephew. He said today was a little crazy, understandable, but he said he was really excited to meet the little one. He said he would call later when he got more details and pictures. He told me to text her and congratulate, because he said he was pretty sure her phone was with her. So I did that. Guess I shouldn't send a present, but I still feel like I want to. Advice? Dont send a present, the congrats is enough. She knows you love her and care about her. A present will not do you any good.
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