Author SJC2008 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 You're overreacting. I also thought she wasn't that bitchy. Just standard bitchy Captsaveaho is absolutely right, she is testing you (your limits of how much bs you will take from her), even if she doesn't realize it consciously. Don't take it too seriously as you did, but at the same time don't let her step on you in the beginning or it will set up a precedent. Women like it when they realize that a man won't put up with bs from her or let her treat him like sht. I guess men do the same test with women? As someone said above, I think it's quite hard to gauge someone's personality in the first/second dates. I am a super extroverted person, but if I really like the guy I may get a little nervous and quiet or act in ways I don't usually do in the beginning (shooting my feet, yay!). I never said she was bitchy I just noticed a pattern and asked if this is normal becasue I don't have a lot of dating exp. So if that is overreacting and blowing things out of proportion then guilty as charged!!!
CptSaveAho Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Every woman is going to test you for the rest of your life In friendships, dating, relationships, marriage, etc... its how they operate You have 3 options 1) Get use to it 2) Be single for the rest of your life and play video games 3) Go the gay route People with no to poor relationship / dating experience are POOR people readers.
edgygirl Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 I never said she was bitchy I just noticed a pattern and asked if this is normal becasue I don't have a lot of dating exp. So if that is overreacting and blowing things out of proportion then guilty as charged!!! And now you're overeating with me? Was just trying to help dude. See, instead of focusing in the important part of my advice to you, you fixated in the one thing that was not important at all. I jokingly said she was bitchy. Hope you can get it when a girl is being sarcastic with you irl. Relax.
CptSaveAho Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 And now you're overeating with me? Was just trying to help dude. See, instead of focusing in the important part of my advice to you, you fixated in the one thing that was not important at all. I jokingly said she was bitchy. Hope you can get it when a girl is being sarcastic with you irl. Relax. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Did words come out of her mouth? If so then yes it was a test Point proven
Author SJC2008 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 Every woman is going to test you for the rest of your life In friendships, dating, relationships, marriage, etc... its how they operate You have 3 options 1) Get use to it 2) Be single for the rest of your life and play video games 3) Go the gay route People with no to poor relationship / dating experience are POOR people readers. So how do I pass these tests? What exactly is playing dumb? Would you have said anything about the seat comment or just in one ear and out the other?? I hate this crap man I just want to meet a woman and be myself and not worry about passing tests and stuff...
edgygirl Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Sometimes a few comments are best ignored and should not be taken seriously. But if something really offended you, I think women react better if you call on their lack of sensibility to something you didn't like to hear or think wasn't very fair, instead of playing games to get back at her or so. First of all keep in mind that it's almost unconscious, so you don't get angry when a woman does it. In your case, I would either just let it pass or put her in her place in a tender way, saying something like: "hey, I did my best and I am sorry if you're not happy with the seats I got us. Next time you can either let me know beforehand the place you usually like to sit or you can let me know if you prefer to get the tickets yourself so you can chose the ones you prefer. Don't say it in a passive aggressive manner, say it tenderly and looking at her. What this accomplishes is to show her you were offended by her criticism when you did the best you could with the data available to you and make her think better before the next time she criticizes you in vain. You can apply this type of sincerity to almost any situation, I think. It's not about playing games really. It's more about establishing the right communication while also not letting the women walk over you and think they can be biatchy with no consequences. If you don't cut it and let it escalate on her side, it can make her lose respect for you.
Divasu Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Now I'm curious... Where in the movie theatre exactly did you two sit, that she had such an issue with?
edgygirl Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 ps: You can and should be yourself. But there are a few power dynamics that occur in relationships that should be worked on correctly so the relationship can thrive.
LittlePrince Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Now I'm curious... Where in the movie theatre exactly did you two sit, that she had such an issue with? In the movie theatre. That was the problem. Lunacy is best left unanalyzed.
Divasu Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 In the movie theatre. That was the problem. Lunacy is best left unanalyzed. Hahaa....LittlePrince.
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