Cam116 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. I was holding up today SO WELL until I just got a text from his parents wishing me a merry christmas, and that they were thinking of me and missed me. UGH! It was thoughtful, but now I'm a mess I love them all so much. Just had to vent
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. I was holding up today SO WELL until I just got a text from his parents wishing me a merry christmas, and that they were thinking of me and missed me. UGH! It was thoughtful, but now I'm a mess I love them all so much. Just had to vent That sucks! Im sorry to hear that. I keep checking my phone to see if my EX text me, and its kinda ruining my Christmas to be honest. I wish that for one day, I could forget about it.
Author Cam116 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 I'm kinda doing the same thing, but I tried to prepare myself for this day and woke up with absolutely no expectations of him wishing me a merry christmas, and it's helped. Any text I get I've been telling myself it's someone else, and it's been working. We are on very good terms, but I'm really trying to stick to NC for a while. Getting this text just made me want to call him so badly, but I'm NOT. GOING. TO. lol
jags2bowl27 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I'm kinda doing the same thing, but I tried to prepare myself for this day and woke up with absolutely no expectations of him wishing me a merry christmas, and it's helped. Any text I get I've been telling myself it's someone else, and it's been working. We are on very good terms, but I'm really trying to stick to NC for a while. Getting this text just made me want to call him so badly, but I'm NOT. GOING. TO. lol Dont! Mine texted a few days ago wishing me a good holiday and it was such a good move! I dont have any feeling to wish someone that doesnt want to be with me a merry xmas. Done budge, it can only bring more hurt. Im hoping she doesnt text me
Amelie1980 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I'm having the worst Christmas ever because of something like this. I wanna die.
NoMoreJerks Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. I was holding up today SO WELL until I just got a text from his parents wishing me a merry christmas, and that they were thinking of me and missed me. UGH! It was thoughtful, but now I'm a mess I love them all so much. Just had to vent Look on the bright side, you are at least on friendly terms with his parents. IMO, if I knew my ex's parents and they were so supportive and told me they missed me and were thinking of me (despite their son's break-up with me), I'd find that very pleasing and helpful and supportive, and would be happy rather than anxious/stressed/depressed. Sure, it reminds you of what is gone, because now you're just someone their son was dating, but you have established a relationship with them that is probably going to outlive the relationship you had with your bf/ex. Hang in there. xoxo
bdizzle Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Thought I would have heard from her today as well. I look back to last year and how we all woke up and the kids tore into their gifts and we opened ours, and then she made breakfast. Later in the day the parents came over and did the dinner/gift thing with them as well. All I'm saying is compared to last year, I know their up and about now and yet, not even something as trivial as a Merry Christmas. I realize the day is not over yet, or even close, but knowing her and her phone habits...definitely a hard pill to swallow. Today is day 6 of NC.
becks77 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 well I was doing great - not even thinking about him - 1 month NC yesterday - and then he sends me this: "Hey, feels strange not wishing you a happy christmas - hope you have a lovely day x" Wish he hadn't - even though it's a nice text - it just made me think about him when I didn't want to - be careful what you wish for! It's better not to hear from them today of all days! 1
NoMoreJerks Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 well I was doing great - not even thinking about him - 1 month NC yesterday - and then he sends me this: "Hey, feels strange not wishing you a happy christmas - hope you have a lovely day x" Wish he hadn't - even though it's a nice text - it just made me think about him when I didn't want to - be careful what you wish for! It's better not to hear from them today of all days! You know, I never understood how exes actually can write "x" at the end of the sentence.... I mean, that's supposed to be a kiss, no? In what capacity do they think they can send their kisses to someone they broke up with?!? I don't get it. My ex did this in his last message after breaking up with me 2 days ago.. What is that even supposed to mean? Is that some sort of thing they do to rid themselves of the guilt? To make you feel like they still care about you (as friends, or whatever)? Or just out of habit? I don't get it.
Author Cam116 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 SWEET BABY JESUS. Okay, so I was just at my friends place having quiche and mimosas, and having a conversation with her about how badly I wanted to wish him a merry christmas, but that it wouldn't be a good idea and whatnot. In the middle of the convo, my ex texted me! He said : "Hey, merry christmas. Just want to let you know (although its still classified information) that Alli (his sister) went into labor around 8 this morning. Will let you know when the presents ruining brat is born!" So I wished him a merry christmas, and told him how excited I was for her and to let me know when the kid arrives. We texted back and forth a little playful, joking banter, and that was that. Now, this isn't earth shattering, but I'm so happy that he updated me on this when he had no obligation to do so. Guess he still does want to be friends and have me in his life ey? This just made me feel better, that when he said he did want to be friends he meant it. And that I still mean SOMETHING to him, I know it's not in a romantic way, but he is still my best friend and I want to be able to continue to have a good relationship with him. So my friend asked if I was going to go visit her. Oy. I wasn't super close with her, we didn't really hang out together aside from family parties, so I don't think I should go visit her (unless he were to encourage me to, which I doubt he will). But, should I send her something? A gift? Flowers? Or should I just congratulate her and her hubby and leave it at that? 1
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