irc333 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I was wondering, has anyone noticed a real difference and perhaps might have thought they weeded out the person that they COULD have dated based on superficial criteria....when in fact, if they had met that VERY same person ...at a party, friends house or through a group of friends. That they could've been attracted to them in person? I knew of a few situations like this, there was this one guy, emailed a woman he saw on POF, lived closeby actually.....but of course, got the same results most men get online .....no reply. SO he moved on. One day he's out at some downtown street party, open to the public, and sees her at a vendor booth. He does the "cold approach", gets to know her, and she's immediately charmed. He never mentions (at least not yet), he's emailed her on POF. So they go out on a few dates, and they are really hitting it off. Finally, he mentions to her that he had seen her on POF before he made his cold approach and even emailed her, nary to get a reply. She kind of looked at him as if she felt bad or actually shocked...she said, "Oh my gosh! Had I known it was YOU, I would have replied!" But, it's hindsight, there's know way to have KNOWN it was HIM at THAT time. That beings aid, thus the boundary of online dating is probably keeping single longer than ever. Yes?
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I was wondering, has anyone noticed a real difference and perhaps might have thought they weeded out the person that they COULD have dated based on superficial criteria....when in fact, if they had met that VERY same person ...at a party, friends house or through a group of friends. That they could've been attracted to them in person? It's definitely true. It also works in reverse: A person who looks good "on paper" might not be someone you connect with when you meet. Or even find attractive. Online dating is just another option for meeting people, and it certainly has its pitfalls. I don't think it's wise to depend upon it.
Author irc333 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 It's definitely true. It also works in reverse: A person who looks good "on paper" might not be someone you connect with when you meet. Or even find attractive. Online dating is just another option for meeting people, and it certainly has its pitfalls. I don't think it's wise to depend upon it. Online dating also depends on the individual and what they're making out of it. There are some people out there that behave like online meets are just as well as face to face meets. They see no border between the two, that's great that it means they have an open mind like that. I tend to click with those personality types....even if I've met them online.
SunsetRed Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 TRUE. I'm slower to open up and get to know someone I met online. Part of me thinks that if they are dating online, they must be crazy or have something wrong with them (even though I'm also dating online).. When I meet a guy in real life, the meeting is more natural and not a set up, so I trust him more and open up more.
Casablanca Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 A few things to add to this 1) Women get tons of messages a day, and I wouldnt be shocked if it was easy to miss a message or two on accident that just gets buried with all the filth 2) A person's personality doesn't always jump out on paper and an in person approach works great for some people as they can show off their personality 3) Some people do not photograph well and look better in person I think with OLD people are probably a bit more picky as you can weed out people, but you just never know. Someone can look good on paper, but you just don't have chemistry (I've been there, actually went out on like 6 dates with this one woman because on paper she was perfect, but I just did not feel a spark) and then in person, you're not looking at a list of 30 other people, it is just you and the one person you're talking to at that moment
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