Girlfriend broke up with me because of my low self esteem and confidence

[lenora90]

I had know this girl for 6 months, but we had dated for 4. The breakup was civil, but i was devastated. This was just over a week ago. Because she wanted to remain friends, we still chat a few times a week but just small talk.

 

She said she broke up with me because we didn't click and I know that's down to my low self esteem. I never had to confidence to give her the full affection I wanted to give her and she would always initiate public displays of affection, which I wouldn't always return.

 

Also, the relationship wasn't always so equal. We live about an hour apart and she would always be the one to travel to me. I was supposed to go up to hers for her birthday but cancelled last minute.. once again, due to my confidence. The next day, she broke up with me :/

 

I'm so angry I let this girl I love so much go because of my self confidence and low self esteem. Of all the girls I have been with, I have only felt this way about 2 (including her of course).

 

I used to be outgoing, confident and talkative, THAT person that everyone enjoys being around and gets along with but that all changed within the last 1.5 years. I am determined to get back to the old me so I can love myself again.

 

My question is.. Once she sees how I genuinely used to be, with a positive outlook in life, more self esteem and just generally happy with myself.. Do I have a chance of getting her back?

[Mcnulty]

So all of a sudden, because she ended it, you're going to return her affection and actually make the effort and go to see her instead of the other way around?

 

Come on man, I don't think either of them 2 things are because of lack of confidence.

 

Be honest with yourself and if you still insist it was due to your lack of confidence, go see a counsellor....you didn't click in her eyes, time to walk away and honestly analyze the reasons for the break up.

[Amelie1980]

I've been out with someone who had low confidence. It was horrible. he leeched off me in college and I couldn't even see my friends as I would be accused of not caring or having any sympathy for him. he wouldn't leave me alone as there was nothing he was happy about in his life.

 

Give up on relationships for now. sort yourself out and try again when you feel better.

[nsteen87]

It's natural to feel a little down and off post-breakup. I certainly am nowhere near my usual self, but you take baby steps and get better every day.

 

You shouldn't necessarily believe you have low self esteem or develop an inferiority complex as a result of this breakup! It's natural, but NOT healthy to second guess and blame yourself every way possible when you get dumped.

 

You must learn to be happy with yourself again, and then you will regain your confidence and swagger.

 

Like the old saying goes, "Confidence is Contagious" and no guy/girl wants to be with someone without it!

 

Get your confidence back, and be happier than ever before and it will KILL her!