MinnieM Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Hi guys, i'm still having a hard time coping with the break up. It would be better if you guys read my first thread. Basically, we have been broken up for nearly 3 months now. I was with him for 15 months, he cheated before with my own friend but i forgave him. In october i saw his facebook message to another girl that he sent on sept. i confronted him calmly and ask for break up because i couldnt accept the unfaithfulness this time. I thought that he would come back and said sorry and wanted to fix our relationship but he didnt show any effort. He deleted our pics on fb 6 days after i broke up with him. No contact, no effort from him at all until now. I'm honestly still so sad and couldnt believe it why wouldnt he give any effort? when everything was good before the break up, we met everyday and always spent time together. no sign of withdrawal from him. He was so close to my parents and always meet them and bring them around whenever my parents come and visit me. (Im studying abroad) and my parents are extremely good and generous to him. I thought if he would feel sorry and wanted to make things right, i will consider to take him back. But he never showed any effort and never feel sorry. Why? i thought he did love me. why would he let go easily? How can a person be good and loving one day and change the next day when i confronted him? In fact it was his fault. He should be the one who try to make things right. But why? Why am i left here, sad and abandoned like a piece of trash. After everything that had happened between us???? Please help me guys. I really dont know what to think anymore. Never thought things would come to this.
Lexie82 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I'm sorry you feel so hurt. I know exactly how you feel. I was with my ex for 3 years and we broke up in February. I was crushed and heartbroken and to be honest the pain is still there but it does gradually get easier. He isn't worth it. Do you really want to waste your life with someone who can't be bothered to work to keep his relationship? It's not a reflection on you, it's a problem with him. You mentioned that he had cheated on you but that you forgave him - can you honestly and truly say that you 100% trusted him again after that? I know my ex cheated on me and I forgave him but no matter how much I wanted to I could never completely trust him again. Please dont waste more energy and time on someone who lies, cheats and can't be bothered; you are worth so much more than that and deserve better.
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