th90 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 My ex broke up with me 8 weeks ago and have NC for 7 weeks. The last time I looked at my ex's facebook page is about 20days ago and I've been refraining myself since. I got in touch with a mutual friend today and out of curiosity I went on facebook to look at his page but MUCH to my surprise, he has deactivated it. LIKE WHYYY would he do that? He was the one who broke up with me(after 7 years)! My ex is the type of person who doesn't update his statuses much or upload pics. Mostly his friends would tag him in pictures, write stuffs on his wall. Basically he only uses facebook chat to talk to his friends and same goes for me. I've unsubscribed him from my news feed 1 week after the break up so I really have no idea what he's doing unless I take a peek at his profile. I know this doesn't really matter. It's really non of my business anymore but I need to get it off my chest! Anyone has stories to share?
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 My ex broke up with me 8 weeks ago and have NC for 7 weeks. The last time I looked at my ex's facebook page is about 20days ago and I've been refraining myself since. I got in touch with a mutual friend today and out of curiosity I went on facebook to look at his page but MUCH to my surprise, he has deactivated it. LIKE WHYYY would he do that? He was the one who broke up with me(after 7 years)! My ex is the type of person who doesn't update his statuses much or upload pics. Mostly his friends would tag him in pictures, write stuffs on his wall. Basically he only uses facebook chat to talk to his friends and same goes for me. I've unsubscribed him from my news feed 1 week after the break up so I really have no idea what he's doing unless I take a peek at his profile. I know this doesn't really matter. It's really non of my business anymore but I need to get it off my chest! Anyone has stories to share? I hate facebook now.....its WAY too easy to find out what your ex may or may not be doing and it creates this massive s**tstorm in your head of overthinking and projecting things that are not there. I am very bad at this as well. Whats sad is I called her after the BU and said you need to block me because I know myself and if I block you BUT I still have ways of seeing it. I know my ex "likes" someone currently and facebook has made me so nosey, I know that he is out of town with his family for the next week lol....It makes no contact and trying to move on THAT much harder. To answer your question, my ex has been deactivating and reactivating her facebook recently. She will have it, deactivate it for a day or two, reactivate it...rinse and repeat. Because I feel like I'm still apart of her life (pipe dream) as she is made a camp in my mind, I automatically think its because of me or something. She broke up with me three months ago so maybe she was unblocking me then trying to block me back but it takes 48 hours to reblock someone, so I get mildly excited that maybe she still cares what I'm doing....or another 900 reasons it could be. I dont know why she keeps doing it, but it's really none of my business. In your situation, your ex might have been bored of it and deleted it, he might not want you to see him talking to another female, he might be annoyed with it, he might be sad possibly looking at your stuff etc etc....again, there is 900 different things it could be, and this is where facebook is the f****** devil. Social media is not cool.
Author th90 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 I hate facebook now.....its WAY too easy to find out what your ex may or may not be doing and it creates this massive s**tstorm in your head of overthinking and projecting things that are not there. I am very bad at this as well. Whats sad is I called her after the BU and said you need to block me because I know myself and if I block you BUT I still have ways of seeing it. I know my ex "likes" someone currently and facebook has made me so nosey, I know that he is out of town with his family for the next week lol....It makes no contact and trying to move on THAT much harder. To answer your question, my ex has been deactivating and reactivating her facebook recently. She will have it, deactivate it for a day or two, reactivate it...rinse and repeat. Because I feel like I'm still apart of her life (pipe dream) as she is made a camp in my mind, I automatically think its because of me or something. She broke up with me three months ago so maybe she was unblocking me then trying to block me back but it takes 48 hours to reblock someone, so I get mildly excited that maybe she still cares what I'm doing....or another 900 reasons it could be. I dont know why she keeps doing it, but it's really none of my business. In your situation, your ex might have been bored of it and deleted it, he might not want you to see him talking to another female, he might be annoyed with it, he might be sad possibly looking at your stuff etc etc....again, there is 900 different things it could be, and this is where facebook is the f****** devil. Social media is not cool. Wonder why they do that especially when they are the dumpers. Come to think of it, maybe he's just worried that I may see his pictures with someone else. Yup, that must be it. Well even talking to a mutual friend sets me back a lot. It makes me feel like I'm still connected to my ex in someway and it sucks.
Inviv_girl Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Facebook is f...evil! Im glad I dont have my ex- on my facebook anymore. He broke up with me and move on with his happy life on facebook! Many pictures, fun party status bla bla bla.... It sets me back many times and I cant help myself for creeping on his profile! stupid it sounds but yeh broken heart really sucks!!! dont worry about stupid facebook.
Author th90 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 Facebook is f...evil! Im glad I dont have my ex- on my facebook anymore. He broke up with me and move on with his happy life on facebook! Many pictures, fun party status bla bla bla.... It sets me back many times and I cant help myself for creeping on his profile! stupid it sounds but yeh broken heart really sucks!!! dont worry about stupid facebook. Ya, it's hard. I think I secretly want to know he's not doing good so I'd feel better. But then I actually hope he's happy so at least he didn't break my heart for nothing. Well one of the reasons I kept him on facebook is to train my own self-control. It's when I got so tempted to see but I didn't that will make me feel stronger. I thought for very long before looking yesterday. I told myself it's not going to affect me at all which convinced me to see. But ya, so surprised he has already deactivated his account god knows for how long. lol
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