Grendelsmom Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I was always sincere. Went out of my way to help him, encourage him, give him all the support he wanted. I have slowly realised that he never loved me..he was just fond of me and didnt have the balls to break up with me. He suddenly grew cold and started ignoring me... i realised and i asked him. he said he didnt want to do it anymore.. its been 3 months and he played his share of mind games with me..and im back to square one. i m on NC since a month. he tried calling me just once.. thats it! how long does this ordeal last.. guys please tell me it will get better..
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 In time it will get better, as you moveon, and find a person who will love you and you them. It might take months or not...but eventually 1
Author Grendelsmom Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 In time it will get better, as you moveon, and find a person who will love you and you them. It might take months or not...but eventually I hope so too.. i m so disappointed at myself for letting it affect me while hes out there laughing and enjoying his new found freedom possibly screwing other women.. but yea.. i m better than what i was yesterday..
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I hope so too.. i m so disappointed at myself for letting it affect me while hes out there laughing and enjoying his new found freedom possibly screwing other women.. but yea.. i m better than what i was yesterday.. How long were you together? That usually plays a big part....
betterdeal Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I was always sincere. Went out of my way to help him, encourage him, give him all the support he wanted. I have slowly realised that he never loved me..he was just fond of me and didnt have the balls to break up with me. He suddenly grew cold and started ignoring me... i realised and i asked him. he said he didnt want to do it anymore.. its been 3 months and he played his share of mind games with me..and im back to square one. i m on NC since a month. he tried calling me just once.. thats it! how long does this ordeal last.. guys please tell me it will get better.. It will last until you are ready to let it go. These are your feelings that are going on inside your head. Someday you'll decide you're just sort of tired of it, and that you're ready to start again. When you're ready you'll be happy it happened not sad it's over, and that's when the light begins to shine again. 2
NavyAirTraffic Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Time is just a piece of the equation. When you decide to truly move on "he's not worth it, I don't want him back, I can and WILL do better, and I won't EVER go back to him/her", that's when the progress begins. That's when you start to do the work to transition from "couple you" to "happy, content, single you". You can spend years hurting if you're not willing to let go and move on. This is a scary proposition, because we all know, as soon as you "decide", reconciliation immediately begins to die. Most dumpees aren't willing to give that up. 2
Author Grendelsmom Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 was together for a year.. but i think he was preparing to leave a couple of months before
MyAngel Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 How do you know he never really loved you? Did he say? And when you say preparing to leave, was he distant/not spending as much time with you? Hope you can feel better soon xx
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