veggirl Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 That's the thing though. He DOES act like he's interested in me which is why I'm so confused by his behavior. I can take rejection, but he's NOT acting like he's not interested in me. So I'm not sure where you guys are getting this from, just because he didn't kiss me? Then how do you explain the rest of his behavior. Why don't you try to kiss him? I would be irritated by his mixed signals and move on, but if you want to wait/try, then go in and kiss him or ask him what the deal is and then stay quiet until he answers like an adult. 1
Author sharsh Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 Mme. Chaucer: Thank you! At least someone understood what I was saying, and why it had me confused. I kind of assumed it probably wasn't going anywhere, since he seems so confused. Which, I'm okay with, he's still a really good person, I'd like to stay friends with. Thank you for all your input! veggirl: I am a little irritated by all this lol. I haven't tried to kiss him, because the idea of it seems to make him uncomfortable... I mean we talked about kissing &other things, over facebook.. But then when we hung out the next time, and I called him out on not kissing me before he leaves, he kind of looked like a deer in headlights. Then explained, over text, after he left, he couldn't kiss me, because he wasn't ready to date anyone until after he took his mcats, because it would be too much of a distraction... But I never asked to be his girlfriend. I just wanted a kiss! haha.
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 He wants you but can't have you since he has an important goal that requires more concentration he could give it if in a proper relationship. 1
Keenly Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 just lean in and go for it. This is really your only sure fire way to tell for sure whats going on. If he is as shy as we all speculate, he may not "participate" so to speak but he sure as hell wont resist. If he resists or pulls back, you have your answer.
Author sharsh Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 He's already told me no, so to speak, about kissing him.. I'd feel like I'm disrespecting his wishes if I just went for it anyway... regardless if he allows it or not.
edgygirl Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I'm assuming that the OP is being honest in her description of the circumstances. If she is, she is describing a situation where a guy is showing many signs of being interested in her. He has NOT rejected her. He seems to shy away at every instance of taking their relationship to a physical level, even kissing, yet he keeps acting interested. I know a lot of gay people, and stories like this were part of some of their lives. Gay or not, OP, it doesn't sound like this is going anywhere. In addition to the above, the guy also seems to try really hard to get his parents involved with OP, giving the impression he's trying really hard to show his religious parents that he has a gf. 1
Keenly Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 He's already told me no, so to speak, about kissing him.. I'd feel like I'm disrespecting his wishes if I just went for it anyway... regardless if he allows it or not. How many times in history has a WOMAN said no, but really meant yes? Maybe he is just experiencing this phenomena.
Keenly Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 (edited) No means no. Said no romantic movie ever the point I'm making in regards to kissing is sometimes a womans mouth says no, but inside she is screaming to be kissed. I have seen this happen personally on two different occasions. Edited December 25, 2012 by Keenly
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 No means no. except when it means yes.
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