Marie0708 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Hi, I've found that it is much easier for me to deal with heartache if I don't think about the new love interests in their lives. I feel crushed whenever I think about his new girlfriend getting introduced to the family this Christmas and snuggling together by the fire. But if I just imagine that his rejection comes from a disinterest in me rather than an interest in her, then it's easier to move on. Anyone else experience this??
Angel Heart Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Yes I have experienced this coping mechanism. If I dwell on what he is up to, I become sad and discouraged. I rarely think of him now and just hope the best for him regardless of how we ended it. I cared for this partner and the caring doesn't stop: it just becomes a different type of caring and the memories lessens over time. I am wishing him the best regardless and am trying to move on in a positive and productive way. As the New Year approaches, I will take what I have learned from past partners and better myself physically, mentally and emotionally. Best wishes to you and yours and take care. 1
Minadee Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I wish this worked for me. The pain is still very very raw, and thinking of him buying her presents and seeing her family on this day is like a knife slowly twisting into my stomach. I wish him the best because I still love him. I hope the new year will bring me inner peace.
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