bolase Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 In some ways this is very similar to the poster below's thread about a girl he doesn't know whether hates or likes him. It's pretty inconsequential but on my mind any help would be great! There's this guy, 6 years younger than me (I'm 28) who is friends with some of my friends (who are all around my age). We spent most of a party bantering and having fun last week. We weren't drunk and it wasn't really flirty. Then he came out for drinks with us the other night and would constantly put me down in the group in a really condescending way. Like to suggest I was trying too hard, or not smart, or not funny. He thinks he's super smart as a lot of 22 year old guys do mind you. I have never had the kind of comments he threw around directed at me before, and when I walked home I was actually feeling upset and wondering why he was after my attention yet being an ******* to me. The next night, he wrote some nice comments on my FB page and liked some stuff of mine. He's never done that. He really was an *** that night though. What do you think?
FitChick Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Why would you want to date someone that immature?
Author bolase Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 I don't! I just got upset at this behaviour before figuring when sober that it might have been him liking me, not hating me, and wanted to ask you guys. I'm not used to being attacked; it was extremely rude.
RachR Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Maybe he read some lame Pickup Artist tips on some website. But why even bother trying to figure out if he was flirting? It's gross. Next! 1
CptObvious Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Yes its an old pua tactic. ..Yes it will still work.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I think it's called " negging". According to the PUA community, being condescending to the pretty girl makes her feel bad about herself because she's so likeable yet there's a guy who wouldn't pay her any good attention. She then becomes conflicted and would go out of her way to impress the guy to make him like her. 1
Divasu Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 It's not flirting. It's happened to me several times, and just very recently guy started off being sweet, I told him I was not interested, and then for the rest of the night he made joke after joke about my heritage until I finally told him to shut the bleep up. That seemed to work.
Author bolase Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 It's not flirting. It's happened to me several times, and just very recently guy started off being sweet, I told him I was not interested, and then for the rest of the night he made joke after joke about my heritage until I finally told him to shut the bleep up. That seemed to work. Hmm, this isn't me though. I never told him I was not interested, have always been friendly until he started the comments. LOL if its actually a pua tactic. Thats terrible.
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 In some ways this is very similar to the poster below's thread about a girl he doesn't know whether hates or likes him. It's pretty inconsequential but on my mind any help would be great! There's this guy, 6 years younger than me (I'm 28) who is friends with some of my friends (who are all around my age). We spent most of a party bantering and having fun last week. We weren't drunk and it wasn't really flirty. Then he came out for drinks with us the other night and would constantly put me down in the group in a really condescending way. Like to suggest I was trying too hard, or not smart, or not funny. He thinks he's super smart as a lot of 22 year old guys do mind you. I have never had the kind of comments he threw around directed at me before, and when I walked home I was actually feeling upset and wondering why he was after my attention yet being an ******* to me. The next night, he wrote some nice comments on my FB page and liked some stuff of mine. He's never done that. He really was an *** that night though. What do you think? Some women aren't use to the gentle teasing that is a hallmark of flirtation and take it the same way a preschooler would as insults.
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Hmm, this isn't me though. I never told him I was not interested, have always been friendly until he started the comments. LOL if its actually a pua tactic. Thats terrible. This lot think everything is a pua tactic even normal dating.
Author bolase Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 you're equally terrible Little prince
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 you're equally terrible Little prince I know but I try so hard to be much much more.....terrible. Can't you at least judge me on my effort. I really am trying.
sid3 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 LOL if its actually a pua tactic. Thats terrible. Could have been, sounds more like an insecure little man with self esteem issues. 1
Author bolase Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 dangit just trying to tell you what you want to hear LP. You are terriblest. Yes, the guy does have self esteem issues I think.
Divasu Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Hmm, this isn't me though. I never told him I was not interested, have always been friendly until he started the comments. LOL if its actually a pua tactic. Thats terrible. Don't worry about it too much... He's a boob.
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Don't worry about it too much... He's a boob. She has boobies. Even Eharmony couldn't make a more perfect match.
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Just the fact that this arrogant little douchebag is 22 years old should be enough to scare you off as you're 28. Why would you even want to lower yourself to bothering with this man-child? A younger mate makes a blossoming cougar feel still young.
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