imberli11 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 had been seeing this guy for the past 3 months. We were officially a couple for 2 of those 3 months; he's 19 and I'm 20. I was his first girlfriend since he broke up with his ex of 3 years whom he has a daughter with; they broke up about 4 months before we started seeing each other. He broke it off with her because she was physically abusive to him and they always fought; he always told me how happy he was to have met someone like me because I was nothing like his ex and he didn't even know people could be as nice as me. I ended up loosing my virginity to him because I felt like he was the right guy and I knew I wouldn't regret it (I still don't btw I just wish things were different). As part of his ex's and his custody arrangement they saw each other pretty much every other day when they traded their daughter. I didn't have any problem with this because from what he and his family and friends were telling me he was over her and had no plans to go back. About 2 months into us seeing each other he found out that his ex had a new boyfriend and he told her he was dating me; after that things started to change. She is very manipulative and would call him pleading to get back together with him. Through all of this he claimed that his feelings for me were still the same and that he really liked me and wanted to stay with me. About three weeks ago he texted me saying that he doesn't know what he needs right now as far as us and that he needs time to figure himself out. Then I found out from his brothers girlfriend(they all live together, and she is one of my best friends) that he was back with his ex. I texted him and pretty much said how I felt that everything he had been telling me these past 3 months had been a lie for him just to go back to her the second he got space. He still assured me that he was 100% truthful with everything he had ever told me and he wishes I was his first love and first for everything because Im the girl he could see himself growing old with. He told his brother and his gf(my friend) that he knows he is stupid for going back to her and that Im the girl he wants to be with, that he was possibly starting to fall in love with me and all that stuff. I don't know what to think, should I hold onto the hope that he will realize how much he misses me and that things with his ex aren't ever going to work? or do I move on? Iv'e seen him a few times since we broke up since I go to his house to hangout with my friend and he avoids me which I think is weird since he's the one that ended it. I know in my head that I should just move on; but I still really want this to work..... ugh
Author imberli11 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 Thanks for your reply But he isn't dating my friend; My friend is his brothers girlfriend and they all 3 live together. I am really trying to do the whole wait it out and see where it goes thing.
Samilia Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I agree, I would back off for a while. The whole "oh but I'm just here to visit my friend" might be true but let's face it, it probably seems like he can't get rid of you now. If you want to see your friend, I'd see her outside the house, at least for a month or two, till the whole situation cools off.
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