somedude81 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 It never stops being frustrating. Guess it takes balls to say no, which is why many women can't do it. 3
edgygirl Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 As well as many men. Both do it. Not a matter of balls. 4
Badsingularity Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Better than the ones who will tell you to f off and then laugh as you're walking away.
Author somedude81 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 As well as many men. Both do it. Not a matter of balls. I'm not trying to date men. All I know is that the vast majority of women I've tried to interact with in a romantic way always played the ignore card. I can really only think of one girl in the past four or so years who actually told me that she wasn't interested. I was so proud of her.
Mycteria Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Plus when you reject a man, a lot of the times he responds by wanting know why, or wanting to argue. Sometimes even with hostility. I used to explain why, until I learned that it doesn't do any good or make it any easier. 6
iris219 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 As them out face to face and they won't be able to ignore you. Problem solved. Funny you say women have no balls when you're the one who isn't asking a woman out in person! 1
bobsmith76 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 It never stops being frustrating. Guess it takes balls to say no, which is why many women can't do it. Don't let it bother you. The point is to not get demoralized because getting demoralized decreases your chances of finding someone. You only need to find one.
Author somedude81 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 Plus when you reject a man, a lot of the times he responds by wanting know why, or wanting to argue. Sometimes even with hostility. I used to explain why, until I learned that it doesn't do any good or make it any easier. Eh, it's fine to ignore the Why text or whatever. I much rather know that she's not interested instead of keep trying to communicate and not knowing what the heck is going on. Anything less than enthusiasm is a no/rejection when it comes to women. Realizing and accepting this will make your life much easier. Which I'm starting to figure out more now. Bunch of cowards.
Author somedude81 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 As them out face to face and they won't be able to ignore you. Problem solved. Funny you say women have no balls when you're the one who isn't asking a woman out in person! Bzzt! Wrong answer! If I get a girls number in person that means I did my part. If she ignores texts or calls that's on her.
Necromancer Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Plus when you reject a man, a lot of the times he responds by wanting know why, or wanting to argue. Sometimes even with hostility. I used to explain why, until I learned that it doesn't do any good or make it any easier. Tell him the reason is that you don´t like his midface.
iris219 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Bzzt! Wrong answer! If I get a girls number in person that means I did my part. If she ignores texts or calls that's on her. You know, it could be that she gave you her number as a friend and when you asked her out it pissed her off because she was thinking you were harmless (in that you wouldn't ask her out). She may have been genuinely surprised that you asked her out and didn't know what to say. Out of curiosity, why is a no better than no answer?
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 It never stops being frustrating. Guess it takes balls to say no, which is why many women can't do it. I've heard the issue is with American women.
Author somedude81 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 You know, it could be that she gave you her number as a friend and when you asked her out it pissed her off because she was thinking you were harmless (in that you wouldn't ask her out). Not really my problem. If she misunderstood my intentions that's her fault. I certainly don't try to pretend that I just want to be friends. She may have been genuinely surprised that you asked her out and didn't know what to say. How about. "I'm sorry, I'm not interested." Out of curiosity, why is a no better than no answer? Peace of mind. Not wondering if she there is something wrong and my texts or calls aren't going through. Not knowing if she even checked her texts yet etc. Still thinking that I might have a chance because she hasn't said no.
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 You know, it could be that she gave you her number as a friend and when you asked her out it pissed her off because she was thinking you were harmless (in that you wouldn't ask her out). She may have been genuinely surprised that you asked her out and didn't know what to say. Out of curiosity, why is a no better than no answer? As a woman you should already know. Women are the worst at handling being ignored in my experience. They'll have a full freak out and melt down in a matter of seconds. 1
iris219 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Not really my problem. If she misunderstood my intentions that's her fault. I certainly don't try to pretend that I just want to be friends. Maybe you didn't make your intentions clear. She could be thinking, "What a jerk. I'd thought he was trying to be my friend."
edgygirl Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Peace of mind. Not wondering if she there is something wrong and my texts or calls aren't going through. Not knowing if she even checked her texts yet etc. Still thinking that I might have a chance because she hasn't said no. I get it. But we all know there's no way people don't check their email and texts. I'll give it to Eggnog again: Anything less than enthusiasm is a no/rejection when it comes to women. He's absolutely right on this one.
Author somedude81 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 Maybe you didn't make your intentions clear. She could be thinking, "What a jerk. I'd thought he was trying to be my friend." Not really my fault if she's naive and thinks that men just want to be friends. IMO all women should always have the thought, that almost all men want to sleep with her, in the back of there minds. BTW, the reason why they ignore instead of saying no is because they figured it out.
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I get it. But we all know there's no way people don't check their email and texts. I'll give it to Eggnog again: Anything less than enthusiasm is a no/rejection when it comes to women. He's absolutely right on this one. I don't use email and rarely look at my phone.
phineas Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Anything less than enthusiasm is a no/rejection when it comes to women. Realizing and accepting this will make your life much easier. This. make the offer then just move onto the next & if the previous one contacts you so be it. But you need to learn to really stop caring about them because they are stranger's until you actually spend some quality time with them. I met someone from POF last night. She actually verified the meetup before I could. which shows interest in meeting me. Now, is she into me? Don't know. she is out of town until next week so i'll call her then. She said she wanted to see me again but i'm not going to worry about it until it happens, if it happens. But between then & now i'm not going to dwell on her & in fact going to hit up another one after Christmas. If the first one don't get back to me then I know she isn't interested. It really is that simple. And i've probably messaged 100 women between POF & OKcupid in the last few months & it seems the only ones I actually meet are those who contact me first. It doesn't bother me anymore. 1
edgygirl Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I don't use email and rarely look at my phone. Smoke signs?
sweetkiwi Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I have no problem telling men Im not interested. But If they are excessively sexual or trying some lame pua crap on me i will ignore. Sorry lame-o(s). 1
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Smoke signs? Yep that's what all us Injuns use.
SJC2008 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 It's hard to reject someone. I did it with a woman I met on match a while back and I felt bad.
phineas Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 It's hard to reject someone. I did it with a woman I met on match a while back and I felt bad. It gets easier. I've had to tell women who lied in their photo's that I wanted someone in better shape & i've also had to tell women they were acting too clingy by expecting me to text them all the time & deciding we were an item after the first date. yikes. If you tell them the truth then perhaps they can work on it for the next guy.
Necromancer Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Maybe you didn't make your intentions clear. She could be thinking, "What a jerk. I'd thought he was trying to be my friend." What male in his right mind tries to be only friends with women?, women know that men want more and take advantage of it. If she has the opportunity... she will. No expectations.
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