dpc1192 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 We dated for almost a year and were on and off for the past 3 months or so.. Whenever we got close again she would take a step back or she'd say we should break up. Now this has happened like 3 times and she always comes back. Shes extremely moody and never knows what she wants. I regret things I did and was a jerk to her and possessive. I think if we get back together we may get married. I don't know how to respond, I haven't contacted her at all for a week since she did this last before our Christmas break. I'm 21 and in college and miss her. Advice?!
Amelie1980 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 If there is one thing I have learned in this short period of time it is to consider what you want. What do you want? Do you want to be with her!
Author dpc1192 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 I do but I'm not sure if she wants to be with me... Things got a lot harder this year. My group of guy friends lives far away from school and we all kinda just hangout together. She lives near me but her friends live far away so it's a lot more driving and more stressful. We used to all hangout, her girlfriends and my guy friends but that's not really the case anymore which makes things difficult. It's been very hard to sort friends school and a girlfriend out. And I know the same is true for her.
Author dpc1192 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 She hasn't contacted me either but is far away.. I'm curious what she wants.
ActionJ623 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I might recommend giving the relationship a break because im sure in the last 3 months the on and offs are stressful with the holidays and school and a break would give you both a chance deciding what you really want...and analyzing why things are so bumpy in the last three months. Show her maybe you wont always be waiting for her to come back, and she might panic at the idea you won't be there and start taking it seriously.
Author dpc1192 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 Ya I'm just gonna take it easy.. Looking back I don't understand why I would freak out over her texting me about needing breaks. I don't know why I lost myself and turned into such a jerk. I just wanna be sweet to her now. She said she thought it would be good to move on over break but I think she was just super stressed over a ton of things. She tends to take out a lot of stress on me and me on her. I know she truly loved me and has shed too many tears. I just want a chance for us to be mature and serious.
Author dpc1192 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 I miss the things like dates, lingerie, and being together. I don't know what happend between us but we'd go from her being so lovey to deciding she doesn't want anything to do with me.. Generally she "breaks up" right when she's PMSing and then as I give her less attention she misses me. And then I get closer and by the time things feel serious again she'll be PMSing and break it off. This exact thing has happend 3 times.....
ActionJ623 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 It's going to get to a point where she thinks she has complete power over you and can come and go as she pleases. Tell her how you feel, and you want it to work but and if you guys get back together keep up the communication, and tell her this is her last try...and own up to your words because once she leaves again and put your words into actions she will realize her mistake and be begging you to come back once she loses that control. But if she just leaves every time she's PMSing then she might be emotionally/mentally unstable to be in a relationship right now. And I would say to give her SPACE. I mean it's gonna hurt since you love her and all but it's best for your relationship... I would hate for her to be PMSing and then something big happen and her just cut your balls off...not exactly my idea of stable.
Samilia Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 If i don't contact my "bf", it means I'm happy to be on my own, I don't consider myself in a relationship. There's nothing to read between the lines. Personally, I would break it off officially.
Author dpc1192 Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 She's craz tho. She never would contact me her ego is to big. She saw me out after 2 weeks of no contact about a month ago and blew up on me and went on to say how she missed me so much and blah blah. It's almost a contest who can be cooler which is a big problem.
Author dpc1192 Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 Think I should've at least texted her merry Christmas??
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