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I will call him "M". M and I meet and had an instant connection, I never felt this way before about anyone. We have known each other for about 4 months now.

 

One recent night, M and I were at a party. At one point during the party we snuck off into a back bedroom and starting making out. He out of nowhere told me that I was "amazing" and the "total package". It threw me a bit off guard and before I could even respond he admitted to getting into my Facebook and Gmail accounts and reading my personal messages (I forgot to log out of my accounts while using his computer earlier that week). He then said something about how I don't deserve those other guys that I had been emailing.

 

Later that night we left the party together. While in the car he told me that he was "glad I came home with him" and he said that he just wanted cuddle when we got back to his place. We got to his place and that's exactly what we did--cuddled/spooned all night. At one point, he was kissing my shoulder/upper back and said "this is wonderful."

 

In the morning, I thanked him for what was possibly one of the most tender and romantic evenings and he responded with "it's what lovers do".

 

Any insight on what he meant by all of that?

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zanesfan Established Member

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Game. This is all it is. He is trying to get into your panties my dear.

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Game. This is all it is. He is trying to get into your panties my dear.

 

 

 

woah woah woah time the hell out. This is not game. If he got you back to his place and didn't try to have sex with you instantly, he likes you. This sounds exactly like the kind of thing I would do (minus the going through your email thing.... thats kind of strange)

 

but other than that, which you should tell him to never , ever do that again, it sounds like he is really into you. REALLY into you. Ignore the naysayers, because these are exactly the kind of vibes I would be putting off if I was very interested.

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he admitted to getting into my Facebook and Gmail accounts and reading my personal messages

This sounds like a deal breaker :sick:

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All I heard was that they made out. No dates, no talk about where this was going, etc. However I could be wrong.

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This guy is playing "Mr. Perfect" WAY too hard.

 

He will keep up this game until the moment he decides not to for whatever reason (like he finally notches the bedpost/scores, you get wise to him/ catch on to his ploy, or he starts chasing a different piece of tail), and then you will be standing there scratching your head like "what the off switch just happened?!?"

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We have slept together before. So its not a question of him trying to get in my pants because he's been there before. I should have said that in my original post. That's why I was taken back by the events of the evening.

 

I am not exactly sure what he read in my personal messages. I do know I have some messages to my close friends telling them my feelings for him. I am not sure if he read those messages or not.

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Note to self: never use the computer of a guy you're seeing. He might even have password stealing software installed and you wouldn't know.

 

I hope you changed your passwords.

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Yep, I agree, its game. He's playing it well. I'd only add, he's the cheese king as far as one liners go.

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I will call him "M". M and I meet and had an instant connection, I never felt this way before about anyone. We have known each other for about 4 months now.

 

One recent night, M and I were at a party. At one point during the party we snuck off into a back bedroom and starting making out. He out of nowhere told me that I was "amazing" and the "total package". It threw me a bit off guard and before I could even respond he admitted to getting into my Facebook and Gmail accounts and reading my personal messages (I forgot to log out of my accounts while using his computer earlier that week). He then said something about how I don't deserve those other guys that I had been emailing.

 

Later that night we left the party together. While in the car he told me that he was "glad I came home with him" and he said that he just wanted cuddle when we got back to his place. We got to his place and that's exactly what we did--cuddled/spooned all night. At one point, he was kissing my shoulder/upper back and said "this is wonderful."

 

In the morning, I thanked him for what was possibly one of the most tender and romantic evenings and he responded with "it's what lovers do".

 

Any insight on what he meant by all of that?

 

 

HE knew he made a mistake and admitted that he got into your accounts it isnt an admirable thing to admit too, but in my opinion i find it to be extremely honest.

 

 

he didnt have to admit it he took a risk of you being really pissed.......which is admirable...when people ask for forgiveness because they know they were wrong they deserve a chance....i would talk to him about the fact you dont appreciate him getting into your privacy if he wants to see something in future he should ask.......you should appreciate the fact he told you though would have been easier not to...thats the truth for you....his treatment of you when you went back to his place must have been wonderful it takes self control to not try anything and enjoy just holding someone all night.......another admirable trait....and an extremely intimate treasure fro you to hold close

 

 

sounds like a keeper to me..i call them a lifer........make sure you define your boundaries on personal privacy...i myself, would have been thrown if someone admitted to accesing my email without my permission but in saying that, if someone admitted to that, that takes a real man to admit fault,and cop the consequences, fakes just hide it and pretend to be real men .....and if a guy promised not do it again without asking then that would be respected by me because if he was trustworthy enough to admit fault he is trustworthy enough to believe when he says he wont do it again...so i wish you the best and hope everything you dream of, hope for and deserve comes true...hugs to yar....deb

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todreaminblue: my friends and I took the same approach as you. Although it was wrong of him to read my messages, he did fess up to it and that is admirable.

 

He did other nice gestures for me as well. For example, one day I was telling him in general conversation that I like eggs and meat for breakfast. The next morning as I am taking a shower before work, he made me eggs and meat for breakfast. And again no sex was involved the night before.

 

Of course he could very well be a player. Maybe I am seeing all of this through rose colored glasses, but it sure does seem like everyone is pretty cynical on here.

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Game + crazy = run the hell away, far away.

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Game + crazy = run the hell away, far away.

 

Umm!!!!.hello?? ...didnt you read, we're all cynical. Hahaha. Grab some popcorn, good times are comin when reality meets the OP.

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This sounds like a deal breaker :sick:

This. Privacy means a lot to me. So does trust.

Game + crazy = run the hell away, far away.

Oh and this too.

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Note to self: never use the computer of a guy you're seeing. He might even have password stealing software installed and you wouldn't know.

 

I hope you changed your passwords.

 

The last few girls I've been with I don't even bother passwording my stuff at home. The last 2 girls were great about it, unless they checked stuff out and just never said anything. I shouldn't have to secure my private life with someone I'm close to, and if that's abused then it's a serious problem. No different than having a diary at home, or someone going through your dresser or closet.

 

However if you leave your FB up on my PC then don't be surprised if I make a silly post on your page. I consider that a fun way of telling them to be more careful.

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CptObvious never blocks a cock. OP, he's the real deal. You two are going to be in love forever ;)

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todreaminblue: my friends and I took the same approach as you. Although it was wrong of him to read my messages, he did fess up to it and that is admirable.

 

He did other nice gestures for me as well. For example, one day I was telling him in general conversation that I like eggs and meat for breakfast. The next morning as I am taking a shower before work, he made me eggs and meat for breakfast. And again no sex was involved the night before.

 

Of course he could very well be a player. Maybe I am seeing all of this through rose colored glasses, but it sure does seem like everyone is pretty cynical on here.

 

 

he could be a player as could any nice guy who actually seems nice.....until he makes a move in that direction of dickheadville you wont know....so i believe in the adage innocent until proven........a lot of guys think they can play me......most cant...unfortunately for me the ones that have in the past were ones i let get close to me adn into my heart they are the only ones to hurt me i am extremely guarded...their dishonesty and them getting to know me as a friend first...left me open to being hurt.....and i got hurt i am extremely accident prone so i am used to it.....

 

 

 

wouldnt have it any other way though....i live to grow and learn dickhead moves....smilin.....not all guys are dicks and suck..some are just right and good.....would i take the risk again....they dont call me deb the kamikaze for nothing...life is a risk....you cant bubble wrap your love life nor can you bubble up your own life...would be cool if you could but you cant.im waiting for the day when bubblewrap becomes a fashiopn statement....the streets woudl bounce i tell ya.:cool:..dont listen to cynics take only into consideration....thoughtful advice offered not the crap.... but ultimately its not your friends,your family and its not the posters on here who have to get to know him well....you do.

 

 

 

go into it with your eyes wide open, listen when he speaks and your heart has to be open too otherwise it just doesnt work...its hard to let your guard down ...but you have to ...if they play games with you , you arent the fool for trusting...they are the fool for playing games...small things amuse small minds...my mind is much larger than that....their loss........same goes for you eb the bigger person...i wish you well...i think you are right in trusting until proven that you cant trust the guy.......best wishes....deb

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