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This question is for the guys: How old are you? For a LTR, what is the lowest age you are willing to consider? Is the limit set in stone or would you lower it if there was a woman in particular that you developed feelings for?

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Tough question. I think everyone develops emotionally at a different rate. So pinning a number on it is just too difficult. HOWEVER, there is a line of "adult maturity" that everyone needs to be past for a truly successful LTR.

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When I was 13 I had a bf who was 19. Innocent kisses only.

 

When I think about it today, I go: wth was that guy doing with me??? I was a child!

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When I was 13 I had a bf who was 19. Innocent kisses only.

 

When I think about it today, I go: wth was that guy doing with me??? I was a child!

 

Ummmmm...... innocent? Seriously? More like the guy was guilty of doing something legally and morally wrong with a minor. What does a 19 yr old man have with a 13 yr old girl? I'm sorry, I'm not trying to be rude, but there's more than one thing that's wrong with that picture. You were just 13.... I'm not faulting you. I'm more so referrring to him. :sick:

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Yeah I also find it disturbing looking back. But more from an emotional standpoint. How can a 19 yo relate to someone who is practically a child? Although at 13 we already look like women so that might be it.

 

He never tried sex or anything like that though. He took me to meet his family at an important party, etc. Is it illegal to kiss at that age? I thought 'age of consent' was more about sex per se.

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I'm 41 & could go as low as 30 providing she was a single mother & didn't want anymore kids. The younger single mom's in their early 30's seem much more mature than those women in their early 30's without kids.

 

And forget most under 30. Total headache for most of them & really just a little creepy for a relationship and I couldn't imagine meeting their parents.

 

However I've hooked up with a few 25yr olds & that isn't creepy at all because they hit on me & went on their way afterword & it allows my friends to live vicariously through me. :D

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Yes that would make sense today. But when I was 13 (mid 80s) girls were not that developed sexually. I was quite innocent. The guy was not shy but he was respectful.

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As you get older age doesn't matter....what matters is having common interests and goals in life.

 

You may be late 30s who want a family and meet someone the same age who had children already and they are teenagers so has zero interest in it again.

 

 

You are both 30... You have done grad school and want to go and explore...the other did that and wants to start a family.

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I turn 35 this week. I think most guys, including me, will consider college age girls because they are attractive. Not a problem at all if it's not too serious. I can imagine there is a rare girl that age where it would just work. I'm open to that but definitely not actively looking for it. Most girls in their early 20s are just too flaky and think the world still revolves around their good looks. I need a girl with perspective of the bigger world, politics and issues; not just tanning and shoes.

 

2 college girls talking: "OMG we should go to Hawaii". "Yeah let's just get in our car and go." "Dummy, you can't drive there, it's too far."

 

In general I feel any younger girl is lucky to be with me. Maturity and life experience is so valuable. It is a little daddyish but in a good way: someone who's already bought, renovated, and sold a house; knowing the pitfalls and how to deal with contractors. There are a hundred similar things that a young guy just can't compete with.

 

Most recent serious relationship the girl was 26 while I was 34. I was pretty comfortable with that and we hit it off well in many ways. I gave her career advice, which she ignored, and a month later she was unemployed. Appreciate your man, we're looking out for you!

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I'm 29. I'd feel comfortable dating as low as 21 or 22, and for someone truly exceptional I'd go to 19.

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When I was 13 I had a bf who was 19. Innocent kisses only.

 

When I think about it today, I go: wth was that guy doing with me??? I was a child!

A child with breasts and hips.

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Back on topic.

 

If she is too old for a happy meal I don't want to know her.

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I am 38, and most of the women I have dated recently are in their early to late 20's. Most of the single women my age where I live are divorced with kids, and I just dont wanna hassle with all the baggage.

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Younger women are attractive to older men for the obvious reasons; more mature, more experienced, and have much to offer; some mentally, monetarily, and emotionally.

 

As an older women, I'm attractive to younger guys for what they have to offer. Life is good.

 

Have a Happy Holiday and an even better New Year.

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I'm in my 50s. What I'm finding is that I am attracted to women who seem mature enough to be done with foolishness and superficiality, but still in their reproductive years. Of course I'm physically attracted to women in their 20s but quickly discount them because they aren't interested in me, and I wouldn't know what to say to them anyway. There are many very nice single women my age and older that I can't convince myself to be attracted to even though I know in my rational mind they could make wonderful partners. I believe this is an evolutionary|genetic preference buried deep in my neurological system, probably the hypothalamus. Few men with a genuine preference for post-menopausal women pass that gene into the next generation. So I find myself being interested in mid-thirties to late forties.

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He was a rapist, edgy.

 

Yeah right, that's why he didn't rape me, correct?

 

I am not sure about the rules for this, but can I ask you not to ever again comment on my life or my posts here? You say things that turn my stomach and that I never agree with. I don't think your line of thought contributes any to my life. I am not a woman with any traumas and drama in life and I don't need yours. Thank you.

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The answer is "No".

 

No problem. So I'll just try very hard to ignore the posts. Please deal with your dramas before projecting them onto others.

 

Congrats on taking away sweet memories from the first guy I ever kissed.

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I would go as low as 25 for a serious relationship.

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Your feelings on the matter are irrelevant, it's not even statutory rape because

 

 

SPOILERS

 

 

 

 

No sex occurred, consensual or otherwise.

 

I would be interested in talking about why a guy who is more mature pursues a relationship with someone who is practically a child, yes, why would someone do that in the emotional level which does not make much sense to me, but implying someone is a rapist when nothing like that even come close to occur is outrageous.

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A 19-year-old boy is not an adult, regardless of what the law says lol. Even at 6'2" they're just big kids. More importantly, a 13-year-old girl is not a little girl. There is a reason why 13 has been "the coming of age" since at least the Old Testament. The teens are a transitional time and, typically, in Western society 13-year-old girls are pretty much on par with 17- or 18- year old boys. So a late blooming boy and an early blooming girl would not be the least bit unusual. There's nothing "rapey" about this dynamic. Many females are fully grown by 11 or 12.

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A 19-year-old boy is not an adult, regardless of what the law says lol. Even at 6'2" they're just big kids. More importantly, a 13-year-old girl is not a little girl. There is a reason why 13 has been "the coming of age" since at least the Old Testament. The teens are a transitional time and, typically, in Western society 13-year-old girls are pretty much on par with 17- or 18- year old boys. So a late blooming boy and an early blooming girl would not be the least bit unusual. There's nothing "rapey" about this dynamic. Many females are fully grown by 11 or 12.

 

You must be on drugs:(

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Thank you monicaelise I think that was exactly what happened in my case. I thought about it for years trying to make sense out of it, and you did it with your post ;)

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You must be on drugs:(

 

(I am. I got them in exchange for my breasts so I'm clear as a bell on this one.)

 

I'm also the mother to three sons and I can tell you, after having watched males develop for the past 23+ years, 19 is not an adult.

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Edgygirl, perhaps I can share my perspective. When I was 19 I was shy and hadn't really had any experiences with girls. At a friends party I got very drunk and ended up having some drunken makeouts and petting with said friends 14 year old sister! Now that I think about it, what was a 14 year girl doing drunk in the first place?!

 

Anyway, I was pretty excited even though I felt embarrassed and knew it was wrong. I recall having a hard on the whole night. For a guy who had pretty much never had any contact with a female before it was a completely new experience. I even ended up meeting with her in the city one day for a hang out (just that one time). A part of me wanted to be with her, but the age difference was just too big and maturity wise we were at different stages. So I said we should just remain friends. She was ok with it. I still see her from time to time when I see my friend, and there's no awkwardness. My friend was surprisingly ok with it all. He said he actually would have preferred if I dated her since I was a much nicer guy than the ones she usually dates! She's also told me she was ok with everything during the whole thing.

 

Anyway, that's the perspective of an inexperienced guy in that situation. Although my body wanted to have sex, I would never have done it. Not all guys are like that, but I wouldn't have been able to live with myself.

 

In a way it also helped me break the ice as I became much more confident around women and managed to hook up with a few before meeting my first (and current) girlfriend who is the same age as me.

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