xcrazygirl08x Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I totally know what you're going through, and I hope you manage to have a good Christmas despite this. I've maintained no contact for over 2 months and already ignored 1 message from him, and blocked him on Facebook. You'd think he'd get the message right? But no, got this today- "Merry christmas and a happy new year to you and your family happy that you moved on hope you find what your looking for x" Threw me for a loop and I'm so angry and confused right now. I've far from fully moved on, but that doesn't matter. Again, I hope you manage to have fun today and try to stay busy. We're all in this together! But please don't reply- indifference is worse than hate, after all *Christmas hugs and wishes to the LoveShack Community*
na49 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I think now the proper response is "F-OFF and stop stalking me. I wont be receiving your communication any more as you are now blocked. Control yourself". Then block the number. How many times has she called and texted you..way too many. This isnt good for you any more Ive been joking with you before about this blocking stuff but im dead serious about this response. It will make you feel better and get back some power. Its time. You're right lol. Well I would hope she'd give up by now. I mean I'm not going to be her friend and whatever she wants isn't that important. I'm getting sick of her contacting me to be honest. She's the last person I want to think about this Christmas. Like sure the ego boost of ignoring her is cool, but even that has kind of gotten old. She wanted me out of her life, so I'm happy to get out of her life. I want to tell her to "f*ck off" but idk if just ignoring her is better. I've ignored her for almost 2 months, why stop now? Also Merry Christmas everyone
Lost/Love Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I was with my bf for 9 years, he got grass is greener syndrome and left me 5 months ago. We were LC, now completely NC for 1 month. This is my first Christmas alone. All my family and friends seem to be busy with their spouses or out of town.
becks77 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Tell me about it! I got a super nice message from my ex a few days ago 1st in 3 months. What a mind f-k. I wish i could tell her to F Off but I wont break NC. Grrrr! I received a happy xmas message a couple of hours ago - wasn't even thinking about him and then....was 1 month NC yesterday and now he's set me back again - have deleted message but it's done its damage - for all those wanting a message from their ex - be careful what you wish for!!! 1
AsItIs Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I was totally expecting to hear from my ex this holiday.He texted me on Thanksgiving & I ignored it.So my birthday was on Christmas eve.I got the dreaded text.He also called & left a voicemail.Then also sent me a stupid ecard through email. I was thinking that I'd be sad if I heard from him, and sad if I didn't hear from him .Well when he sent that ecard it just ruined my birthday.I guess I'm delusional.I had this fantasy that he was going to send me some beautiful gift like jewelry or an email saying how he wants to try again or something more meaningful.We have been broken up for 9 months now & I have stayed strictly NC for about 5 months. I contemplated ignoring it but, I already know that doesn't give me much satisfaction cause I ignore all his other attempts at contact & he doesn't get the point so I replied yesterday.... I wrote back to his ecard- "Save the insulting holiday greetings for ex #1's name & ex #2's name" I just wanted to make it clear to him that I am not going to be like his other exes who are willing to accept his half ass attempts to sooth his own ego by making himself feel like he is a good person & remain "friends".Those exes are still in love with him too.I refuse to be like them. I have no regrets Happy holidays Love Shackers! 2
cavalier99 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Grrrr! I received a happy xmas message a couple of hours ago - wasn't even thinking about him and then....was 1 month NC yesterday and now he's set me back again - have deleted message but it's done its damage - for all those wanting a message from their ex - be careful what you wish for!!! Makes you realize how important NC is. Don't worry your mind will adjust and the sting will go away in a couple days even though it doesn't feel like it now. I was worried it set me WAY back for a little but then shook it off. I'm back to normal levels of suffering! Yeah! Lol. Rock on! 1
suladas Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Nothing yet, it hurts worse today for sure, her being next door. I think nothing hurts worse then a message and having to be strong and not send one myself. I wish I could say I didn't care, but I do and getting nothing hurts.
mutant Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I totally know what you're going through, and I hope you manage to have a good Christmas despite this. I've maintained no contact for over 2 months and already ignored 1 message from him, and blocked him on Facebook. You'd think he'd get the message right? But no, got this today- "Merry christmas and a happy new year to you and your family happy that you moved on hope you find what your looking for x" Threw me for a loop and I'm so angry and confused right now. I've far from fully moved on, but that doesn't matter. Again, I hope you manage to have fun today and try to stay busy. We're all in this together! But please don't reply- indifference is worse than hate, after all *Christmas hugs and wishes to the LoveShack Community* Same here. I have maintained NC for 20 days and today she sends a message wishing me "a merry Christmas and happy holidays".WTF is she smoking? A few days ago, I hoped she could send me such a message so that I can prove to her i am no longer her dog/doormat by not replying but i now wish she hadn't sent it. I feel like texting her "F-OFF" but i guess maintaining NC is the better option. When loved ones decide they no longer need you in their lives then you give them exactly that! Merry Christmas loveshackers.
Harradin Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Didn't get anything from my ex. It just hurts because I treated her well and she was the one who ran off with someone else so she had no reason to not do it.
LostOne1 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Some people will know my on a break thread. I am trying ti get through Christmas. but technically we're not broken up yet. he wanted the break, I gave it to him. I would never have contacted him. he kept texting me and calling me by his nicknames he has for me. he dropped a present off at my office with a card saying lets trust 2013 is a great year in it. The mixed messages are driving me.mad and affecting my ability to let go. How to get.through Christmas with this going on. personally I thinki a "break" is really breaking up. No one needs a break... unless something is wrong or you want to see someone else.. or something is going on with a person.
LostOne1 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Glad to see at least people here have gotten responses from ex's. Like I said it's good and bad. But I guess it shows how the holiday season really breaks down people. everyone needs to stay strong! Surpingly I am not missing my ex today. I've been keeping my mind on other things like family, friends, dinner with volunteers etc..
Simon Phoenix Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 You're right lol. Well I would hope she'd give up by now. I mean I'm not going to be her friend and whatever she wants isn't that important. I'm getting sick of her contacting me to be honest. She's the last person I want to think about this Christmas. Like sure the ego boost of ignoring her is cool, but even that has kind of gotten old. She wanted me out of her life, so I'm happy to get out of her life. I want to tell her to "f*ck off" but idk if just ignoring her is better. I've ignored her for almost 2 months, why stop now? Also Merry Christmas everyone Ignore and block. It's pretty weird that you have this block (no pun intended) about it. Just do it dude.
Stncldgent Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Well add me to the list of getting the Merry Christmas text. She dumped me for another dude july of last year, officially stopped texting like 2 weeks after that. was really surprised that I got anything from her, since i got nothing last Christmas and we exchanged happy Birthdays to one another in Feb since our birthdays are one day apart. But it had been over 10 months since that. Anyways I don't have her in my phone anymore but i recognized the phone number. When I saw the message my first reaction was I know it's something for her ego to see if I would text her back. Guess she will have to keep waiting
Cam116 Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 I got a Merry Christmas text from my exes parents, telling me that they missed me and were thinking of me. It was very thoughtful, but did make me a mess because I miss them so much. A few hours later, I was at my friends place having quiche and mimosas, and having a conversation with her about how badly I wanted to wish him a Merry Christmas, but that it wouldn't be a good idea and whatnot. In the middle of the conversation, my ex texted me! He said : "Hey, Merry Christmas. Just want to let you know (although its still classified information) that Alli (his sister) went into labor around 8 this morning. Will let you know when the presents ruining brat is born!" So I wished him a Merry Christmas, and told him how excited I was for her and to let me know when the kid arrives. We texted back and forth a little playful, joking banter, and that was that. Now, this isn't earth shattering, but I'm so happy that he updated me on this when he had no obligation to do so. Guess he still does want to be friends and have me in his life ey? This just made me feel better, that when he said he did want to be friends he meant it. And that I still mean SOMETHING to him, I know it's not in a romantic way, but he is still my best friend and I want to be able to continue to have a good relationship with him. He informed me last night that his sis had the baby. I called him, he answered and said he had just gotten to the hospital and was waiting forever for them to get the room ready so he could go see the little one. I told him I owe him a celebratory shot in the future for becoming an uncle, and I told him to tell her and her husband congrats. He told me to go ahead and text her a message, because she had her phone on her. We talked briefly about Christmas, because he said the little brat ruined the Pollyanna and gift opening. He said he would send pics later once he got into the room, and around 11 last night he sent me a picture of the little one. I don't regret talking to him, but like I said it did make me feel better that he thought to tell me that she had gone into labor even though he had no obligation to do so. I hope we can continue a friendship in the future once things have healed, but for now I'm going back to NC for a bit. It's gonna be tough, but I'll jump on here if I ever get the urge to contact him over the next month or so
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