bluefairy812 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 (edited) nothing like receiving a message from your ex wishing you a merry xmas, reminding you that it's not meant to be, but that we shouldn't be on bad terms because life is too short. he also thanked me for helping him grow as a person, and hopes we can be friends some day. not only is this my first xmas without him, but his message just broke me once again... especially reading the sorry it wasn't meant to be but we met for a reason etc etc. this time last year we were having drinks with family, wrapping gifts and having a great time. merry xmas everyone Edited December 24, 2012 by bluefairy812
cavalier99 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 nothing like receiving a message from your ex wishing you a merry xmas, reminding you that it's not meant to be, but that we shouldn't be on bad terms because life is too short. he also thanked me for helping him grow as a person, and hopes we can be friends some day. not only is this my first xmas without him, but his message just broke me once again... especially reading the sorry it wasn't meant to be but we met for a reason etc etc. Tell me about it! I got a super nice message from my ex a few days ago 1st in 3 months. What a mind f-k. I wish i could tell her to F Off but I wont break NC. 4
LostOne1 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 this is why you block the ex's number. I wouldn't let it get to you now.... it's my 1st xmas without my ex too. But I've been volunteering and let me tell you it gets my mind off my ex VERY easily. I've been meeting so many new people and you just have a fun time helping out. It's as if I don't have TIME to miss my ex now. And I have set some goals I want to reach and that's all i think about now. I was thinking earlier if my ex would by chance text me during these holidays. But I doubt she will. And you know what.. I'm glad she won't. I wouldn't want my holidays ruined by a text. 4
cavalier99 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 this is why you block the ex's number. I wouldn't let it get to you now.... it's my 1st xmas without my ex too. But I've been volunteering and let me tell you it gets my mind off my ex VERY easily. I've been meeting so many new people and you just have a fun time helping out. It's as if I don't have TIME to miss my ex now. And I have set some goals I want to reach and that's all i think about now. I was thinking earlier if my ex would by chance text me during these holidays. But I doubt she will. And you know what.. I'm glad she won't. I wouldn't want my holidays ruined by a text.. Glad your doing well. Its a long journey. My ex is blocked on phone but she snuck a email thru using her work email. I can deal with it. Makes me stronger i dont think ill be getting more of these anyway. 1
LostOne1 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 . Glad your doing well. Its a long journey. My ex is blocked on phone but she snuck a email thru using her work email. I can deal with it. Makes me stronger i dont think ill be getting more of these anyway. I guess I am lucky then.. so far in about 1-2 months NC no response at all from my ex. It's good, because I think hearing from her in any form would be VERY confusing to me. It's bad, because obviously our ego WANTS them to come begging back. So part of me does want that satisfaction of knowing she wishes she had me back. But I realize either way we can be happy, as long as we WANT to be happy. It comes from the inside and we can project it or not. The best part is when you hang with people who crack a lot of jokes. And, I realized recently I feel more myself. I make people laugh more and I'm feeling confident with girls and people in general again. Not ready for a relationship, and I know with school I won't have time for any. But I am up for it all. 1
cavalier99 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 nothing like receiving a message from your ex wishing you a merry xmas, reminding you that it's not meant to be, but that we shouldn't be on bad terms because life is too short. he also thanked me for helping him grow as a person, and hopes we can be friends some day. not only is this my first xmas without him, but his message just broke me once again... especially reading the sorry it wasn't meant to be but we met for a reason etc etc. this time last year we were having drinks with family, wrapping gifts and having a great time. merry xmas everyone Youll be fine. It took me a couple of days to walk the sting off. What a great present from him:sick: His timing was perfect. Oh well...You'll be ok for New Years lol
cavalier99 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I guess I am lucky then.. so far in about 1-2 months NC no response at all from my ex. It's good, because I think hearing from her in any form would be VERY confusing to me. It's bad, because obviously our ego WANTS them to come begging back. So part of me does want that satisfaction of knowing she wishes she had me back. But I realize either way we can be happy, as long as we WANT to be happy. It comes from the inside and we can project it or not. The best part is when you hang with people who crack a lot of jokes. And, I realized recently I feel more myself. I make people laugh more and I'm feeling confident with girls and people in general again. Not ready for a relationship, and I know with school I won't have time for any. But I am up for it all. Yes it is sort of confusing. It weird because while we want to hear from them. At the end of the day it is easier thinking they hate us or don't even think of us. When we learn that they still do, it sort of messes up you coping mechanisms and you need to restabalize with the thought that we did / do matter. Makes it a little harder. But it is manageable now. 2
Author bluefairy812 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 i did block my ex's number but he decided to email me. reading that letter made me cry. i have nothing to say. nor will i respond. i think it's unnecessary to remind a person that it's not meant to be.
LostOne1 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 i did block my ex's number but he decided to email me. reading that letter made me cry. i have nothing to say. nor will i respond. i think it's unnecessary to remind a person that it's not meant to be. That shows how cruel he is.. and WHY you should get over this guy. If he cared he wouldn't have said anything hurtful. I think maybe thats why my ex has NEVER gotten back to me. She's been dumped before and probably knows the feeling. And to make it easy on me and herself she won't reach out to make any contact at all. 2
Amelie1980 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Some people will know my on a break thread. I am trying ti get through Christmas. but technically we're not broken up yet. he wanted the break, I gave it to him. I would never have contacted him. he kept texting me and calling me by his nicknames he has for me. he dropped a present off at my office with a card saying lets trust 2013 is a great year in it. The mixed messages are driving me.mad and affecting my ability to let go. How to get.through Christmas with this going on.
LostOne1 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Yes it is sort of confusing. It weird because while we want to hear from them. At the end of the day it is easier thinking they hate us or don't even think of us. When we learn that they still do, it sort of messes up you coping mechanisms and you need to restabalize with the thought that we did / do matter. Makes it a little harder. But it is manageable now. I guess it throws us off. Because here we are thinking they left us, they hate us etc.. Then they come back and we think what? they miss us too? It throws you off big time, but like I said it's the ego and just knowing they are begging for us back. I have no doubt at some point in time I'll run into my ex and chances are higher in the next few months at school. But I've already decided I'm going to have fun while I'm at school and I won't let myself see her and let it throw me off. I've just gotta go on with my day and pretend she is just a random student there like everyone else.
cavalier99 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 i did block my ex's number but he decided to email me. reading that letter made me cry. i have nothing to say. nor will i respond. i think it's unnecessary to remind a person that it's not meant to be. Sorry it is really rough. But you will see that you can recover really quick. Just takes a few days to process. I must admit i was worried this was going to set me back a lot for about a day..had some old feelings of rejection return...but it didn't set me back and those feelings went away. Youll be fine..even stronger!
cavalier99 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 That shows how cruel he is.. and WHY you should get over this guy. If he cared he wouldn't have said anything hurtful. I think maybe thats why my ex has NEVER gotten back to me. She's been dumped before and probably knows the feeling. And to make it easy on me and herself she won't reach out to make any contact at all. I think that they are just clueless ..and truly want to send a nice message and don't realize the stabs of pain even being nice or civil can cause. 1
na49 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 My ego is the only thing that's kept me from blocking my ex's number. Since learning that she just wanted to be friends, I got the closure that I needed. Can't lie though, getting a text from her and ignoring it feels amazing right away, but doesn't do anything for helping me to move on.
Amelie1980 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I have never had an ex wish me a merry Christmas before now. once it was over it was over. this time is so weird for me ....I do not understand.
cavalier99 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 My ego is the only thing that's kept me from blocking my ex's number. Since learning that she just wanted to be friends, I got the closure that I needed. Can't lie though, getting a text from her and ignoring it feels amazing right away, but doesn't do anything for helping me to move on. Dude. Your still talking about the blocked number thing lol . She will email you or call from another phone anyway if she wants to get hold of you. And if she does you know what it is about any way "FRIEND" At this point dont even block her. Why bother. Anyway.. I think she probably wont call or text anymore. She got the point. DONT BLOCK HER LOL 1
Samilia Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 nothing like receiving a message from your ex wishing you a merry xmas, reminding you that it's not meant to be, but that we shouldn't be on bad terms because life is too short. he also thanked me for helping him grow as a person, and hopes we can be friends some day. not only is this my first xmas without him, but his message just broke me once again... especially reading the sorry it wasn't meant to be but we met for a reason etc etc. this time last year we were having drinks with family, wrapping gifts and having a great time. merry xmas everyone People don't always realize that what they say can be hurtful. Don't dwell on it, he's right about one thing, life is too short. Enjoy your Christmas the best you can, you mentioned your family, make an effort and smile for them. 1
Inviv_girl Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Merry Christmas everyone! together with our heart broken!
Pinky777 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I think that they are just clueless ..and truly want to send a nice message and don't realize the stabs of pain even being nice or civil can cause. I'm sure they mean well just wishing someone that was once a big part of their lives a nice Christmas. This time of year people feel all positive. I guess I'm in the minority, a text from my ex wishing me a Merry Christmas wouldn't set me back, it would make me feel good just knowing he cares enough to send sincere holiday wishes. Unless he says otherwise, I'd be under no delusion that it means he misses me as a girlfriend or wants me back or anything like that. My ex and I ended on good terms though. I can see how it can throw a person who has been in NC for a while.
na49 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Aww my ex is so sweet, she called me earlier. I must have been busy and missed the call. How nice of her, probably calling to wish me and my family a Merry Christmas. What a great gal! I think I'll call her tomorrow and tell her thanks for everything! NOT! Stop bothering me on Christmas you evil witch! 2
NoMoreJerks Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 OP, be thankful she didn't dump you 2 days before Christmas. That devastated me so much and I will no longer think of Christmastime in the same way. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 I putting Vegas odds on whether or not my Ex will text me tomorrow to say Merry Christmas. I think there is a greater chance I could take Mike Tyson in 12 rounds.... 1
NoMoreJerks Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 (edited) I putting Vegas odds on whether or not my Ex will text me tomorrow to say Merry Christmas. I think there is a greater chance I could take Mike Tyson in 12 rounds.... lol, mine already wished me a merry Christmas during his break-up 2 days ago. He said: "try and have a good Christmas, you have lots of close friends." Telling himself that I have close friends who would take care of me, was all about him relieving his guilt. What a d*ck. And this break-up came right after I provided great emotional support and was his emotional crutch while he was away from home for a month (late November to Dec 21), on a job in Turkey where he knew no one. He even admitted that he had used me as an emotional crutch, that he missed me during that time only because he usually feels worse when away from home... I am still trying to digest that, and the fact that after saying all that, he had the audacity to tell me to try and have a good Christmas. Oh wait, don't even read too much into that, he wasn't even wishing me a merry Christmas. Just advising me to try and have a good one. Yeah. Edited December 25, 2012 by NoMoreJerks
todreaminblue Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 nothing like receiving a message from your ex wishing you a merry xmas, reminding you that it's not meant to be, but that we shouldn't be on bad terms because life is too short. he also thanked me for helping him grow as a person, and hopes we can be friends some day. not only is this my first xmas without him, but his message just broke me once again... especially reading the sorry it wasn't meant to be but we met for a reason etc etc. this time last year we were having drinks with family, wrapping gifts and having a great time. merry xmas everyone I wished my ex a merry xmas i do every year since we broke up i havent ever spoken to teh woman he is with now...until today nearl ysix years since we broke.......i just said its time .....i spoke to her wished her a wonderful day and hope she enjoys it she was smiling through the phone when i spoke to her.....she was surprised probably ......i didnt feel bad anymore......i feel....released....now is my time in the sun...i have been living under shadows of a failed relationship and too many heartaches for too long...it wasnt meant to be......i wish them well...but best of all....i will be well without those shadows........no regrets......deb
cavalier99 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Aww my ex is so sweet, she called me earlier. I must have been busy and missed the call. How nice of her, probably calling to wish me and my family a Merry Christmas. What a great gal! I think I'll call her tomorrow and tell her thanks for everything! NOT! Stop bothering me on Christmas you evil witch! I think now the proper response is "F-OFF and stop stalking me. I wont be receiving your communication any more as you are now blocked. Control yourself". Then block the number. How many times has she called and texted you..way too many. This isnt good for you any more Ive been joking with you before about this blocking stuff but im dead serious about this response. It will make you feel better and get back some power. Its time.
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