Kaldi Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 He is coworkers at the restaurant .we are 25 - 30 years. I have worked with him for 4 years but i started to like him this year. I am really shy and quiet ,especially around him. I never have boyfriend before and he has never been in real relationship. His behavior are.. - ask what kind of guy do i like ( first couple years i talked with him ) - tell me i'm his favorite in the workplace - always squeezing my shoulder really hard, it seems like he wants to hurt me - he moved out of states for 6 mths and came back to work recently .. we talked randomly on the first day he came back to work , he asked me if i have a boyfriend yet. i said no. - tell me to learn how to seduce guy before he moved out of state - ask if i watched porn :/ - try to push me against the wall in the restroom one time -This is the weirdest part..while i'm cleaning men restroom ,he came in and jokingly said that he will take off his pants. I said go ahead ( as a joke). when i turned to him , he unzipped his pants down . I saw what in underneath the pants and told me to touch his chest /abs. - tell me he can help me with studying ( we've been studying for the license for 2 years , he finally passed it ) But .... - he never ask me out Every time we hang out outside workplace , he ignore me and pay attention to another girl and he seems to shy around her - he told me he like her as a friend and told me that she keeps sending him a flirting text message. I know her and this girl is beautiful but she is a little over friendly / player. She now has a boyfriend. What does these things mean? Am i over thinking about his behavior?
Divasu Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 - always squeezing my shoulder really hard, it seems like he wants to hurt me - tell me to learn how to seduce guy before he moved out of state - ask if i watched porn :/ - try to push me against the wall in the restroom one time -This is the weirdest part..while i'm cleaning men restroom ,he came in and jokingly said that he will take off his pants. I said go ahead ( as a joke). when i turned to him , he unzipped his pants down . I saw what in underneath the pants and told me to touch his chest /abs. What does these things mean? Am i over thinking about his behavior? It means that his behavior is completely inappropriate for the workplace and he should be fired. 1
LittlePrince Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 It means that his behavior is completely inappropriate for the workplace and he should be fired. In Soviet Russia you don't love coworker. You love job. 1
Author Kaldi Posted December 25, 2012 Author Posted December 25, 2012 (edited) - One time one lady tease us about being couple, he asked me what do i think about being couple? But .... - he never ask me out Every time we hang out outside workplace , he ignored me. -he never help me doing side job but he helps some girls. I ignored him lately and he seems to ignore me too. Edited December 25, 2012 by Kaldi
LittlePrince Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 - One time one lady tease us about being couple, he asked me what do i think about being couple? But .... - he never ask me out Every time we hang out outside workplace , he ignored me. -he never help me doing side job but he helps some girls. I ignored him lately and he seems to ignore me too. It sounds like he just wants to use you sexually at most.
sid3 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 It means that his behavior is completely inappropriate for the workplace and he should be fired. Exactly. He sounds like he's ready to abuse you.
todreaminblue Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 He is coworkers at the restaurant .we are 25 - 30 years. I have worked with him for 4 years but i started to like him this year. I am really shy and quiet ,especially around him. I never have boyfriend before and he has never been in real relationship. His behavior are.. - ask what kind of guy do i like ( first couple years i talked with him ) - tell me i'm his favorite in the workplace - always squeezing my shoulder really hard, it seems like he wants to hurt me - he moved out of states for 6 mths and came back to work recently .. we talked randomly on the first day he came back to work , he asked me if i have a boyfriend yet. i said no. - tell me to learn how to seduce guy before he moved out of state - ask if i watched porn :/ - try to push me against the wall in the restroom one time -This is the weirdest part..while i'm cleaning men restroom ,he came in and jokingly said that he will take off his pants. I said go ahead ( as a joke). when i turned to him , he unzipped his pants down . I saw what in underneath the pants and told me to touch his chest /abs. - tell me he can help me with studying ( we've been studying for the license for 2 years , he finally passed it ) But .... - he never ask me out Every time we hang out outside workplace , he ignore me and pay attention to another girl and he seems to shy around her - he told me he like her as a friend and told me that she keeps sending him a flirting text message. I know her and this girl is beautiful but she is a little over friendly / player. She now has a boyfriend. What does these things mean? Am i over thinking about his behavior? He is taking advantage of your lack of comprehension he is a predator who is shy around forthright women and likes to prove his manliness because he can confuse you, he is confused around women who dont take crap this is a guess only..talk to him and warn him once more you tell the boss.inform your boss of his behavior it is way inappropriate if it continues to happen..........the behavior seems to be escalating if you have put it in order of how it happened..dont let it get any bigger...inform the boss...he's not boyfriend material for you....he want to use you for sex... the above reply i gave you is if you are being serious about this....i cant see how you would think this behaviour is normal....and the fact you said that you told him go on then take your pants down when you are supposedly i am guessing never had a boyfriend so a virgin .doesnt add up you do know you would have ended up seeing penis right...you are 25 to 30 years of age.....you know about the woman being a player and over friendly did she ask him to take his pants down too? you inciting him to pull his pants down and the fact you want to go out with him makes your workplace habits a little shaky, both of you are questionable....there are consequences for both of you should it come to light if you are honest and admit to what you have here you will probably get a warning or maybe even fired and if it ever does come to light...if i were you i would accept responsibility for your part...good luck.....deb
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