weird dating pattern

[mlpony]

Hi,

 

I seem to always be in this pattern, and once more it's happened.

 

I am a 42 year old woman. I had a 3-year relationship about 1.5 years ago. Prior to that I was married for 10 years. I would very much like to meet a monogamous partner, but sometimes you just want sex, so I hook up sometimes.

 

Anyway, here is the pattern: I meet a guy and it works for a couple of months. Sometimes I fall in love with them and sometimes them with me, but something doesn't work out and it ends.

 

Now I am alone and lonely. So if a guy I broke up with before contacts me, I say yes even though he's not my first choice. just to have the attention and not be lonely. Just as soon as I do that, I meet someone new that I like better, so I break plans with the former flame.

 

I should probably just leave the past guys in the past, face the alone times and keep looking, right? This should be an easy one to answer.... :-)

 

HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYONE!!!!!!

[LittlePrince]

You should work on not having the attention span of an ADHD two year old on a sugar rush.

[weee111]

Well you definitely shouldn't be leading them on if you aren't interested.

[mlpony]

You should work on not having the attention span of an ADHD two year old on a sugar rush.

 

ha ha, you made me laugh....the men do the same thing!!!

 

I like him, he doesn't like me

 

He likes me, I don't like him - perpetual motion!!!!

 

Someday I hope to get off this train and meet someone with mutual feelings.

 

It's happened before, it will happen again.

[Mrlonelyone]

Let me tell you what my mother says now after 40 years of ...not perfect happiness with my father.

 

There is an ebb and flow to relationships, a give and take. You won't ever always like them the way they like you, they will love you but you won't love them, and vice versa. You have to learn to ride those waves, that is what keeps a relationship going.