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edgygirl Established Member

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And when he does it doggy style with you just to use you as a dinner table how much of a turn on is that?

 

Makes one wonder, right?

You're outrageous. But I am not offended. I like this kind of sarcastic humor. lol.

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Life isn't about deserving. If it was then those who deserve the least wouldn't get the most, e.g. OP.

 

"Guys I am getting great sex and a beautiful romance. Let me go cry about it on the internet."

 

Guy 1 and 2 know what they are getting into. They and the op have nothing to get teary about. I should be the one crying for humanity :(

 

Well I know it sounds ridiculous. I get it.....

 

I guess I need to make a decision about #2 based on him alone and leave #1 out of it since there really is nothing there. The main issues with #2 are his age and his sexual history. I feel bad that he shared his past with me and now I feel like letting him go. I just don't know if I can take on those issues. And that makes me feel selfish.

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I'm really amazed about how you managed to get into a just sex relationship with an obese guy.

 

What was so appealing about him?

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SmileFace Established Member

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I'm really amazed about how you managed to get into a just sex relationship with an obese guy.

 

What was so appealing about him?

 

Yes because the obese part is the worrying factor. Not that he is unemployed, lives at home and doesn't want her outside of sex. Yes, the obese part is the horrid part. Of course.

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LittlePrince Established Member

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Yes because the obese part is the worrying factor. Not that he is unemployed, lives at home and doesn't want her outside of sex. Yes, the obese part is the horrid part. Of course.

Smiley my lass, one day you too will win the heart of the obese guy of your dreams, i.e. me, but I must be wooed first. I'm not a cheap whore. I demand only the best...fancy feast.

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Smiley my lass, one day you too will win the heart of the obese guy of your dreams, i.e. me, but I must be wooed first. I'm not a cheap whore. I demand only the best...fancy feast.

No thanks however that being the top of his problems is horse **** my prince.

LittlePrince Established Member

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No thanks however that being the top of his problems is horse **** my prince.

I generally think that which impacts one's health should be at the top of anyone's list.

SmileFace Established Member

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I generally think that which impacts one's health should be at the top of anyone's list.

Yes it should be.

However SD's question was what makes you want to sleep with a fat guy?

Totally ignoring all the other factors.

 

Anyway my question was to SD - since he seems to measure someones dating success by their weight. Yet this obese guy is getting his meat hammered.

LittlePrince Established Member

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Yes it should be.

However SD's question was what makes you want to sleep with a fat guy?

Totally ignoring all the other factors.

 

Anyway my question was to SD - since he seems to measure someones dating success by their weight. Yet this obese guy is getting his meat hammered.

Yep and it was already answered. She has some sort of fat domination fetish.

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Yes because the obese part is the worrying factor. Not that he is unemployed, lives at home and doesn't want her outside of sex. Yes, the obese part is the horrid part. Of course.

 

Hoping Smile's sarcasm doesn't lose it's sting out of context...

 

If you were to break up with him simply because he's obese, that would be a superficial reason. None of the other things listed above are superficial reasons. Yes, it's great to be getting awesome sex, that's universal. But if you're starting to think long-term (and especially with your kids in tow), there's a lot in your relationship with him which is lacking. On the other hand, the other guy sounds like a real catch and perhaps you should give him more of a chance. Maybe he's not so hot in bed at the moment, but that's a skill which can be learned, and he makes you feel loved outside of the sack as well. If that doesn't appeal, maybe try looking for #3.

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I'm really amazed about how you managed to get into a just sex relationship with an obese guy.

 

What was so appealing about him?

 

He plays guitar.

 

He plays guitar in this reggae band. He and one of our family friends are both in the band. I was dating the keyboardist and went to see them play and was blown away by his talent. I asked my friend (not the guy I was dating) for his number to get on the txt message group for the next time they were playing. The guy I was dating was in a few bands and didnt do the PR. Thats when #1 and I started texting.

 

His texts were sexually playful and I went along. I decided to meet up for a drink mostly because I was bored and I knew right away after that night that I'd be with him sexually although I didn't for a few weeks.

 

He also is friends with many of my and my brothers friends and I like having this family connection. I think ultimately I'm looking for a man like my brother.

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I'm really amazed about how you managed to get into a just sex relationship with an obese guy.

 

What was so appealing about him?

 

 

Like I've tried to tell you and other guys on this forum before men can develope traits that are very attractive to women that have nothing to do with his looks.

 

If a guy can cause a woman to feel great chemistry with him his looks aren't going to matter too much.

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LittlePrince Established Member

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I've said before men can develope traits that are very attractive

to women that have nothing to do with his looks.

Like a bowl full of jelly.

SmileFace Established Member

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Like I've tried to tell you and other guys on this forum before men can develope traits that are very attractive to women that have nothing to do with his looks.

 

If a guy can cause a woman to feel great chemistry with him his looks aren't going to matter too much.

THANK YOU!

 

This is what I was trying to get across by asking the question.

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LittlePrince Established Member

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Thing is none of that is relevant to this particular situation.

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Thing is none of that is relevant to this particular situation.

I think the relevant part is that you can't help who you fall for. Even to me, being crazy about him makes no sense. I think in the beginning he just seemed safe.....since I had just gotten out of a relationship and knew I wasn't looking for someone to settle down with yet. But here I am.

LittlePrince Established Member

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I think the relevant part is that you can't help who you fall for. Even to me, being crazy about him makes no sense. I think in the beginning he just seemed safe.....since I had just gotten out of a relationship and knew I wasn't looking for someone to settle down with yet. But here I am.

Which is ironic I guess since your weeble will wobble but it won't fall down.

somedude81 Established Member

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Ignoring everybody else who addressed my post

He plays guitar.

 

He plays guitar in this reggae band. He and one of our family friends are both in the band. I was dating the keyboardist and went to see them play and was blown away by his talent. I asked my friend (not the guy I was dating) for his number to get on the txt message group for the next time they were playing. The guy I was dating was in a few bands and didnt do the PR. Thats when #1 and I started texting.

 

His texts were sexually playful and I went along. I decided to meet up for a drink mostly because I was bored and I knew right away after that night that I'd be with him sexually although I didn't for a few weeks.

 

He also is friends with many of my and my brothers friends and I like having this family connection. I think ultimately I'm looking for a man like my brother.

So he was very talented. I can understand how that would make him attractive. You also seem to have a thing for guys in bands.

 

After texting for a while, things just happened. Well it definitely worked out for him.

 

Thanks for giving the background.

edgygirl Established Member

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Ignoring everybody else who addressed my post

 

So he was very talented. I can understand how that would make him attractive. You also seem to have a thing for guys in bands.

 

After texting for a while, things just happened. Well it definitely worked out for him.

 

Thanks for giving the background.

 

No. it's not his talent only that made him attractive to her in spite of his body like you're implying.

 

She is sexually attracted to his (obese) body, although it's inconceivable to you. Look for her post where she describes it.

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LittlePrince Established Member

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He doesn't get fetishes.

SmileFace Established Member

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Ignoring everybody else who addressed my post

 

So he was very talented. I can understand how that would make him attractive. You also seem to have a thing for guys in bands.

 

After texting for a while, things just happened. Well it definitely worked out for him.

 

Thanks for giving the background.

 

Eh, such a sour puss.. grow some balls. No one here can bite you. :p

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Eh, such a sour puss.. grow some balls. No one here can bite you. :p

Uh sure.

 

I only cared about why she'd want to date a guy who was obese and she answered it.

 

If you want to bite me, be my guest.

SmileFace Established Member

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Uh sure.

 

I only cared about why she'd want to date a guy who was obese and she answered it.

 

If you want to bite me, be my guest.

*ignores*

 

 

...hehe

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somedude81 Established Member

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*ignores*

 

 

...hehe

*goes and makes a thread about LS women but has SmileFace in mind as the main subject and strongly hints it*

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edgygirl Established Member

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Uh sure.

 

I only cared about why she'd want to date a guy who was obese and she answered it.

 

If you want to bite me, be my guest.

 

SD, I think you might suffer from selective reading / selective memory. Let me make it easier for you and paste what she said about his body and attraction to him here below. You keep implying that no one can feel attraction to an obese person because you don't. That's not the case for many people.

 

Well....I don't know for certain but ill try to explain. There is chemistry. He kisses well. His voice is deep and sexy. He lets me know how much he likes it.

 

I'm a small girl and being with such a large guy is a huge turn on for me. The flesh is makes it easy to bounce up and down on top. Being on the bottom I feel totally dominated and being on top let's me completely take charge.

 

We sext a lot so there is a lot of anticipation in between seeing each other. We don't make definite plans often, so seeing each other is spontaneous and fun. I'm a highly sexual person and he is very open to trying different things. We are both somewhat dirty. I guess we are just compatible in this way.

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