ThatOneKid Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Alright guys I'm in a tough situation and really need some outside unbiased help. This past year I began my freshmen year of college. As such I had to leave my girlfriend (dating 2 years) behind (still in high school). When I first got to college I broke up with her in order to experience the whole college scene to the fullest. However, after a month or two we got back together. Yet it turns out that during that period of separation she and my best friend (in high school with her) had messed around. (All at one time) while taking her home from school one day he had leaned over and kissed her. She kissed him back, but as she explained to me only because she was lonely over me and had was needy. He then proceeded to move to the backseat where he waited for her to come back and wouldn't take her home until she did go back there with him. She was shocked and waited for a long awkward time in the infront passenger seat because she really didn't want to do anything, just wanted the initial kiss. But he begged her and so she eventually caved. They begin to make out and then he grabs her by the wrist and pulls his dick out and beggs her to jack him off... she initially refused but then caved and did it "awkwardly" as they both put it (she never got into it and hated it) ... she stopped after a short amount of time because she knew she still had feelings for me. However, a month after this, as stated before we got back together. She finally told me what happened 2 weeks ago and also said that they had made plans to be alone with together just "hanging out as friends"... one of those times was just 3 weeks ago while we were dating in which they were alone in his house.. nothing happened and they had a long deep talk about what I meant to her and how what happened was a huge mistake, but he told her while she was leaving that the only reason he asked her over was to have sex with her. When I asked her did she really think I would be okay with her bring alone like that she replied "I knew you'd be mad, but I thought you wouldn't be that mad, so I did it anyway"... Me and by best friend are threw he tried to apologize but I told him off.. as for me and her, she wants to try to work it out but I'm not sure... I feel like I'm over reacting a little since a lot the stuff she did occurred while we weren't together... . that's where I'm looking for help, she has been the perfect gf up until this point and claims that all of it was a mistake, and swore he meant nothing to her.... which I believe, I just don't know if i should give her another chance...
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I broke up with her in order to experience the whole college scene to the fullest...I just don't know if i should give her another chance Ha, ha ha. You're story sure brought a smile to my face, thanks. So you broke up with her because you thought college was going to be full of hand-jobs and sex for you. But it turns out two can play that game and she had fun as well. Now you think you have somehow taken the high road in the relationship and are making her sweat it out, lording this perceived mistake she made over her. So in conclusion, yes, yes you should be the bigger person and take her back. But always remind her of this, how she's a horrible person and how she's be lucky to be with a person so noble as you. 1
Author ThatOneKid Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 Thanks for the reply, even though it was a little rude whatever... So just be clear, you believe she did it out of revenge?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Revenge, boredom, loneliness, horniness; who cares her reason. She did it, but you don't have the moral high ground.
Author ThatOneKid Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 Okay, your right. I should just let go of what she did while we were apart. but do i just forget that she still wanted to see him even though she knew he was trying to screw her? do i just forget that she wanted and made plans to deliberately be alone with him even though i was back in her life?
Keenly Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Okay, your right. I should just let go of what she did while we were apart. but do i just forget that she still wanted to see him even though she knew he was trying to screw her? do i just forget that she wanted and made plans to deliberately be alone with him even though i was back in her life? dude.... you BROKE UP with her.... You said PEACE OUT , she probably got all messed up and did something impulsive. The mere fact that you can not acknowledge that its your fault speaks volumes.
Author ThatOneKid Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 I fully acknowledge that this is my fault, 110%. Never should of broken up her, learned the lesson, got it. Okay, but all im asking is what to i take from her still needing to be alone with him in his house after we got back together? Do you think she has feelings for him or it was just a mistake or what? What she did while we were apart i dont care about, its whatever both made a mistake thats done.
meeji Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 When you dump someone, they can do what they want. She can **** your brother if she wants and frankly, its none of your business. Whether it was irrational feelings or whatever the case may be...she wasnt in a relationship with you. To be honest, you are the one that is lucky that she wants to take you back after leaving her to live the college life. Whats worse? a girl having a fling/rebound after her boyfriend dumps her or a guy dumping his girlfriend so that he is not tied to one girl? You do the math... this is the game that you started so now that it backfired, you should really clean the slate if you want to continue with her. I'm sure she deserves a guys that is committed and not so easily tempted to fall astray. Secondly, if the girl told said guy she wasnt interested then who cares why he invited her over... if she didnt sleep with him,nor intend to you are making a fuss over nothing. She obviously went there to tell him to back off.
road Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 When you dump someone, they can do what they want. She can **** your brother if she wants and frankly, its none of your business. Whether it was irrational feelings or whatever the case may be...she wasnt in a relationship with you. To be honest, you are the one that is lucky that she wants to take you back after leaving her to live the college life. Whats worse? a girl having a fling/rebound after her boyfriend dumps her or a guy dumping his girlfriend so that he is not tied to one girl? You do the math... this is the game that you started so now that it backfired, you should really clean the slate if you want to continue with her. I'm sure she deserves a guys that is committed and not so easily tempted to fall astray. Secondly, if the girl told said guy she wasnt interested then who cares why he invited her over... if she didnt sleep with him,nor intend to you are making a fuss over nothing. She obviously went there to tell him to back off. You started this mess by dumoing her. She continued this mess by seeing the OM after you got back together. I find it hard to believe nothing happened the decond time. There was no need for a second time based on the story she told you. Her story about just a kiss, a H job, not finishing it, all are known as minimizing techniques done to do damage control by not telling the whole truth. Whne added she went and was alone with the OM a second time. 1
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