irc333 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I had read somewhere, an article, about how a lot of times how men do things that cause their current wives to be turned off by them. That men, become so comfortable in a marriage, they start to do things that would normally turn a woman off that you had just started dating. The "Hemorroid" thread got me started on this post. lol Things listed were, for instance, doing a # 2 in front of your wife while she's brushing her teeth or something. Or too much flatulence in the same room as her Basically, doing "gross" things in front of her can make her turn her off about you, and possibly can lead to a divorce later down the pike. Then she leaves, and the newly divorced husband was like "What the heck just happened??" I don't think I would necessarily agree with this, because I actually thought this was indeed par for the course when it came to marriage. lol Anyone?
TheZebra Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I don't think 'gross' things alone are with dissolves marriages. At least, all of the marriages around me that have fallen apart have done so because of many different reasons. None of my relationships fell apart because of it either. What gross things CAN contribute to is a loss in attraction. I mean, if your partner is suddenly doing a #2 in front of you, has gained 30 pounds since you got married, and stopped taking care of himself, then that whole combination is going to spell doom to the marriage. The problem with not being yourself in the early stages of dating is that when your 'real' you comes out 1, 5, or 10 years later, it may not be someone your partner likes.
FitChick Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 The problem is repeating behaviors that your spouse has told you they dislike.
LittlePrince Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 The problem is repeating behaviors that your spouse has told you they dislike. The problem is men breathe. Women don't like that so much in the end.
KungFuJoe Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Here's the secret. Remember when you were first dating and you wanted to be the best possible man for your woman? Just don't stop ever doing that. And I'm not saying you need to be fake, or try to be someone you're not. Because that's not the case at all. I know a lot of people get married or they're with the same person for a while and they stop trying to "court" her. They stop caring as much...they let themselves get out of shape. I never leave the courting stage...at least I haven't in 13 years with my wife. I still want to be the best possible man for her. I treat her like a queen. I stay in shape and try to look good for her. I always love and respect her. And she does the exact same to me. And I do it, not because I NEED to, but because I want to. I know that I could probably just eat like crap, stop working out, and never take my wife anywhere and you know...we'd probably still be pretty happy and be together. But there is a reason why, after 13 years, we now have MORE and BETTER sex and love each other even more than when we first got married. It's because we've never stopped trying to "win" the other person. 3
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