devi Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I am trying to decide if my relationship is worth saving, and I'd like to hear objective viewpoint. Strangers on the internet may see something im missing so I came to ask for advice. Ive been dating my bf for about six months. We are both comitted and have made plans for to live together in a year. We are extremely compatible and both in our early thirties. Usually we get along great and he really is a "good" guy. We do argue briefly, about once a week. And he recently told me that I annoy him sometimes and he just tunes me out and ignores me. I asked him about it of course, and he says when I talk about things that dont interest him or complain about my problems it is like he switches "off" and spaces out, and that most of the time when we are on the phone he isnt listening and is playing on the computer instead. He thinks im making a big deal out of nothing. But I dont think I want to be with someone who doesnt like my personaity.
Balzac Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Not worth it if you feel this way at the 6 month marker. Find a man who wants to be with you, is emotionally available and enjoys your company.
ThatOneKid Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I don't think it has anything to do with you per say, he really just seems like a typical guy. He just talks to much for his own good... I mean no guy listens to every single word that there gf says, but just being there so you have someone to atleast tell is what counts the most. I mean yeah, ofc he should want to listen, but realistically that's not gonna happen.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I annoy him sometimes and he just tunes me out and ignores me. Women annoy men, men tune out women, water is wet and the sky is blue. Sitting here with the knowledge that you are over 30 and don't know that this is a characteristic of all men is getting me annoyed. Actually, now that I think about it, I am getting really annoyed. For one, this "problem" you have with him is essentially that he has a problem with you. You have a derivative problem. Its a meta-problem. Its a retalatory problem. He finds you sometimes annoying, which is a minor issue for him, but obviously not something he is considering ending this thing with you over. You however have turned him into having a small issue with you into a large issue you have with him.
Author devi Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 All three of you are probably right, but I still think I am out. there really are other issues. Im going to stay single for a while and work on myself.
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