tinklebell Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I know many have said not to dip the pen in company ink. But I was wondering if there's a difference between asking out someone from a different department versus from the same department? Will some people be more willing to ask someone out from a different department? Or when love hits, it doesn't matter?
iris219 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Unlike some, I have no problem dating coworkers. I don't see what the big deal is. I went on a some dates last year with a coworker (same department), but it didn't work out. Now I see him at work most days and I don't even think about the fact that we dated. It doesn't matter at all. I don't see why some people are weird about it. Lots of people end of marrying coworkers. There are several people where I work who met there and married, both in the same department and in different ones. I've never fallen in love with a coworker though. Maybe that would make the experience different.
skylark100 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I know many have said not to dip the pen in company ink. But I was wondering if there's a difference between asking out someone from a different department versus from the same department? Will some people be more willing to ask someone out from a different department? Or when love hits, it doesn't matter? This has always been a sticky situation in my experience. Dipping your pen into the company ink can seriously (negatively) affect your professional reputation. It doesn't matter that she is in another department. Unless she works in another building and we are talking about a 10k employee workplace, where anonymity is common. However, IF something goes wrong in the relationship, rumours start to swirl, you might come out looking like the bad guy, and if its serious enough you may get that dreaded call from your boss asking you to explain why there is so much distraction surrounding your personal life. It can impede you professional progression and potentially affect your ability to progress. You have to weigh the likelihood of a successful gratifying relationship vs ensuring a successful career at your workplace. All this being said, if you really love this person and have no reservations, you have to follow your gut and go with it. It's a tricky situation.
Author tinklebell Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 Say you have to choose. Would you prefer to date someone in the same or different department? Because a different department may result in less issues if a breakup ensues?
Author tinklebell Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 Say you have to choose. Would you prefer dating someone from another department? Because if a breakup happens, there will be fewer issues? Than if seeing daily in the same department or direct subordinate?
TheZebra Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 One of my former professors always said that you should never date someone within your company; and there are plenty of good reasons for that. The only problem is that we tend to spend so much of our lives at work that meeting people there sometimes CAN be the best place. If you're going that route, tread carefully and if you can, try picking someone that you would never have to interact with if something goes wrong. Granted, people can get transferred, but the odds of the IT guy suddenly going into Sales is pretty slim.
Author tinklebell Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 One of my former professors always said that you should never date someone within your company; and there are plenty of good reasons for that. The only problem is that we tend to spend so much of our lives at work that meeting people there sometimes CAN be the best place. If you're going that route, tread carefully and if you can, try picking someone that you would never have to interact with if something goes wrong. Granted, people can get transferred, but the odds of the IT guy suddenly going into Sales is pretty slim. But is there a difference between same and different departments? To begin with. Not waiting for someone to get transferred internally.
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