TrueSmiles12 Posted August 15, 2004 Posted August 15, 2004 please read my previous posts in coping: "it's really over now, isn't it" and "did i make a mistake?" to better understand this situation.. anyways, since wednesday, my ex boyfriend has been texting me casual texts here and there.. it honestly has felt like we were together again.. and i started to feel complete once more.. he has been hounding me for a response to the email he had sent me that was in response to the one i had sent him 2 weeks ago.. i have honestly been avoiding the fact that he was looking for a response -- i mean he didn't write anything worth responding to.. basically, its not like he was looking to get back together ::sigh:: so, today, he calls me, after texting me earlier.. i was busy so i said id call him back and when i did, i just said that i didnt really understand why he responded to my email anyway and then he said, ok well i just didnt want us to hate each other or avoid each other all the time, especially when we are going to back at school, i guess its not really a big deal, we'll just see what happens. i didnt really have my hopes up for him maybe even telling me that he still had feelings for me, but i just know that he still does.. keep in mind i was his first gf, first serious anything, and he still obviously cares about me and how i feel and such.. it's just really frustrating, because i know how stubborn he is -- VERY stubborn. so we ended up just having a very short casual conversation about our mutual friends at school, he asked when i was going back (next sat) and how he was going back the same day, and he was just very curious as to what i had been up to (he noticed i havent been online).. i think i did really well, because he did A LOT of the talking.. it seemed like he just kept filling me in on how much he had been meaning to talk to me about but never had the chance to til now.. ::sigh:: i miss him, i miss the everyday talks.. but now we're going back to school (3rd year college) and i guess we'll just have to wait and see what happens??? it would still very much hurt me to just surrender to being his friend, but we were such great friends before we dated.. and i'm so afraid that he will still have feelings for me, but since we had a failed relationship together already, he would never ever let those feelings be known.. i still want him back, i still want another chance..
honey2005 Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 but i just know that he still does I was my ex's first serious girlfriend, too. I thought I meant the world to him, I mean, he would tell me that everyday. But then one day it was over. No explanation, no nothing. I was so hurt, I didn't know what to do. Now, almost 4 months after that, I'm almost completely over him. This wasn't a casual, 2 month thing, either. It lasted 3 years, us talking everyday, being as close as I thought two people could ever be. What I'm trying to say is you can't be certain that he still feels the same as he used to. People change, like my ex. I know how you feel and I know what you're going through. I miss the long, everyday talks, too. Even now that I don't love him anymore, I still miss the closeness and the bond we had. We aren't friends right now, I tried that for a bit but he didn't put much into it so I gave up. A second chance is all that I wanted, too, but I never got it. I'm not saying you won't get one, but I am saying that even if you don't, you will still live, move on, and learn from the experience.
bgfrombg Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 I agree totally. You will move on. I know it may not be what you want to hear, it's not really what I've been wanting to hear from everyone, but yes, it's gonna hurt, your gonna cry, it's gonna take some time, and no, you won't ever forget him, but it'll get better, I know cuz I'm going through the same thing. My ex g/f was 17 when we got together. Every guy she was with before me, treated her like crap, and was just a waste of time. I was the first guy she was ever with that was good to her. We would have been together 4 years in Jan. but about a month ago she up and said she wanted to be single. It shocked me because we hadn't been fighting and everything seemed fine up till that minute. I want to believe that the last 3 years have meant as much to her as they have to me, but the way she acts is that she never cared. But enough about me, but now you know that I'm in the same boat kinda, and I'm saying it will get better.
becca Posted September 11, 2004 Posted September 11, 2004 my ex has been calling and hanging up latley. it has been a year since we have talked. i am not over him at all. we were together for alomst 10 years and he ended things. we were very young when we me. only 13. so we grew up together are not were are apart and i hate it. I wish we could still be together. Any way he called the other day and hung up, then drove by my house, and when he realized i was outside he took off. then he called again and hung up. Finalyy after 3 times of hanging i finally got him to talk. And he said he just wanted to see how i was. And about a month ago i got a few room mates. And he i guess found out and asked who i was living with. I dont know if he wanted to see if i was dating some one and living with them or what. So i told him and we had shor conversation, he said he was getting an apartment and I asked if he was buying to see if he would say we are renting, and he said I and renting. So i dont konw of there is someone in his life still. Then he said i was just checking in and take care. It took a minute for him to say by. And now i dont know what to think. does he want to be with me or what. i mean after all this time and he knows i am not over him and i am still waiting for him, What are his intentions?
jqbnchick Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 look im goin through that wright now we wasn't together for that long though only 3 yr mabe just mabe he just really wanted to know how u was HEY IT IS 10 YEARS THAT IS A PRETTY BIG CHUNK OF YOUR LIFE OF COURSE HE IS GOING TO THINK OF U TIME TO TIME MABE IT IS THAT HE REALIZED THAT U WERE MENT TO BE TOGETHER AFTER THIS PAST YEAR<<< WHICH IS PROBABLY WHAT U WISHED IT WAS>>> I KNOW THATS WHAT I WISHED I THINK U NEED TO TRY NOT TO READ ANYTHING INTO IT IF HE REALLY WANTED U BACK THAN HE WOULD PUT MORE EFFORT INTO IT AND STOP ACTING LIKE A CHILD STALKING U
netrie Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 Originally posted by becca my ex has been calling and hanging up latley. it has been a year since we have talked... Then he said i was just checking in and take care. It took a minute for him to say by. Hell yeah! He is calling you after one year. I think that tells you a lot... He is NOT over you. Do NOT contact him. Sit back and see what is going on and if he calls again. However, if you really want to know what is going on---make a date with him LOOK AT HIM SQUARE IN THE EYE IF YOU DARE and ask him. Best to you, Netalia P.S. Aint love a bitch!!!!!!!!!
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