gentle_male Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Hi All! Many Christmas Eve greetings!! A rather odd thing just happened. My ex-girlfriend emailed my parents wishing them a happy Christmas! What makes it odd is that there has been no contact between them since our breakup 14 months ago! Some more info: - I am 32, she is 30. - I proposed to her after 5 solid years together and she said no (with no explanation). That was 14 months ago and we haven't seen each other since. - As far as I am aware, we have both been single the entire time. Anyway, as you can tell, I'm a little surprised by this. The email was a very beautiful one that she wrote to my parents (not me). Anyone had experience with this kind of thing before? Seeing as she broke it off, not quite sure why she'd write (and to my parents) after all this time. I know Christmas can be an excuse to write, but why write at all? Last year she didn't. Odd. Anyway, thoughts are welcome! Merry Christmas!!!!!
CarrieT Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Sure - I actually kept in touch with a lot of my Ex's parents after a break-up. In one case, I dated a guy for four or five months and after he broke up with me, his mother invited me to lunch and we stayed in touch for a year or two (we really liked each other). With my last long-term relationship (almost three years), I sent a Christmas card to my Ex's parents, thanking them for the warm and wonderful holidays I spent with them. They responded in kind and have sent me a card every year since. They are wonderful people and know their son's problems well enough. No biggie, in my book.
MichiganMan222 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 OP, I take it you're interested in this because you'd like to get back with her?
fucpcg Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 First, I sent my ex's parents a Thanksgiving Card 9 months post breakup and NC, as per her desire. I tried to talk, she won't communicate... Her parents were really wonderful to me and very welcoming of me into their family. That was 2 Thanksgivings ago. I wanted to send another this past Thanksgiving, however my ex has still expressed too much hostility toward me after all this time, so I just thought it was best to let this one go. Not because I was using letters to get thru to my ex, the card was genuine. Just figured how will she perceive this, and what will she say to her parents when they tell her I sent another card, and the spin probably she will put on all this. That brings me to my Second, she has to know that your parents will tell you. Why the letter now and not after the breakup? Two months probably too soon for her to send, 14 months later she can send in a totally different "atmosphere" so to speak. If she is missing your family, in a way by default she is missing you if you ask me. I don't know what is going thru her head, but I do know she knows you sent that letter, I'm going all in with that bet.
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