Nikton Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 T got depressed in October & wouldn't see me for six weeks. My father died Nov 6th. Nov 14th was my birthday. 1 1/2 weeks later, T disappeared without explanation, not answering my calls & messages. I was depressed after my father's death, I'm very insecure, and I'm used to the people I care about disappearing. Due to these factors, I interpreted T's absence as he didn't want to talk to me. After about 10 days, I finally sent T a text asking why he wasn't answering my messages, that he said he cared about me, & I missed our conversations. The next day, T answered that he'd been away without a phone signal. He said no one else was upset by his absence (no one else was used to daily contact with him!), and that he was uncomfortable that I'd assume something negative about him. I explained about my depression & insecurity. T said he understood, that he wasn't upset. He wrote a bit about his Thanksgiving, sent a joke, and then a smile when I joked in reply. I thought everything was OK. But then I didn't hear from T again. I wondered if T had gone away again. I was also worried~ I didn't know if he was dead or alive. After about a week, I went to T's place, and was shocked to find that he was at home. I suddenly realized that I'd been left for no reason, and that T didn't even tell me, had in fact led me to believe that everything was all right between us. I rang the bell. T wouldn't come down. I rang the bell for a while, and T called the police! Not only was T not man enough to come down and tell me what was going on, but he wouldn't even tell me that he didn't want to talk to me. T said that he had very strong feelings for me, that he loved me. He said we were friends, and our friendship was the most important thing. T had also told me that he'd never forget how I was there for him when his father died. He dumped me 2 1/2 weeks after my father's death! Tom Sepulveda~ The End of Our Love Affair (The Sugars) - YouTube
lovefiction Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I am terribly sorry about your father. I lost my father when I was a senior in high school and my friends were an integral part of my grieving process. Obviously this man is not worth your time and you need to spend time with people who truly care about you... I am send ing positive thoughts to you...
MyAngel Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Firstly, I'm sorry about your dad. That T sounds like a real piece of work. You're so better off without him. It awful that you're used to people leaving you... I understand what you are talking about. When the people you love leave... You begin to expect it but when it happens it's still such a shock. You hope youll find someone that won't leave but when you find the one that you think won't still leaves...
Samilia Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 T got depressed in October & wouldn't see me for six weeks. My father died Nov 6th. Nov 14th was my birthday. 1 1/2 weeks later, T disappeared without explanation, not answering my calls & messages. I was depressed after my father's death, I'm very insecure, and I'm used to the people I care about disappearing. Due to these factors, I interpreted T's absence as he didn't want to talk to me. After about 10 days, I finally sent T a text asking why he wasn't answering my messages, that he said he cared about me, & I missed our conversations. The next day, T answered that he'd been away without a phone signal. He said no one else was upset by his absence (no one else was used to daily contact with him!), and that he was uncomfortable that I'd assume something negative about him. I explained about my depression & insecurity. T said he understood, that he wasn't upset. He wrote a bit about his Thanksgiving, sent a joke, and then a smile when I joked in reply. I thought everything was OK. But then I didn't hear from T again. I wondered if T had gone away again. I was also worried~ I didn't know if he was dead or alive. After about a week, I went to T's place, and was shocked to find that he was at home. I suddenly realized that I'd been left for no reason, and that T didn't even tell me, had in fact led me to believe that everything was all right between us. I rang the bell. T wouldn't come down. I rang the bell for a while, and T called the police! Not only was T not man enough to come down and tell me what was going on, but he wouldn't even tell me that he didn't want to talk to me. T said that he had very strong feelings for me, that he loved me. He said we were friends, and our friendship was the most important thing. T had also told me that he'd never forget how I was there for him when his father died. He dumped me 2 1/2 weeks after my father's death! Tom Sepulveda~ The End of Our Love Affair (The Sugars) - YouTube Excuse me but.. lol? Where do you go that you don't get a phone signal or don't have access to a phone? The middle of the ocean? He doesn't love you, he doesn't care for you, that, you know. What a coward indeed. Let him die a lier and a coward, who cares? Losing a family member sucks, losing a parent goes beyond words. In the name of all the people here who aren't cowards, we wish you a happy birthday, a merry Christmas, and we hope that 2013 will be a happier year for you.
Christopher82 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 That's absolutely terrible.... I'm sorry you've had to experience so much turmoil and loss as of late. The guy is obviously very, VERY self-absorbed, selfish, cold and inconsiderate. Please talk to friends and family and align yourself with people that have their head on straight. Be around healthy people who will allow you to vent and will give the support you need. This guy is a cold, heartless loser.
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