johan Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 (edited) I am sorry I don't agree this your battle to fight. You have been with this girl six weks. She needs to be the one to stop this. Everyone is saying she should move out. Yes technically she should. However he went into this relationship knowing she lived with an ex-fling, that is his own damn fault. I think the big indicator of this relationship continuing should be based on her actions. This is really the heart of the problem. If she wants you to trust her, she needs to resolve this, and it shouldn't even require you to have to say anything. There are reasons why, even if she digs you and has zero interest in him, she would allow this to go on. she might be indulging her ego a bit and dragging her feet on fixing the situation, because she kind of likes what you and this assh*le are willing to put yourselves through for her. she might really hate confrontations and is avoiding having to be straight with him and possibly hurt his feelings or poison the atmosphere at home. she might be observing how you deal with the situation, which is ready-made for finding out what kind of guy you are. Are you secure? Are you jealous? Are you passive? Are you able to handle confrontations and your emotions in a mature way, or are you ready to make a fool of yourself? Can you express yourself? Will you blame the guy or put the responsibility where it belongs: on her? The responsibility is really hers. After only six weeks, it's probably a bit early for you to justify making demands on her to change her living situation, break a lease, etc. But you can still let her know what your expectations are for a relationship, and they don't include having some dickhead hovering around complicating things. Make it clear that you dig her, but you were never interested in having what a love triangle, and then if you threaten to back off until this gets resolved, follow through. And don't contact that sh*thead again. You can't gain from it, no matter what happens. Really, this is a test for you, whether she knows it or not. You pass it by turning the tables and showing that you consider it a test for her to pass. And if she fails, it's not such a big loss. Edited December 24, 2012 by johan
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