Jseed101 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Help with a girl I think I love.? So there is this girl that I have been hanging out with maybe once a month for the past 2 years. We would study together, lay in her hammock and next to the pool and chat, watch movies on her couch and what not. She has become a very good friend of mine and I love spending time with her. Recently, while at her house, she made it very clear to be that she had broken up with her boyfriend, which is something that she had been wanting to do for a while. She kept saying that we should hang out more often and I agreed. Well, a few days later, I asked her if she wanted to go out somewhere. She said yes but asked If i had any activities in mind. I brought up the movies which was down for. Unfortunately, the movie I had planned to see is no longer in theaters so we decided to push it forward to see a movie that is coming out in 2 days. Now my first question is this: "Is this a date?". I really would hope it is. It is just us two and I'm paying and picking her up. I was texting her today and she responded but eventually got busy preparing for Christmas and couldn't talk. I'm probably just over thinking the whole thing but this is not a bad sign is it? Now, I can't describe the way I feel right now, but I cant stop thinking about her. We have a lot in common and I just love spending time with her. I guess overall, I'm doing a combination of venting stress and asking: "Do you guys think this is a date that could lead to. I just want help with this. I want comfort about because I worry about too much.
CptObvious Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 First of all there's no such thing as love. There is only sex and mistakes. You go into this hoping for a good time then you'll turn out okay. You go in expecting a wife and 2 kids then you are in for a world of pain.
sid3 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 First of all there's no such thing as love. There is only sex and mistakes. You go into this hoping for a good time then you'll turn out okay. You go in expecting a wife and 2 kids then you are in for a world of pain. There could easily be a world of pain waiting regardless
Author Jseed101 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 First of all there's no such thing as love. There is only sex and mistakes. You go into this hoping for a good time then you'll turn out okay. You go in expecting a wife and 2 kids then you are in for a world of pain. I'm fully aware of possible pain but I'm telling you now, I have never felt this way about someone before. It's not a desire to necessarily only have sex or have a wife and kids, it's just this girl is so awesome to be around. I can't explain it besides that.
KungFuJoe Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Help with a girl I think I love.? So there is this girl that I have been hanging out with maybe once a month for the past 2 years. We would study together, lay in her hammock and next to the pool and chat, watch movies on her couch and what not. She has become a very good friend of mine and I love spending time with her. Recently, while at her house, she made it very clear to be that she had broken up with her boyfriend, which is something that she had been wanting to do for a while. She kept saying that we should hang out more often and I agreed. Well, a few days later, I asked her if she wanted to go out somewhere. She said yes but asked If i had any activities in mind. I brought up the movies which was down for. Unfortunately, the movie I had planned to see is no longer in theaters so we decided to push it forward to see a movie that is coming out in 2 days. Now my first question is this: "Is this a date?". I really would hope it is. It is just us two and I'm paying and picking her up. I was texting her today and she responded but eventually got busy preparing for Christmas and couldn't talk. I'm probably just over thinking the whole thing but this is not a bad sign is it? Now, I can't describe the way I feel right now, but I cant stop thinking about her. We have a lot in common and I just love spending time with her. I guess overall, I'm doing a combination of venting stress and asking: "Do you guys think this is a date that could lead to. I just want help with this. I want comfort about because I worry about too much. You have a crush on her, basically. It could be love, but I can't tell you that much from what you've told us so far. But you definitely have a big time crush on her. No one can tell you what this will lead to because none of us can read her mind. But I can tell you this. NO...I can GUARANTEE you this. If you don't make a move on her, you will regret it FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. If this girl is a prize (and from the way you feel about, she definitely is in your eyes) other guys are going to be wanting a shot at her. Make your move now or you will miss the train. The only thing you have to lose is her friendship. But because you have a crush on her, there is NO WAY you could ever really be friends with her. So this plays out in three possible scenarios and you pick which one you prefer: #1 - You sit tight, don't do anything, stay friends...and you get to sit back and watch as someone else sweeps her off her feet and maybe you get lucky and get to be a 3rd wheel when the three of you go out. #2 - You take her out, let her know what you REALLY want. I'm talking go in for a kiss...confess how you feel...ANYTHING that shows you want to be more than friends...and SHE REJECTS you. Well...that sucks...and YES, you possibly will lose a friend. But she didn't want you anyways and if you hadn't done a thing, you would be faced with the first option, which is EVEN WORSE. #3 - You do exactly what is stated in #2, she tells you that she's always liked you as well, and you guys ride off into the sunset...roll end credits and play sappy love music. The end.
CptObvious Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I'm fully aware of possible pain but I'm telling you now, I have never felt this way about someone before. It's not a desire to necessarily only have sex or have a wife and kids, it's just this girl is so awesome to be around. I can't explain it besides that. It will fade. When I was your age I met about a dozen girls who I wanted to spend every moment with. Just being around them made me feel high. I understand what you're feeling for this girl, but you have to be prepared for the likelihood that things aren't going to work out. Having a good time is easy and making good memories is easy. That's about as high as a goal you should realistically set for yourself here.
todreaminblue Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 It will fade. When I was your age I met about a dozen girls who I wanted to spend every moment with. Just being around them made me feel high. I understand what you're feeling for this girl, but you have to be prepared for the likelihood that things aren't going to work out. Having a good time is easy and making good memories is easy. That's about as high as a goal you should realistically set for yourself here. it doesnt have to fade, it doesn't have to end up a world of pain either, maybe it wontw ork out maqybe ti might pre empting something that might or might not happen is in the god realm......it is a date basically and it might be a wonderful one.....just because you have had a bad experience because you felt strongly for someone doesnt mean that he will.....when i fall i fall hard comes from havign passion and believing in love i guess....knowing that feeling of having soemoen who gets you and you get them....that cant be bad..... I never had a dozen guys i felt real strength of feelings for....i can count them on one hand actually.....and I dated all of them bar one now and a high school crush that rejected me....the ones i didnt work out with after dating....it wasnt a world of pain when it finished....just sadness and i wished them well and they actually wished me well and told me if i ever needed them they would be there....i dont see them anymore...two of them i am in contact with they were long term relationships that didnt work out one guy i see and one i dont physically have contact with......life and love is what you make it....if you want to be in a world of pain you can be.if you dont want to be in a world of pain you learn to accept situations and people for who and how it is if you have feelings for them thats how it is...if you feel too much pain you move on.........deb
todreaminblue Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Help with a girl I think I love.? So there is this girl that I have been hanging out with maybe once a month for the past 2 years. We would study together, lay in her hammock and next to the pool and chat, watch movies on her couch and what not. She has become a very good friend of mine and I love spending time with her. Recently, while at her house, she made it very clear to be that she had broken up with her boyfriend, which is something that she had been wanting to do for a while. She kept saying that we should hang out more often and I agreed. Well, a few days later, I asked her if she wanted to go out somewhere. She said yes but asked If i had any activities in mind. I brought up the movies which was down for. Unfortunately, the movie I had planned to see is no longer in theaters so we decided to push it forward to see a movie that is coming out in 2 days. Now my first question is this: "Is this a date?". I really would hope it is. It is just us two and I'm paying and picking her up. I was texting her today and she responded but eventually got busy preparing for Christmas and couldn't talk. I'm probably just over thinking the whole thing but this is not a bad sign is it? Now, I can't describe the way I feel right now, but I cant stop thinking about her. We have a lot in common and I just love spending time with her. I guess overall, I'm doing a combination of venting stress and asking: "Do you guys think this is a date that could lead to. I just want help with this. I want comfort about because I worry about too much. Enjoy getting to know her I hope it works out for you.......yes a movie with a guy and a girl going alone...to me its a date.a more date like scenario is a night movie maybe an icecream after.....and a walk...after trying to sit still for two hours..a walk is divine...a matinee or day movie is more friendship mainly because heaps of kids are running around throwing popcorn everywhere and giggling.....but that's my opinion......deb
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