livelife Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 I went NC and was successfully going strong for a week. I missed him for moments, but I was fine. I was hanging out with friends and getting my mind off of him Went NC last saturday. The following Wednesday I get a text from him: Ignored it. The next day: he follows me on twiter. Just yesterday: He texts me twice, freaking out about things i was posting on my twitter. I don't know why he bothered texting me just to tell at me. So yes I did reply. I replied to stand up for myself. I told him that all he ever ****ing does is put me down, and I was finally happy again. I said he needed to leave me alone, that I was out of his life so treat it like that. I wasn't having any of his bull**** anymore He tried calling me immature again and I said great that you think that, but there are many people out there who think I'm a great person and its been a good feeling so bye. I also mentioned how he is just keeping me around and to the side and it wont work out like that because I won't be waiting around (He mentioned something about how a relationship wont work out until I grow up. Oh ****ing grow up? Just because I tweeted about me going out and having fun? I'M ONLY 20 YEARS OLD. He needs to get his head out of his fat ass. He then tried to ask me to be friends. I said ha HELL NO not right now. He said so if were not dating we cant talk? I said yeah basically, if we were dating or until im over you. So, like I said. Don't break NC. It really really does put you back. I was sooooo fine not texting him and then It ended up to be an all day discussion. Don't do it don't do it. 2
Author livelife Posted December 23, 2012 Author Posted December 23, 2012 He is dating a girl he met out of town that lives 3 hours away. I told him quit talking to me, she sure wouldn't enjoy it. After a couple minutes after our discussion started, he unfollowed me on twitter. I asked why in the world he would think we would work being friends, and I didn't get a response. but I'm okay today! back to Hard NC
Jono85 Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 unfortunately you gave him wayyyyy too much power in that exchange. def stay NC next time and stop feeding his ego. 2
Author livelife Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 I can see how I gave him power in the sense that I was replying more than I should have, I should have kept complete silent, but I had to stick up for myself I was sick of him putting me down. I think I took the power in denying his request to be friends.
salmagundi Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Whether or not you gave him power in that exhange, you said what you had to say and I think thats great...as long as you walk the walk as well. I think that is what is important, silence is the loudest message you can send, and the one he is most likely to hear...
Author livelife Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 Whether or not you gave him power in that exhange, you said what you had to say and I think thats great...as long as you walk the walk as well. I think that is what is important, silence is the loudest message you can send, and the one he is most likely to hear... Thank you for your support. I had ignored his previous attempts and I had to stick up for myself. I was sick of him criticizing me. I'm proud of myself and feel very good about it! (Now, I didn't last night! ) Silence is most definitely the loudest and he will hear it from now on! Is it rude of me to ignore a "Merry Christmas" if he gives one to me?
Simon Phoenix Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Don't respond to "Merry Christmas" or anything. If you want to go no contact, then go "no contact". It doesn't matter if he criticizes you because his opinion doesn't matter any more. Stop worrying about how you look in his eyes. Live your life for you. His opinion does not matter and every time you respond to it (or anything he does) you are telling him that it does matter.
Author livelife Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 Don't respond to "Merry Christmas" or anything. If you want to go no contact, then go "no contact". It doesn't matter if he criticizes you because his opinion doesn't matter any more. Stop worrying about how you look in his eyes. Live your life for you. His opinion does not matter and every time you respond to it (or anything he does) you are telling him that it does matter. Oh, I completely agree 100% with this statement. And okay, I won't respond if he does wish me one. I just wasn't sure if that was considered rude since it is a holiday. He hates me going out and drinking, but i'm young, i'm in college. It's who I am. I like to go out and have fun. He was never a big drinker, and thats where we clash. I'm not a big drinker but I do drink. I'm going to continue and re-start NC and go out and continue what I was doing because it was working!
Author livelife Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 I hope everyone had a very Merry Christmas!! I had a good day spending time with my family. Of course, i'm here to tell you about my ex. He texted me today. 3 times. He first wished me a merry christmas,( on an application on the iphone called snapchat) so I wished him the same and said tell your mom I said happy birthday. That was it. Then he switched to texting and said "she said thanks" then proceeded to send me a picture of a memory me and him had when we were hanging out once. I didn't reply. I had already told him I didn't want to be friends and that we didn't need to be talking. So why is he continuing? I'm not going to reply.
LostOne1 Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Might be because you contacting him with merry xmas shows you might want to be friends still. if you didn't msg at all.. then it would've sent a total different msg to him.
jags2bowl27 Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 didnt you say you werent going to text back if he texted u merry xmas?
Author livelife Posted December 26, 2012 Author Posted December 26, 2012 I did, but my mom told me she thought I should just simply reply back to that. Well now he has texted me 2 more times after the twice after I replied, and I'm still not responding. I don't think replying saying merry christmas is telling him I want to be friends when I told him flat out we werent going to be friends. Sorry I replied earlier to his merry christmas. A slip up I guess, my mom made me feel bad haha.
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