Sox Man Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 So I've been on a couple of dates with some never married, some divorced ladies. One in particular, I'm interested in. Funny thing is I met her through some friends, rather than the online dating sites I've joined. She's divorced, and her story is, her and her ex just weren't right for each other. So, a friend comes to me the other day, and shows me her ex's Facebook page. His profile is full of their wedding pictures, even though they've been apart for over a year. However, she doesn't have a single pic with her ex on her profile. This makes me a little weary that he still loved her, and that she left him, or was the problem. Would this make anybody else a little nervous, or am I reading too much into this?
EasyHeart Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 Whenever someone asks "Am I reading too much into this?", the answer is always "YES!!!" 2
iris219 Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 I'd be more nervous if she had the wedding pics up on her FB. Why would it be a problem if she left him? Someone has to initiate the breakup, as breakups are rarely entirely mutual. 1
CarrieT Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 I'd be more nervous if she had the wedding pics up on her FB. Why would it be a problem if she left him? Someone has to initiate the breakup, as breakups are rarely entirely mutual. Here is the problem = you are reading people's thoughts and intentions based on PICTURES ON A SOCIAL NETWORK SITE!!! Do you realize how whacked that is? You can't know anything about what their marital problems were or why the break-up happened. Everybody uses FB for different reasons and to psychologically analyze a person based on the photos they post shows immense short-sightedness on your behalf. I have 2,000 friends on FB and do you know what is in my photo albums? Food. That's about it - just the meals I've been eating; no relationship stuff, no trips I've taken, no family, no books I'm reading... What would you read into my psyche based on that? Don't project your own fears and thoughts onto someone else based on something so shallow and meaningless and Facebook!
Yookie Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 It could be that he hasn't updated his page for a while.
runningfar Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 It has more to do with how people keep their Facebook than their relationship demise. Trust me, my ex has our wedding photos all over the place and it was his decision. It could be how you said, but you would have to ask. Even if she left him, and she said they are different people, it could be that his difference was totally unacceptable behavior and she would not want to trash talk anyone who was an important part of her life. I would suggest getting to know this women herself and making the decision on that.
CptSaveAho Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 (edited) So I've been on a couple of dates with some never married, some divorced ladies. One in particular, I'm interested in. Funny thing is I met her through some friends, rather than the online dating sites I've joined. She's divorced, and her story is, her and her ex just weren't right for each other. So, a friend comes to me the other day, and shows me her ex's Facebook page. His profile is full of their wedding pictures, even though they've been apart for over a year. However, she doesn't have a single pic with her ex on her profile. This makes me a little weary that he still loved her, and that she left him, or was the problem. Would this make anybody else a little nervous, or am I reading too much into this? That line "We weren't right for each other" is a fact that she just left him, you don't need facebook to see that If you're nervous, walk away... common sense is so rare its considered a super power these days. Use yours... I personally wouldn't date somebody that used that line... I wouldnt trust her character judgement in a relationship if she's willing to just walk away from a marriage with that vague excuse Edited December 23, 2012 by CptSaveAho
bobsmith76 Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 I would steer clear of anyone who has divorced. According to this website 47% of first marriages end in divorce, whereas 64% of second marriages end in divorced. Information on Divorce Rate Statistics
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