napy666 Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 Friday morning around 1AM I received a message from this guy on 1 of the dating sites I'm on. We talked briefly then went to sleep, he ended up calling me around 2:30AM leaving me a voicemail and then that Friday evening we talked on the phone 3 hours and today we talked a bit as well. But once the evening hours hit, 5PM he texted me telling me how he hated peopled and was clearly upset about something I asked him why he was upset but he didn't tell me, at this same time I was laying in bed and had fallen asleep taking a small nap. I awoken a few hours later to find several text messages him telling me that he didn't know what to do, and thought I didn't want to talk to him. I had told him to relax and that I had just taken a nap. I told him this around 8PM then noticed him signing on and off on the dating site. So I don't know what his problem was but he said he liked me a lot and now I think I just got played with but who knows MAYBE he will talk to me tomorrow. But it sure is hurting me how he's signing onto the dating site when he said he liked me.
SureYeahWhyNot Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 Friday morning around 1AM I received a message from this guy on 1 of the dating sites I'm on. We talked briefly then went to sleep, he ended up calling me around 2:30AM leaving me a voicemail and then that Friday evening we talked on the phone 3 hours and today we talked a bit as well. But once the evening hours hit, 5PM he texted me telling me how he hated peopled and was clearly upset about something I asked him why he was upset but he didn't tell me, at this same time I was laying in bed and had fallen asleep taking a small nap. I awoken a few hours later to find several text messages him telling me that he didn't know what to do, and thought I didn't want to talk to him. I had told him to relax and that I had just taken a nap. I told him this around 8PM then noticed him signing on and off on the dating site. So I don't know what his problem was but he said he liked me a lot and now I think I just got played with but who knows MAYBE he will talk to me tomorrow. But it sure is hurting me how he's signing onto the dating site when he said he liked me. There are so many things wrong with this post...where do I begin? First of all, you've never met before, correct? I'll assume that's so because you said you met him on a dating website and then jumped to him calling you. So you gave him your number without meeting him or even talking to him for more than a couple days...bad idea. Second, what is this stranger doing venting to you about his problems when you barely know each other? I would be a little put off by that. Third, he won't tell you what the problem is, but when you don't reply for a couple hours he freaks out and starts getting worried about you not wanting to talk to him? He already sounds clingy and insecure and you never even met the guy yet. Big red flag right there. Fourth, why would you feel "played" when you only talked to the guy and never met him in person, even if he does just stop talking to you altogether? Who cares? Nothing online is worth taking too seriously. This ties in with your feelings about him signing in on the dating website. Wait, wouldn't you have to be on there too to know that? So why are you getting upset at him for doing it when you're doing it yourself? And why do you care if he does? You're both single, you've never even met each other. You have absolutely no obligations to each other, so who gives a **** if he's still looking around? Why don't you continue looking around yourself? You're not exclusive right now. Bottom line, this guy sounds like a total loser, and you're taking this too seriously. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 Until you meet, nothing that happens online should be taken seriously at all. Just click on the next profile who cares? 1
Author napy666 Posted December 23, 2012 Author Posted December 23, 2012 Well I texted him around noon and no word from him yet so I don't know just gota wait and see what happens.
Keenly Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 Well I texted him around noon and no word from him yet so I don't know just gota wait and see what happens. Stop, just stop. Delete the number, start over. 1
Author napy666 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 He did reply to my text and we talked on the phone for a bit today. It turns out he was upset because someone pissed him off yesturday and then he thought I didn't want to talk to him anymore which was not the case. So everything is now ok between us.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Oh my god. Everything is OK between you and complete stranger?
TheZebra Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 If you're detailing out the times he said or didn't say anything and are THAT worried about what a virtual stranger is doing... girl you need a hobby.
sid3 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Is this for real???? I hope so. Another heart warming love story just in time for the holidays:laugh:
snowflakes88 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 What if he logs onto the dating site again?
sid3 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 What if he logs onto the dating site again? Haha! One can only hope!!!!
TaraMaiden Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 He did reply to my text and we talked on the phone for a bit today. It turns out he was upset because someone pissed him off yesturday and then he thought I didn't want to talk to him anymore which was not the case. So everything is now ok between us. Yeah. Until your next obviously phukkedup episode.... Who's hogging the popcorn?
VdangerV Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 You guys aren't dating, never met, but you are already pissed that he is still active on a dating site. (you are active on it to because you wouldn't know if he was logging in and out if you weren't doing the same) Women Logic.
Divasu Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Here's what's up... You should not become invested in someone you never met. You should not become invested through electronic communication. You should not place unrealistic expectations on a complete stranger. You should not 'stalk' a stranger's online activities. You should indicate interest in going out on a 'date'. You should meet in person. You should spend time together in person getting to know one another. 'Electronic communication' does not make a relationship, period.
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