Mr.White Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 I was just wondering if you guys are broken up would you send them a message or call them wishing them happy holidays? (If so would you message or call them?) Would you message/call them back if they contacted you first?
movingon12 Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 Absolutely not, under any circumstances. 1
sadpanda87 Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 i would say depends. if it was a mutual reasonable break up on good terms, yes a simple greeting would be appropriate. however in cases like my own where it was a disastrous end with betrayal etc involved, not a chance in the seven hells. 3
frederickkk Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 stupid.fool. you definitely didnt wreck things. you just went the way you did, like i did. we're all a long time dead, so don't worry about it.
mgce Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 God no. A year ago I never thought it'd get so bad that the idea of even swapping holiday greetings would be out of the question. But it did and it is. God no. Are you wondering if you should yourself? 2
datdude Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 Only in response. My heart is broken, but I'll remain true to who I am. I know that no matter what, I handled the situation with integrity. No way would I go out of my way though. Something short and bland, maybe emphasizing their decision: "hope it's everything you wanted. Take care." And move on with my day. 1
WhatsTheAnswer Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 I was just wondering if you guys are broken up would you send them a message or call them wishing them happy holidays? (If so would you message or call them?) Would you message/call them back if they contacted you first? Yes I would
Sugarkane Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Because they ended it with lying and cheating, hell no. 3
Renard99 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 (edited) I would reply but only to be polite. I like to consider myself a polite and respectful person and it would be very out of character of me to just ignore someone. However, like others have said, I would simply be short, to the point and somewhat bland. She did break my heart after all. I would merely do the minimum to be polite and not invite further conversation. But that's me! I recommend doing what you feel's right in that kind of situation, taking into account how it will effect you both during and after replying. Edited December 24, 2012 by Renard99 1
yuppup Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 No way in hell. Tomorrow would have been our anniversary. Stupid for starting a relationship on Christmas. LOL. But no. She won't be hearing from me and I'll likely not be hearing from her either.
portableversion Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 on thanksgiving day my ex texted me and wanted to talk with me on the phone. I thought it was odd because she was in alaska and was with him but obviously not at that moment. I took the call but i dont know it definitely left me with mixed feelings. I aint gonna call. this divorce has destroyed the holidays for me its gonna take a long time to refigure them into something new and positive.
fucpcg Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Yes I would, with any and all ex's of mine. It doesn't make any sense to me to have a bitter relationship with someone I once cared enough for to date her in the first place. 1
Sokar23 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 No way would I either message her or reply to a message from her, first of all she nearly destroyed me secondly the way I am if a person does something like that to me I am not lowering myself to be polite, not that she would contact me anyway but if she did a swift tap of the delete button would do the job nicely
big bear Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Ideal response "Bitch pls. keep them for your new man." Jokes apart, delete it and do not think twice. Don't get suckered into it.
heartshapedrocks Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 I received a Christmas Card from my ex (We are 4 months post BU ending a 4.5 yr relationship & she told me she already is seeing someone else). Curiousity got the best of me to open it, yeah I know, I just had to do it me bad. Anyway around the saying in the card she drew a heart in red magic marker & wrote some bs another heart. I burned it so yeah no text from me what a mind **ck
GLDheart Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 ugh.... I'd rather just not have to deal with it. But... Maybe once my feelings are finally completely dead, yeah. Then, I would be fine with it.
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